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I wrote this letter to a Triage nurse. I don't know her name as she did not introduce herself to me. I haven't decided what I am going to do with it...but I figured I would post it here to start. It's an interesting experience being on the other side of the gurney for a change.
Let me know what you think.
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I write this letter to the ER triage nurse who was on duty May 11, 2011 at a local hospital.
On that day I was taken to the ER by ambulance. I had experienced sudden neurological symptoms, was having trouble standing and walking and was very frightened even though I was trying very hard to stay calm. Anyone who's been in that situation knows how awful it is and how your mind races thinking up the worst case scenarios. I had chosen your hospital because I had been there in the past and know it to be an excellent hospital.
When you called me in (the ambulance attendants had to take a number and wait to be called) you sat down in front of your computer and started to take the report from one of the ambulance attendants. You barely looked away from your computer screen, and from my perspective didn't make eye contact with the ambulance attendant. You did not look at me or acknowledge me.
When you were done, I asked you if it was possible for me to go to the bathroom. You waved past the triage room towards the waiting room and said, "There's a bathroom over there, you can walk there."
My friend, who had accompanied me, responded, "But she's having trouble walking."
You responded, "That's not my problem. I can't go to the bathroom for her. There are wheelchairs all over the place."
The ambulance attendants helped me into a wheelchair and my friend took me to the bathroom.
You didn't know this at the time, but I will tell you this now....I am a Registered Nurse and have been for 26 years. I know what it is to be overwhelmed, overworked, undervalued, underpaid and frustrated. I know what it is to be stressed and I know how it feels to burn out. I've been there, done that and have the t-shirt so to speak.
I truly understand that your job can be difficult at best, But let me ask you something....how is all that my fault?
What did I, as your patient, do to deserve to be treated so rudely? Do you think I wanted to be there strapped to that ambulance gurney? Do you think I timed having my bladder being so full it was painful right for that moment? How much would it have cost you to turn to me and actually look at me? A nursing assessment consists of at the very least looking at your patient and not just relying on the report of the ambulance attendants. How difficult would it have been to simply tell me that you would get me a wheelchair once you were done? (There was one right next to my gurney) How difficult would it have been to crack a little smile? I wasn't asking anything complicated, all I wanted was to pee.
Remember, I am one of you. I too have been on your side of the bed and I too have felt the sting of the profession we chose. So I think it is safe for me to say, with some authority borne from experience that there is never an excuse for a nurse to treat his or her patient the way you treated me.
I'm writing this to put a voice to this problem. I know I'm not the only patient who's had to go through this or worse. Sadly, this kind of behaviour has become rampant. I see examples of that everywhere. Our current health care system with all its problems has put our profession is in crisis. The lack of funding, lack of resources and lack of staffing means that nurses are shouldering a huge burden. I get that! But our patients are in crisis as well and we are the professionals who are caring for them. That's why we are nurses, to care for people. Caring means kindness, not rudeness.
My friend, who is not a nurse, was aghast. She later told me that while we were in the triage room she witnessed another nurse yelling at a very elderly woman and dragging her down the hall by the hand. My friend was going to say something but was told by the ambulance attendant not to say anything because the nurse would "make a spectacle of her."
That is a sad statement considering we are talking about a profession known for caring. Have some of us really forgotten who and what we are and why we are doing what we do? Maybe we should all spend some time on "the other side of the gurney" for a change.
I do have to add one thing however, the ambulance attendants were phenomenal. They were caring, gentle, patient and knowledgeable...literally everything a health care professional should be and more.
I feel so bad reading this. It made me cry. It is time to retire if you are treating patients this way!!!!
As in most cases, we only have one side of the story! Just last week I had a patient's spouse yell frantically for me (I work in critical care) my pt on bipap was having increasing difficulty breathing. So as I am checking him out and the bipap, little sweet lady is yelling and fussing and literally tripping me every step I take. I asked politely for her to give me a minute (and let the patient answer my assessment questions, not her lol) Long story short, as I was listening to his lungs she popped his bipap off of him to give him some ensure, and begins to scold me that he has not drank his ensure today and that is what is wrong with him!!! Sure enough, that was her formal complaint (nevermind I had been there promptly at every beck and call and really gave him the royal treatment that my time actually allowed that day, and there I went feeling accomplished :/) I think that the pt and I were actually just suffering from an anxiety attack induced by her!
And while in orientation, 1 little pt of mine had 2 out 3 daughter's that were nurses constantly at bedside. They were so thoughful that they pushed her PCA button for her every 8 minutes while she was asleep. You should have seen how shocked they were when I came in to do my assessment and granny wouldn't wake up. That was my fault too (in their minds) Thank god for Narcan!
Anyway, OP I am very sorry for your bad experience. But I also think that we are crucifying another person on here without her being able to defend herself.
to all you er triage nurses that defended this nurse's behavior, i think you need to change jobs because your are justifying poor behavior.
justifying acrimony is below the status quo and you are burned out.
i am an rn and have been a patient in the er and was never ever treated so poorly.
to all you er triage nurses that defended this nurse's behavior, i think you need to change jobs because your are justifying poor behavior.
justifying acrimony is below the status quo and you are burned out.
i am an rn and have been a patient in the er and was never ever treated so poorly.
don't read the "things you'd love to tell patients and get away with it" thread. your head will probably explode.
As in most cases, we only have one side of the story! Just last week I had a patient's spouse yell frantically for me (I work in critical care) my pt on bipap was having increasing difficulty breathing. So as I am checking him out and the bipap, little sweet lady is yelling and fussing and literally tripping me every step I take. I asked politely for her to give me a minute (and let the patient answer my assessment questions, not her lol) Long story short, as I was listening to his lungs she popped his bipap off of him to give him some ensure, and begins to scold me that he has not drank his ensure today and that is what is wrong with him!!! Sure enough, that was her formal complaint (nevermind I had been there promptly at every beck and call and really gave him the royal treatment that my time actually allowed that day, and there I went feeling accomplished :/) I think that the pt and I were actually just suffering from an anxiety attack induced by her!![]()
And while in orientation, 1 little pt of mine had 2 out 3 daughter's that were nurses constantly at bedside. They were so thoughful that they pushed her PCA button for her every 8 minutes while she was asleep. You should have seen how shocked they were when I came in to do my assessment and granny wouldn't wake up. That was my fault too (in their minds) Thank god for Narcan!
Anyway, OP I am very sorry for your bad experience. But I also think that we are crucifying another person on here without her being able to defend herself.
How did this story become about you? We all could post personal gripes and complaints but they have no relevancy or bearing upon this woman's issue. I was an emergency room nurse for years in 2 very busy understaffed NYC emergency rooms and can say that there is no excuse for treating a scared suffering patient like that.
I keep seeing all of these posts about "as a nurse" and "you already know"; SO WHAT - the only reason she is able to put a letter like this together is because of the knowledge she has, that DOES NOT mean that she was in any position @ the time to say anything, get her thoughts together and make a real a*s-kicking of a speech. There in is the problem: many patients don't know that they deserve the kindness and caring nurse and all times, so in some ways situations in which health care professionals are treated this way, gives US the ability to fix something that is wrong with US, within our own system. Ultimately it is your decision what to do with the letter, but consider the next patient who doesn't know how a nurse should act...can you help them, whoever they may be have a more positive experience on one of the worst days of their life?
How did this story become about you? We all could post personal gripes and complaints but they have no relevancy or bearing upon this woman's issue. I was an emergency room nurse for years in 2 very busy understaffed NYC emergency rooms and can say that there is no excuse for treating a scared suffering patient like that.
Sorry! I was just pointing out how two different people in the same scene see things very differently. There are 3 sides to every story and I am just not willing to jump on a blind bandwagon. Of course if this is true, it is terrible and that nurse has no place in the profession. I guess one could say our opinons or judgements have no relevancy or bearing upon this issue either and if she truely was treated that way and is a nurse, she wouldn't have to ask us whether to send the letter or not.
"To the OP: Why didn't you voice your outrage at the time of the offense? You were in a unique position as a nurse and as a patient to reprimand those slobs who "cared" for you."
As someone who has been in that very position, when someone is exhausted, in pain, and confused, your question shows a lack of understanding.
I was in the ED, what I thought of as "my ED" (I'd worked there as an NA) and was in pain, IV'ed and treated inappropriately and brusquely, and when a stabilization case came in, suddenly my instructions to go home were being given by someone who didn't know my case, and couldn't tell me why they didn't match (even to the prescriptions) what I'd been told by the resident. I was informed that I certainly could wait the couple hours till the emergent case was over and ask, but I was exhausted and just wanted to go home.
Complaining "at the time" takes more energy and coherence than a seriously ill patient is likely to have.
What about the nurse's co-workers? What about the times you have given sub-standard care, and you know it? Did anyone say a word?
I saw what you saw whenever I worked in an ED and it was disgusting. However, when I was a patient in another ED, I had some great nurses. Unfortunately, I guess it's where you go and on what day. I just have one issue, but as a former EMT, I'd rather be called "EMS personnel" instead of ambulance worker. At this point, I am an LPN and wonder every day if I should pursue my RN. I don't feel too much burn out in my present position but wonder if, with more responsibility, there will be more burn out?
TheQueenBee
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SEND IT!!!! I would make sure human resources has a copy in her folder, her managers have a copy as well has administration. People like her do not deserve to be nurses. Those of us who have worked way to hard to become a nurse, and no matter what love our jobs are embarrassed. Beyond embarrassed I am disguted! My heart hurts for you, you and everyone else in her path do not deserve to be treated that way. By not sending the letter you are doing a great injustice to yourself and all of the unfortunate people who come across her path.