Authoritarian HN

[ohbet]

There are different management styles,and I believe one can attract more bees with honey,but the the authoritarian management style of some HNs always rubs me the wrong way,my problem with authority?

This style is not explicitlly rude,but isnt it a disrespectful way to interact? I always find my self defensive,and tempted to be a smart ass,when a HN barks orders at me,"tells" me what to do,is unfriendly,etc. and etc.,after all ,what about the golden rule? But does a HN need to follow the golden rule? even though I do,imperfectly.

Should I just get over it and deal with it? After all the HN is the boss right?,and for whatever reason,has adopted the style that works.

Your responses will help. Peace.

[redshiloh]

You know it's funny, cause I was thinking about this subject on the way in this AM. When I was NM, I was a pushover for the most part and subsequently we had problems. Now the NM is authoritarian, polite though and nice...just no pushover. We are STILL having problems. So the question is, which style is better? I can see the benefits of both styles.

Authoritarian shouldn't be rude though.

[cannoli]

One charge nurse I call, (to myself), Little Hitler. I think it's her personality, or lack of it. Nasty, rude, unsupportive, saps the spirit right out of me. I would call it a hostile work environment. I finally refuse to work on that floor, being agency at this time I can do that, unfortunately as a hospital employee I could not refuse. There are other people on that floor (another charge nurse, PCT, RN's, LPN's) that are just as nasty.

Of course, while I am missing out on work, those people are getting their paycheck every two weeks, and will probably be retiring from there with a pension.

Oh, well.

[sjoe]

1) no matter what you think, say, or do, you are not likely to alter this person's behavior in the direction you would prefer

2) she is giving you a good lesson in behaviors and approaches NOT to use when YOU are in charge

3) meanwhile "the HN is the boss right?" Right.

As I have posted numerous times, one of the biggest problems in healthcare is the simple fact that people are promoted to supervisory and managerial positions without adequate, or any, training (except in using a stack of new forms and computer screens). Small wonder they do so poorly at motivating others (except motivating them to leave).

[Nurse89]

yes, it's disrespectful

no, don't just get over it and deal with it

voice your concerns to her supervisor

apparently her "style" isn't working with you

you seem like a good person who only wants a good working environment and to be respected..these are not wishes, they are your rights...don't put up with it

[live4today, RN]

I totally agree with Nurse89. Undealt with conflict only grows larger and more conflicting, so it is not good to sweep it under the rug. You're an adult...your NM is an adult. Meet one another on those terms. Respect must come both ways. You don't have to like one another, but respect should be present in every working environment in order for the working environment to run smoothly for all concerned. :)