Am I overeacting?

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A colleague whom I have had several problems with in the past volunteer to assist on a project. We spoke in detail about the logo this if the project, role out, publicity, implementation, staff involvement and most I all administration permission.

A meeting was set up to discuss the plans with the director of development on Oct 9th to ensure our project was in alignment with hospital compliance. My colleague and another nurse decided to place flyers all over the unit with information and details about the project while neglecting to communicate with me before the confirmed meeting.

I requested an explanation on why I was not told about the flyers even though there was a collective decision previously to not reveal any information before we had permission to share with the rest of staff. Needless to say I was at work when the flyers were posted and neither colleague bothered to let me know.

I let my manager know who informed me that the girls were now scared of me because I confronted them.

I worked tirelessly on a written proposal for presentation only to be told by one of them the meeting was cancelled with the director of development. Ten minutes before I called the directors office to find out if the meeting was indeed cancelled. I was informed by her assistant that the meeting was never cancelled and will be expecting me. In a rush I had someone cover my patients and conducted the 20 minute presentation.

Unfortunately I was informed a few days later that the hospital was not interested in working with us on the project due to a full roster of events this fall

I was called into my manager's office she stated saying she was sorry that the project was cancelled but was now I have been given the reputation a bully and also informed it would best to save face and never discuss the matter again.

The colleague I have the issue with is also friends with on face book with manager.

Is requesting an explanation equate to bullying? I'm devastated but the label.

Thoughts? Comments? Suggestions?

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Pardon my typos

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if it is as you say, I think you were set up. polish your resume.

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I just finished a MSN specializing in leadership and management. My plans were to continue to build on my fours years of practice as a staff nurse before moving on. My hopes were to use what I learned in school to help motivate my peers. Now if I move I'll have to answer, why did you leave? And what have you done since you left school?

Thank you for your insight.

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Specializes in Critical Care, Education.

Classic example of Poor Leadership. The manager should have been on top of all of this... it was her/his responsibility not only to support the team, but also to provide guidance and ensure that all phases functioned as they were supposed to. Major fail.

Maybe the manager is intimidated & deliberately undermining OP. You always learn more from failures than from successes - I'm sure OP learned a lot from this one.

OTOH, over the (many) years of my nursing career, I have lost count of the 'salmon projects' I have been involved with. Those are the ones where you give it your all.... struggling madly to make it to the finish line.... only to have the project 'die' at the end. Not fun, but never really unexpected.

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I just finished a MSN specializing in leadership and management. My plans were to continue to build on my fours years of practice as a staff nurse before moving on. My hopes were to use what I learned in school to help motivate my peers. Now if I move I'll have to answer, why did you leave? And what have you done since you left school?

Thank you for your insight.

Well, actually, that's kind of a lucky break for you -- "just finished an MSN specializing in (fill in the blank)" is a pretty standard time for people to look for a new job, one that will offer you better opportunities to use your new degree. Potential employers will be used to seeing/hearing that.

What a crummy situation! Best wishes!

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Specializes in ER.

Just a thought, and it may not apply to you, but sometimes people feel like improvements are pushed on them. If your manager felt that way, it may be the source of your troubles.

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@Canoehead. I completely understand your point, but as you mentioned I am not pushing any changes. I just feel useless at the moment even though I graduated from school it's been hard finding ways to support my manager.

Thanks for your comments.

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