A little vent about contributing to office occasions

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My front office staff is made up of 6 ppl plus they count me and counselors as part of the front office staff, so whenever there are holidays, celebrations, birthdays, random special occasions, I'm supposed to participate with them in parties, gift exchanges, whatever. So this week we had a few things going on: we were supposed to make some kind of basket for the PTA to raffle off so I was assigned to bring an item for the basket. It was also administrative workers day so I was asked to bring an item for each of the three secretaries as well as a few dollars to contribute to buying them lunch. It was also the counselor's birthday today so we were having a bday celebration for her and once again contributed a couple of bucks for that. I heard nothing today about the party so around 1 I asked if we did something for her today after all and was told "Oh yeah we got food from blahblah restaurant"... no one bothered to let me know this was going on when it did... no one bothered to ask me if I wanted to eat or grab a slice a cake or mingle at the party... and my clinic is in the front office where I'm in plain view. Funny, there's no issue when it came to asking me to contribute to everything this week plus all other occasions. They've told me before that we all contribute to these things but it's all good because they'll do something special on my birthday too, but my birthday's in the summer so, no... you won't. Maybe I'm overreacting but I'm almost always left out of these parties but yet have contributed whenever asked, so I guess I'm just frustrated and saying I'm absolutely done contributing. Thanks for listening...4 more weeks! :)

Specializes in School Nursing.

When I first started I was overlooked for alot of things. I would try not to get upset when I would see everyone gathering with plates of food in the lounge, and I was never even asked to join. Then something changed. People left and new staff came in. Suddenly I was invited to birthday parties, and staff lunches. I had no problem chipping in $$ since I was finally invited. I felt like it was always going to be that crappy way. We send out emails about parties and make lists for everyone to bring food. Its just a way better flow of staff. Yes, I still get left out of Nurses day, but honestly I dont care.

@Kooky Korky: As a commenter after you suggested: if they remember me for money, gifts, potluck items that they need me to bring, surely they can remember me for the event?! The hungry nurse sitting right there in the office with them lol! It sucks that I would have to ask, rather than be treated like part of the team and be included, but I guess that's what it will take from now on if I do pitch in ever again. I truly did hope/assume that it wouldn't keep happening, but it has and it finally really got to me -_-

Btw, they just released the "weekly" for next week that goes out to all the staff, detailing every day's events/occasions. No mention at all about Nurse Day/Nurse Week...whomp whomp.

Specializes in kids.

Oye...our celebrations (babies, wedding etc) are done during faculty meetings so I'm OK with tossing in a few $$, as I attend these painfully boring meetings. Nurses day? Maybe once or twice over the past 23 years....I always do a little something for my coworkers, but even they are not great about it!

I mentioned it once to a guidance counselor and their response was, well, there is not a guidance counselor day either so I don't know what you are all upset about...

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