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- Nov 11, '09 by Grace OzQuote from LCAY RNThanks - As you know we spend so much time helping others we forget who we are. I forgot that person. My work is my life. The concept of finding me again is very strange and fearful. Will I have enough money, what can I do to still be of value- all of this runs in my thoughts. Family do not totally understand. You are right and thanks for your comments and time.
Finding ourselves again and re-learning how to care for us as opposed to always giving to others, is exciting as well as scary. On reflection, I think I'm only really "settled" into retirement now after 7 years.
I was a young retiree, and in many ways perhaps too young. There have been times whereby I've gotten bored and felt as though I was a bit like a ship without it's rudder. At those times I would think of new ways to keep interested and involved and active.
I turn 59 in 6 weeks time, and I'm eternally grateful that I'm no longer doing the "hard yards" at the coalface of nursing.
Regarding your comment; "what can I do to still be of value" ... you already are of value! Whether or not you decide to do volunteer work or any other activity which might make you feel "of value", please know that even if you sat at home twiddling your thumbs, you are valuable.
I hold the belief that we don't need to wait until we get to heaven to be entitled to rest.
Part of being retired is having the ability to make choices about what we do without having to justify ourselves to our employer. WE are the boss now!
Once we get used to and comfortable with that concept, it's a great feeling!
Enjoy your retirement, you've earnt it!
Best Wishes to you!
- Nov 12, '09 by tewdlesUnfortunately, I am not sure that retiring is in the cards for my husband and myself. We pretty much spent most of our retirement monies a few years ago when my DH had a significant illness/surgery/hospitalization that our insurance company denied all payment for. The piddly remainder has been devastated by the stock market and doesn't qualify as "retirement". Now my husband has lost his job at the end of his career...no severance, no nothing. So, I will likely be one of those old nurses you see working in the office or some such place using old fashioned language and talkin about the "good ole days".
- Nov 12, '09 by traumaRUsI'm so sorry Tewdles. This thread started a while back and I think for many of us the economy has changed the way we look at retirement. For us, my husband took a job 165 miles away until he turns 60 in order to improve our retirement income. I have gone back to school (at 51) to get a peds CNS so that my options as I age will be broader.
My parents retired in their 50's with pensions...dh and I have worked hard our entire lives and I do not think we will ever truely retire!
- Nov 13, '09 by Grace OzQuote from tewdlesI'm sorry this has happened to you and your husband, tewdles. I hope that life takes a turn in your favour and that you wont have to work indefinitely. I sincerely wish you both all the very best.Unfortunately, I am not sure that retiring is in the cards for my husband and myself. We pretty much spent most of our retirement monies a few years ago when my DH had a significant illness/surgery/hospitalization that our insurance company denied all payment for. The piddly remainder has been devastated by the stock market and doesn't qualify as "retirement". Now my husband has lost his job at the end of his career...no severance, no nothing. So, I will likely be one of those old nurses you see working in the office or some such place using old fashioned language and talkin about the "good ole days".
- Nov 13, '09 by tewdlesThat is nice of you. Hey, life is about relationships...and I have some good ones. I may now face a financially humble last couple of decades, but I still count my life as successful and happy. I just wish it hadn't happened this way because of the amoral practices of for profit insurance.
- Nov 15, '09 by Grace OzKudos to you for your postive attitude!
That as much as anything else makes you a winner!
For profit organisations leave me cold.
I guess that must make me a socialist???!!!
But when I see what has happended to folks because of the greed of others ... it leaves me cold.
Wishing you all the very best.
- Jan 5, '10 by P_RN10 YEARS NOW AS OF LAST NOV. 1. CANE ON GOOD DAYS CRUTCHES ON LESS GOOD DAYS, ROLLING WALKER IS NEXT. MONEY RUNS OUT ABOUT THE THIRD WEEK OF THE MONTH. PRETTY SAD WHEN YOU CONSIDER I WAS MAKING GOOD MONEY, REALLY GOOD. WENT TO EUROPE TWICE FOR MONTHS ON PIN MONEY.
AT LEAST THE BON ALLOWS ME TO BE AN RN i. THE SMALL i MUST BE THERE OR I AM AN IMPOSTER. HAVEN'T SET FOOT IN THAT FACILITY SINCE I HAD TOSUE THEM JUST TO GET MY RETIREMENT. SS GAVE ME NO PROBLEM.
THAT LAWSUIT COST BETWEEN 1/4 AND 1/3 MILLION TO THEM. AND ALL THEY HAD TO DO WAS AGREE THAT I WAS UNEMPLOYABLE AND DISABLED.
IT WAS LIKE A PING PONG MATCH. MY GUY WON.
- Mar 21, '10 by r50nHi Everyone: I retired at age 60 with a fairly decent pension. I then signed on to work Per Diem in the same unit I retired from.
I spent over two years working when I wanted to and then fully retired at age 62 and began collecting SS. I have now been
fully retired for a year. It has been good and bad. I miss a lot about nursing, but am happy to be away from all the political
craziness and demanding workloads. It has taken me a lot of time to adjust to not working. I had worked since I was 15 years
old and while I DO NOT want to work anymore - it has been hard to adjust to the fact that I no longer work. I have been slowly
figuring out how to spend my time. I am reading a lot and travelling whenever possible. I do love not having to work weekends
or holidays and no longer miss out on family parties and occasions. I had done a lot of financial planning before I retired, but
did not spend much time trying to figure out how I would spend the rest of my life. That has been a mistake and I am now learning how
to spend my days in a way that makes me feel useful. Good luck to all of you out there who are retired or still working.
- Mar 21, '10 by paddleladyAll I can say you must have have some passion in you life other than nursing.
I practised nursing for 42 years and just had to retire. I am so busy. I work out at least 4 to 5 days a week for 2 hrs, walk my dog, play my guitar, see my grandkids, ride my motorcycle , and in the process of remolding my home. I also love to read, and travel, bicycle and kayak. My home has a garden and that takes my time also. You are now in the adjustment phase and most likely feel like you are not needed. The working world is very demanding and you body is also adjusting. Please give yourself time to adjust. Find some passions in your life and you will wonder where the time is gone.
Best of luck