I just got back from a rough night at work and I'm kind of upset about it. I work someplace that I love. I work with wonderful patients, and some fantastic nurses. The upside is that since finishing school, I have learned so much (honestly). The downside is the bullying that seems to go on with new people. I feel like I need to be on guard all the time. I wonder if this is a right of passage that some of you have dealt with.
Specializes in LTC, Wounds, Med/Surg, Tele, Triage.
I experienced a small amount of this type of behavior (literally one or two nurses) as a new grad. I learned quickly to pick my battles. If the behavior is not affecting my patients or ability to do my work, I let it roll off! I have more important things to worry about than making friends. If I need advice or assistance I ask someone on the floor who isn't petty.
What's really funny, is the same people that are making your job difficult now, will be the same ones running to you for help once you learn the ropes. We recently transitioned to an electronic medical record (about 1 month after I started) and a particular nurse that used to give me a hard time is always running to me when she deletes her patient list, documents in the wrong charts, and just doesn't know what she's doing half the time.
Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.
Generally, bullies will continue their behaviour beyond the rite of passage. If it's a thing where they give you the cold shoulder, but not act in the offense as it were, they may warm up to you with time. If they are trying to goad you and put you down, you have to get in their face. I hate hate hate confrontation, but it's the only thing that will work in the long run. Better to be assertive now, then be pushed to the breaking point and freak out, lose it, go all haywire on them. That is the ultimate entertainment for these insecure people.
You seem like a great person to work with, so you should continue to nurture those positive relationships. I had such a "supervisor" and put up with her cr-p for months. Once it did hit the fan, I found so many people around me smiling, giving me the thumbs up, etc. Wish I'd known it sooner, but normal people simply do not get their yucks from abusing others, and they don't like to see it happen to anyone else, either. Meanwhile, congrats on your job and how much you enjoy it!! :)
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mudd68
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I experienced a small amount of this type of behavior (literally one or two nurses) as a new grad. I learned quickly to pick my battles. If the behavior is not affecting my patients or ability to do my work, I let it roll off! I have more important things to worry about than making friends. If I need advice or assistance I ask someone on the floor who isn't petty.
What's really funny, is the same people that are making your job difficult now, will be the same ones running to you for help once you learn the ropes. We recently transitioned to an electronic medical record (about 1 month after I started) and a particular nurse that used to give me a hard time is always running to me when she deletes her patient list, documents in the wrong charts, and just doesn't know what she's doing half the time.
Hang in there!!