Aye "Dummie". Excuse Me!

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Well yesterday at work this LPN which by the way isnt my regular charge nurse (I got a good charge nurse she has been an RN for 30years and very respectful) any who, decided that she wanted to give me a "nickname"! All that day she was calling me something but

I couldnt catch on to what she was calling me, so after supper time after I have gotten everyone in bed she says "Aye Dummie you can go on supper break".....? Excuse ME!:confused:

I go what you just call me, she says "Dummie" and I told her in calm and respectfully way "That’s not my name, my name is D*******", and she response well I give everyone a nickname, beside who else you know going to call you "Dummie". And I say "I dont have no nickname and I dont like that nickname, so dont call me that". I told her to call me by my name or D for short. She was llike "Okay".

When I came back from supper , she went to another hall to help another nurse. Thank God cause this woman really had me heated! But anyways she comes back to the hall around 10 30pm to give the next nurse report, so before she leave to go home she says "Dummie did you get everything done":mad:. Allnurses.com I cant explain, how flippin mad that made me. I have never been disrespected like that; I was so upset I called the ADON!

When she talked to the ADON she told her that she didnt call me “dummie", she was calling me "domo". In my point of view this woman suppose to be a nurse and I feel like that was very unprofessional, she isnt my buddy I barely know her, and she only been my charge nurse twice.

By the way Im a CNA and I guess she feel that CNAs are dumb. But if thats how she feel she need to keep that to her d**n self, cause I’m not dumb Im in college( I suppose to graduate Fall 2010 but Im trying to get into a local nursing program) plus I know a lot of smart CNAs.

Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.

Well, whether it was a dummie or a domo you asked her not to call you that and she did it again, but you've got things smoothed with her. I don't think she's likely to use that word around you anymore, either way. Best wishes!

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The only "Domo" I know is a strange toy character from Japan. I guess he's supposed to be an animal because he has brown fur and funny-looking pointed teeth. I don't get it, either.

AZTECA and SangriaSteve-- way to kick somebody when they're down. This person does not need to "defend" herself or prove to any of us that she isn't dumb. She was subject to abuse and humiliated in front of her co-workers. You just can't help yourselves? Maybe a PM would have been a better choice.

Read what I wrote and what SangriaSteve wrote and the way it was written... In no way was I trying to kick her while she's down and I didn't get that from SS.

I felt it necessary to let her know that people will judge you in more ways than you might think. (as you've probably judged me). I took a respectful "older brother" approach and if it were me in her shoes, I would have appreciated the honesty and polite way in which it was brought up.

A PM is an option, however this is a Forum and she had already typed the way she did. I can't possibly be the only one who noticed. I know she's not typing a term paper or anything, but...

Not to mention the fact that you felt it necessary to call me, and SSteve to the table in this thread and chose not to send us a PM.

I am here to help my fellow professionals and will always take a professional approach. Unless I am directly attacked. Which is the advise I gave the OP.

I live by my words.

p.

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Specializes in Gerontology.

I've been known to kid around and say to someone "Hey retard, it's over here" or something similar. I always do it with a laugh and a smile, but undoubtedly someone has been taken aback by this. I don't have the world's greatest social skills, but I'm trying to improve. ;)

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If you are aware of this habit, I suggest you stop it now. There is nothing funny about that statement, even if you say if with a laugh and a smile. I work with a nurse - 10 years ago her 16 year old son was hit in the head with a baseball and he now has an ABI. If you said this to her, she would first rip you the shreads, then report you. And not one other nurse on that unit would treat you with respect ever again.

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Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.
Read what I wrote and what SangriaSteve wrote and the way it was written... In no way was I trying to kick her while she's down and I didn't get that from SS.

I felt it necessary to let her know that people will judge you in more ways than you might think. (as you've probably judged me). I took a respectful "older brother" approach and if it were me in her shoes, I would have appreciated the honesty and polite way in which it was brought up.

A PM is an option, however this is a Forum and she had already typed the way she did. I can't possibly be the only one who noticed. I know she's not typing a term paper or anything, but...

Not to mention the fact that you felt it necessary to call me, and SSteve to the table in this thread and chose not to send us a PM.

I am here to help my fellow professionals and will always take a professional approach. Unless I am directly attacked. Which is the advise I gave the OP.

I live by my words.

p.

You may have been thinking "respectful older brother", you are taking an approach you are familiar with in your current career, and I'm sure you meant well. If you feel it's necessary to critique someone's written language skills in your responses, that's all you will be doing here on allnurses. I will tell you from past experience with others who take upon themselves that endeavor, it's very rarely, if ever, appreciated by the person it is directed toward, and serves as a distraction from the core issue.

I'm sure you aren't the only person who noticed this. However, she came here feeling very low about her experience. Someone might fairly deduce that her self-esteem took a hit. Another criticism, however well-intended, I feel was inappropriate for that time. You can see from her remarks in her later posts how she felt about your advice.

Thanks for your input.

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This is not worth arguing about. I may not have effectively communicated my point in my original post as you and the OP have taken a defensive approach.

Now I'm on my heels as you have taken the "older sibling role".

You and the OP should re read my post and see that I did not critique and was simply stating the obvious. It is MY advise and it's free. It is not required that you take everyone's advise.

You decide.

I'm out.

p.

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Specializes in Cardiac, Adolescent/Child Mental Health.

Since this seems to have turned into a post about grammar and whatnot, I only have one thing to say.

It's "advice", not "advise".

Carry on.

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If you are aware of this habit, I suggest you stop it now. There is nothing funny about that statement, even if you say if with a laugh and a smile. I work with a nurse - 10 years ago her 16 year old son was hit in the head with a baseball and he now has an ABI. If you said this to her, she would first rip you the shreads, then report you. And not one other nurse on that unit would treat you with respect ever again.

When I post a new thread asking for suggestions, feel free to toss me a few.

You paint a rather grim view of the folks you work with. If I said something off color in a joking manner and I was "ripped to shreds, reported, and never respected again by any nurse on the unit" I would assume I was working with a lot of uptight and very unforgiving co-workers.

Sucks that the kid got tagged with a baseball :sniff:

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