Advice Please

[kn--xx]

Im new so I don't know if im in the right Forums... but here goes :uhoh21:

Im in grade 13 (staying a year back in highschool)... and all of grade 9,10,11,12 I took a mix of university/ college level sciences (bio, chem, phy) and math. I never really did good in them, I failed allot of them but then eventually passed at summer school. Thing was I was forced to take those courses by my dad who's a doctor. So in my 13th year I didn't bother to retake them... and went on to other courses (family studies, history.. arts etc.) I think its the motivation that kept my from doing good in those courses.. and the lack of support I got from my own father. (Hes just absent minded/ hard headed:banghead:)

Anyways.. I STILL don't know where I want to go with my life. Ive thought about teaching, social work, early childhood.. but in reality i find that i have a hard time helping myself.. so i just feel like im in no position to help others mentally... and just thinking about it i find that i have a short interest in thoes types of careers... (its like one day i want to be a social worker.. then the next day a teacher.. then the next day a psychologist)

My side of the family are all health care related or education related.. (doctor or teacher) and I really have a passion to become a nurse.. to work in a hospital sorta like "follow in the footsteps of my father" not quite but you get what im saying? My brothers in his 3rd year doing well.. hes getting his BSC.. after that he might go to med school (i doubt it) or pharmacy school (thats what he wants)... And here I am with a passion of become a nurse but my grades aren't that high in sciences.. and I ABSOLUTELY HATE MATH.. I don't know if its because I can't simply do it or im lacking motivation or im just plain, straight out lazy...

I really don't want to stay another year back in highschool to retake bio chem and math... espically at home i find that i lack motivation and support so i want to get out of my home asap... so i was thinking i could take Pre-health science course in college and try to get in for admission to a 4 year nursing program. It's whats next that scares me...:uhoh21: some of the courses in the 4 year nursing programme.. like microbio.. pharmacology.. those are the courses my brothers taking in university towards his BSN.. and he has struggles thought studying some of those courses but has gotten high 60's high 70's low 80's in them.. thing is me and my brother arnt at the same level or smartness.. hes wayyy smarter then me and i guess im just a slow learner... :zzzzzI don't know if im going to be able to get through the 4 year programe but its sorta my passion to become a nurse..

My question is should i move on to another career or should i attempt it? seeing how im already 2 years behind in grade school... ( i failed grade 2 when we moved to ontario becasue i missed alot of school and i am a slow learner and im staying a year back in highschool).. I feel that i dont have enough passion/ motivation to get thought the nursing programe so should i wait till i feel like im ready 100% and attempt another career in the meantime or should i go head on and try it? ugh.

[AirforceRN, RN]

Nursing school will be there when you are ready for it, don't worry.

There is no shame in grade 13...many students are still sticking around for it because they just aren't ready for uni/college. Take your time, find a job, get your self esteem up and your brain ready for four years of fun and then go for it.

[kafluknik]

Hi,

It looks like you are in Ontario. IF you are planning to take the Prep Health course at Algonquin College, that is an excellent program. The knowledge and support you get is awesome.

High school is tough. The one thing I tell my kids is "Do what you need to do, so you can do what you WANT to do!" Don't worry about whether you are going to be good at it or not. The fact that you mentioned that you feel passionate about it is reason enough. Just do it and stick with it. Do not quit!

It is not how smart one is upon entering the program that matters...it is the attitude that one takes INTO the program that matters.

Best of luck to you and God bless.

[nerdtonurse?, BSN, RN]

Do yourself a favor, and take the time to figure out what YOU want to do. I can't tell you how many folks I know who were shoved into a career by a well meaning parent (or felt they should be a plumber, or a doctor, or a lawyer, or whatever because it's sorta the family business) and who are now miserable. Not sure where you're physically at, but is something like the Peace Corp an option? Or a couple of humanitarian trips with "Outward Bound?" If you aren't doing good in sciences now, maybe you'll do better in a couple of years. I've been in school for a BA, an MS, an LPN license, and now an ADN, and the older I've gotten, the better my grades have gotten...

[TakeTwoAspirin, MSN, RN, APRN]

I will tell you what I tell everyone else who is "on the fence" - go volunteer at a hospital and find out what it is REALLY like. If you are a transporter or something you will get to go into a lot of departments and see for yourself who does what. There are many jobs you could do in a hospital with shorter training and less emphasis on math and science. Training for one of these allied health jobs will give you some security (and hopefully get your parents off your back a little) while you take your time finding out what you really want to do with your life.

[kharing]

I will tell you what I tell everyone else who is "on the fence" - go volunteer at a hospital and find out what it is REALLY like. If you are a transporter or something you will get to go into a lot of departments and see for yourself who does what. There are many jobs you could do in a hospital with shorter training and less emphasis on math and science. Training for one of these allied health jobs will give you some security (and hopefully get your parents off your back a little) while you take your time finding out what you really want to do with your life.

Great advice!

[Roberta88]

Maybe you'll do better at sciences in a few years. In high school, I absolutely hated science and math. I couldn't stand it. My mom loves anything science and tried to get me interested in it but I actually remember telling her that "there is no good reason that I should ever have to know about chemistry! Who cares?!!?!?" Well, not too many years later, here I am, a pre-nursing student in love with my biochemistry class. I got all D's in my science classes in high school and now I'm getting all A's in them. These past few years made an extreme difference on my interests. So give yourself some time and make sure it's what you want to do. If you decide your heart is set on it, then maybe take the classes slowly so that you do not get too overwhelmed by them. Good luck!

[kn--xx]

Thanks guys!.. I kind of feel better now. Its not so much my dads forcing me anymore, at least. But Like you guys have been saying my he quit forcing those subjects on me because he knows I don't have the mentality yet... he says that maybe one day when I grow up and have that maturity level its gunna happen someday just not today..

[BlueBug]

Ease up on yourself. I am 31 and graduated in May with my BSN... and I still wonder what I want to do with my life sometimes. Give yourself time. Nothing says you have to pick now and carve it in stone.

Parents can be a pain sometimes, my daughters will tell you that I am a pain often.:wink2: They are both smart, one has been tested and has an incredible IQ, and I have to balance pushing her with letting her be a goofy kid. Your dad prolly sees potential and just doesn't want you waste it. Parents sometimes are not good at telling kids that they are proud of them, (some parents are also just plain dysfunctional.)

Those classes sound way harder than what I took in highschool. College was awesome compared to highschool. Give yourself a break and some time. Eventually you will figure out what you want to do, or you won't, but you eill have an interesting time plugging through life. Go for higher education, and if you still find Nursing interesting, go for it. You don't have to be a perfect student, just a hard working one.

~BlueBug