Okay, today (on mother's day), having lunch with my mother resulted in an argument. She seems APPALLED that the thought of wiping someone else's butt does not upset me in the slightest. She seems to think that "ass-wiping" is only for lowly, uneducated CNAs and thank GOD that once I'm a nurse, I won't have to do gross things like that anymore (not to mention that I'm hoping to work as a CNA until I get my RN, so that kind of feels like she thinks I'm a "nothing" until i get my degree). My argument was that being a nurse is not about being able to pawn off the "gross" things on nurse aides; it is about whole patient care. Yes, nurses do not wipe butts as much as CNAs do (because they are busy doing a lot of other important things that other members of interdisciplinary health teams can't do), but I'm under the impression that whatever is best for the patient goes . So if that means rolling up my sleeves and wipin' up some poo to give a sick person some dignity and prevent skin breakdown, I will NEVER be above the task. I realize that once I'm a nurse I may have more emergent issues that force me to ask a nurse aide to step in for jobs like that, but unless something is more pressing I think it is not appropriate for a nurse to think that they are "above" doing the work of a nurse aide. What is this situation like in the field? Are there nurses who really think that they are too good to do an occasional diaper change? And if so, are they frowned upon or do people let it slide or call them out on their behavior? Am I right to think my mom is being ridiculous and snooty to think that a nurse (or anybody for that matter) should not have to do "gross things" like clean up poo? I told her that she is welcome to tell me about music ANY time (she's a pianist/organist) but that when it comes to health care, she should be asking questions, not shoving her opinions down people's throats.