I'd like to stop birthday treats at my school

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Back before I became a school nurse and my own two were starting school, I thought it was a big bummer that our school district did not allow families to bring in cakes, cupcakes, etc. to celebrate birthdays in the classroom. I still remember how excited I would get when a parent walked into my classroom with a big box and we knew we were getting cupcakes :) Well, now that I am a school nurse, see the obesity epidemic firsthand in my school, and have several kids with severe allergies, I totally get it. As of right now, my school DOES allow parents to bring in treats. When I tell you that our families go WAY over the top, I am not exaggerating. They will bring in a huge cake, individual bags of chips, and juice boxes for the class. And this is served right after lunch. Teachers always call/text me to ask who in their class can't have it due to allergies- it is a pain and I really just wish we could get rid of the practice altogether. I sent out an email to all our teachers last night, asking them their thoughts about having families celebrate birthdays in a non-food way (special craft, 5 minutes longer recess for the class, etc.). MOST of the teachers are totally on board, but a few actually said they wanted to "protect the sacred practice", LOL. I guess I am surprised because when there is a birthday, those same teachers complain it is such a PITA. I am fully prepared for parents to be against getting rid of the practice.

Anyway, have you been part of outlawing food for birthdays at school? Does your school allow it? Thoughts? Opinions?

If it matters, I feel like my kids are already eating all day long- breakfast at arrival in the classroom, snack 90 minutes later, lunch an hour after snack, afternoon snack an hour and a half after lunch...throw a cupcake somewhere in there, yikes!!!

Specializes in Med/Surge, Psych, LTC, Home Health.

So, let me get this straight... if there is ANY type of celebration, the Jehovah's

Witness kids are not allowed to take part?? Oh my. And, I'll keep my

mouth shut... being the open minded person that I am.

ANYWAY... yeah I get the feeling you are fighting a losing battle, trying to

outlaw cupcakes, cakes, etc.. Why make your job harder than it

probably already is? Oh wait, when that diabetic kid comes to your

office with a 500 blood sugar, or when that kid comes to your office

with a severe allergic reaction to those nuts that we didn't KNOW

was in those brownies... :)... yeah we get the picture. :) THOSE

things are what make your job harder.

Best thing you can do is keep educating, educating, those

teachers and the parents, on being careful, and please making

sure little Johnny Diabeetus has his own snacks.

I personally find having to bring snacks in for my son's

birthday to be a pain in the butt, but I do it so he won't

feel like his momma forgot to make his birthday special.

Yeah, my kids are snowflakes. I'd probably rejoice if

the snacks were outlawed.

My kids school outlawed all sugary treats a couple years ago. At the time it felt like a travesty and there were many upset parents but (this is key) with strong administration support, within a year or two the kids didn't even know what they were missing. The parents had a harder time letting go but got used to it eventually and now I am so glad it was implemented for many reasons. Health, convenience, general 'over the top' celebrations, kids not needing to feel pressure...

Specializes in Peds, Neuro, Orthopedics.
My principal told me yesterday "Oh, that IS our policy to not have food brought in, but no one enforces it". :banghead:

I think my head would explode if a principal told me this. My smart mouth would probably say something like "Isn't that YOUR JOB???" Ugh. Principals make the big bucks to deal with the big problems, but then they don't. Frustrating.

We also have a policy against food in classrooms (which my previous principal refused to enforce as well, but at least she was upfront about her need to coddle parents). I skirted the issue by periodically sending out an email reminding them not to violate district policy. They probably still have their parties, but my butt is covered, so that is probably as close to problem solved as I could get.

I was told by my legal department that if teachers and principals choose to violate district policy, then they are putting themselves at risk for lawsuit as the district lawyers won't defend them if they refuse to comply. All over a silly cupcake.

Specializes in Pediatrics, Community Health, School Health.

UPDATE:

So after polling the teachers, while they all overwhelmingly desired food-free celebrations, they also overwhelmingly REFUSED to enforce the policy if a parent were to show up with food because they didn't want to be the "bad guy". So my director of school operations and I hashed it out and we came up with the following policy that everyone agrees to.

We strongly discourage food being brought in, but if parents bring it in, it must: be nut free, sesame free, coconut free, sunflower free, be store bought with visible full ingredient list, nothing homemade, nothing from a bakery that can't provide full ingredient list to be dropped off WITH the cake/cupcakes...ALL food must be dropped off at front desk (not handed to teachers at drop off in the morning or sent on the bus). Our front desk guy is awesome and has NO problem telling a family that their food doesn't meet the requirements. This way the teachers are taken out of the equation entirely.

Everyone agrees and the letters are being sent home this week. We will see how it goes.

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