Talked out of nursing by others and myself.... - page 4

I need some encouragement and maybe a kick in the pants.... Back in 1999, I was a 3.9 gpa pre-nursing/pre-med major and loving it. I dreamed of being a doctor or a nurse practitioner working in primary care someday. In 2000 I... Read More

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    Quote from netglow
    Oh, I forgot to add this, prepare for the kids as well due to the fact that your clinical or lab time will be extensive. It won't be an hour or two of class or clinical time and then you go home. Depending on how your school does things you will in clinicals a full shift plus an hour or two over that time for instruction. So if you do 12 hour clinical shifts you would count on maybe 14 hours time plus your commute for those days. Then on top of that you have your normal hour long classes, plus your lab classes usually several hours of lab class, and then your study/reading/careplan time, and then the added research papers etc. on top of all that combined. It is a full time job.

    I just put that in because some people don't understand the time part, and now that you do, you'll think of a backup plan way ahead of time, simply because you won't be at home, and when you are home you will be doing college work.
    Thanks so much for your input. The school I plan on attending does two clinical days a week from 7 to 3 both days (and likely some time before and after that as well). It will be rough, but thankfully it isn't 12 hour shifts, LOL! When I calculated up all the time it looks to be at least 40 hours a week (counting studying time at 2 hours minimum for every hour of lecture and lab). So yes, a full time job indeed. I'm hesitant to jump into this, but still motivated by my goals. Lots to consider.

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    I am 49yo and have been a nurse in Neuro ICU for the past 10 years. Didn't graduate from nursing school until I was 40. I have worked nights for the past 2 1/2 years and done fine. If people think 37 is old they are crazy!. Do what you love and love what you do. I say go for it!!!
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    Quote from rosemrn
    I am 49yo and have been a nurse in Neuro ICU for the past 10 years. Didn't graduate from nursing school until I was 40. I have worked nights for the past 2 1/2 years and done fine. If people think 37 is old they are crazy!. Do what you love and love what you do. I say go for it!!!
    Thank you so much for sharing! Stories such as yours are so inspirational to me. I will be just over 40 when I graduate if I go forward with this. It is awesome to hear that you are working nights successfully!
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    I had thought about being an RN way back when I was in high school but was discouraged from doing so by my mom, who would always tell me, "Nursing school would be SO hard! You have to know about as much as you would to be a doctor!" I was always a good student; I even tested into the gifted program, but just had it in my head that being an RN would just be too much for me to undertake. Fast forward 20-some years later. I'm now 41 and will be taking nursing prerequisites in the spring, as I try to be accepted into an accelerated BSN program. May the force be with me!!! I've never taken a chemistry course, or microbiology course ("too difficult!") according to my mom. It finally dawned on me that I'm not stupid and feel that I'm capable of doing well as long as I apply myself. I am certainly willing to learn. Wish me luck!!
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    Quote from opie1106
    I had thought about being an RN way back when I was in high school but was discouraged from doing so by my mom, who would always tell me, "Nursing school would be SO hard! You have to know about as much as you would to be a doctor!" I was always a good student; I even tested into the gifted program, but just had it in my head that being an RN would just be too much for me to undertake. Fast forward 20-some years later. I'm now 41 and will be taking nursing prerequisites in the spring, as I try to be accepted into an accelerated BSN program. May the force be with me!!! I've never taken a chemistry course, or microbiology course ("too difficult!") according to my mom. It finally dawned on me that I'm not stupid and feel that I'm capable of doing well as long as I apply myself. I am certainly willing to learn. Wish me luck!!
    Good luck to you! You can totally do it! My mom had a mom similar to yours. She was always discouraging her from doing things she deemed her incapable of. Because of that she has always encouraged me to follow my dreams, whatever they were.

    Your story makes an excellent point. We should not let others decide for us what we can and can't accomplish. No matter how well they know us. I can't let my husband keep talking me out of this if it is something I really want to do.

    I bet you are gonna rock your chemistry and microbiology! They aren't really that difficult if you stay on top of the material. I got an "A" in chem and a "B" in micro (it was one point away from an "A", ugghhh). Just go to class and pay attention and study. You will be fine! You can do it!
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    RSOH - I don't have too much to add to what these others said, but just wanted to let you know I am in a very similar situation to you - 36, 2 hs'd kiddos, husband home more often than not, looking to be a NP when all is said and done. Good luck to both of us!
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    Quote from pre-pre-nurseshan
    RSOH - I don't have too much to add to what these others said, but just wanted to let you know I am in a very similar situation to you - 36, 2 hs'd kiddos, husband home more often than not, looking to be a NP when all is said and done. Good luck to both of us!
    Awesome! Thanks for chiming in. Nice to know I'm not alone in my situation. :-)
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    Quote from PurplePRN
    I'm older than you.............and I'm just finishing up my prereqs and applied to start nursing school in January. The kids will be gone living their own lives one day. And we'll need someone to nurture. Why not the sick? Yes, it will be hard. But so rewarding too. I'm sorry I don't have more time to post. I have to get back to studying A&P.

    I think you should do it! My husband isn't encouraging either. I won't get into it, but his reasons are purely selfish and in HIS best interest, not mine. Plus, having that extra income when our children are starting their adult lives will be nice. They'll have college, new homes, new babies..........so much they will need help with.

    Go for it!
    Oh yeah, forgot to mention. I'm not sure exactly where my husband's motivation behind discouraging me comes from. Part of it could be selfish reasons. It will require a ton of work for him to step up to if I decide to do this. He has discouraged me every single time the nursing bug has hit me, for over 10 years now. I've always just played into the guilt of not being a full time mom anymore if I went back to pursuing nursing. It is so easy to feel guilty about our choices as a mom, LOL.
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    you have to do what make YOU happy. 37 is not old and your kids are old enough to understand that mommy need to get her education. if you dont go you may regret it down the road when you are in your 50s and 60s and asking what if. you can do it. when i went back to school my baby was 3months old. she is 17months now and i am happy i did. your husband will understand and will support you at the end. Good luck
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    Quote from roseonye
    you have to do what make YOU happy. 37 is not old and your kids are old enough to understand that mommy need to get her education. if you dont go you may regret it down the road when you are in your 50s and 60s and asking what if. you can do it. when i went back to school my baby was 3months old. she is 17months now and i am happy i did. your husband will understand and will support you at the end. Good luck
    So true. Two of my new words of encouragement to myself are: "No guilt! Your happiness, your dreams, and your goals are important too!" and "If you wait too long, dreams become regrets."

    Thanks for sharing your experience. I bet it was hard to be in school with a little one. :-)


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