ashamed today

[susiegirl]

Hi, this is my first post, but I needed to express my feelings about this somewhere.

The reason I'm posting is because I'm ashamed of the behavior of fellow nurses. I work at a very large hospital and I know, or know of, so many RN's that had or are having affairs with married MD's. It's sickening to me. Some of these women just don't care that they are destroying a family as long as they get to snag a rich MD. Of course, the MD's are at fault too, but the things these women do to get their attention are shameful. One woman in my department would constantly touch one of the MD's (pretty soon after she started working there), sit next to him and put her feet on his lap or even his shoulder, gave him a wedgie, etc. I always saw her initiating the inappropriate behavior. They ended up having an affair. This is just one example. A lot of nurses come to work-related events, like dinner after a C.E. lecture, dressed in super low-cut, tight outfits, etc. They talk about sex and inappropriate stuff with the MD's. They behave in a way that makes it obvious that they are willing to throw themselves at them any time they want. It's not just a few, it's a lot of them, and that's only the ones I know. I'm not an envious person, and I am very attractive, so this is not jealousy on my part. But I have seen the devastation that affairs cause in my own family, and I would never ever behave in a way that may end up breaking up a marriage. I guess I could consider filing a sexual harrasment claim, but I don't thing that would change a thing. I hate that people may assume I'm like that too just because they see so many acting this way.

[firstyearstudent]

Do you work at General Hospital?

[MarySunshine]

I have never seen this behavior either. I don't think it's the norm for a hospital unit (thank goodness). I hear a lot of gossip about other things, though. That's the norm for EVERYWHERE.

[kukukajoo, LPN]

I honestly belileve that some workplaces actually encourage this behavior more than others!!! Like it is part of the company itself or something.

I worked at a large company for a few years and saw so much I could have written a steamy novel about the place! It was way over the top and more so blatant and the company let it continue.

It was kind of ironic that the HR person giving the sexual harrassment training had slept with half the men there and even once asked at a party who was taking her home since hubby (who worked for company also) was out of town!!

[VivaLasViejas, ASN, RN]

with all due respect, and despite what you say, it is a psychological principle that what we often loathe and detest we spot immediately as what we feel are serious character flaws in others. then, we give ourselves away emotionally when we are the only ones protesting so vehemently about them. this is all about behavior. unless these behaviors are forbidden in a facility policy manual somewhere, shame and inappropriateness have no place of importance except in your own beliefs. they are then your problems that you need to keep under your control. the way i see it your choices are (1) do nothing and go about your job, or (2) quit and find work at another place if this situation is too much for you to tolerate. if you decide to involve yourself in some way, be prepared for an ugly fight because you are messing with people's freedom to act as they wish. my philosophy when i am a staff nurse: go to work, do my job and keep my mouth shut about the shenanigans i might see my co-workers engaged in unless it affects patient safety. this is america. we are free. this is the price of freedom.

:yeahthat:

[Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN]

No one should have to go to work and feel uneasy and uncomfortable because their co-workers can't keep their hands (and the raunch talk) to themselves.