Talked out of nursing by others and myself.... - page 3

by radicalsenseofhope

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I need some encouragement and maybe a kick in the pants.... Back in 1999, I was a 3.9 gpa pre-nursing/pre-med major and loving it. I dreamed of being a doctor or a nurse practitioner working in primary care someday. In 2000 I... Read More


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    You home school a 10- and 12-year-old? Who does the instructing? If you do, there it seems impractical for you to pursue a degree full-time. And you won't be cut much slack if you have to deal with child issues (illness, etc.).

    There are many things you can do with a nursing degree, but how do you know you want to be a nurse, rather than what you picture a nurse to be? Have you thought about volunteering at a hospital, and/or pursuing CNA certification, so you have closer exposure to nursing environments?

    If it's something you'd really like to do, then by all means, go for it. Don't pay attention to the naysayers.
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    Quote from wordsofmymouth
    I am a traditional student with no kids and no financial responsibilities (because of able parents and scholarships). I took interest in your post because you said you are homeschooling your kids. My mom did not finish college and did not work in order to homeschool me, and I have never been more grateful for her decision. But as an emerging adult I realize the strong drive within you to do something, to get out of your hole and make something of yourself and make a difference. (Though as a mother you are already doing all of that.) So, since I'm not in the same position, I cannot say definitively what you should do.

    But, please, don't underestimate your kids' need for you. Sure, kids go to school everyday and turn out just fine. But when you have the ability to directly influence them every day, don't take it for granted. It's going to be a huge change for your kids if you decide to go back to school. And at this point you only have 8 years left of homeschooling. Time flies.

    Whatever you choose, I think following your dream of becoming an NP is awesome and you should definitely make it happen.
    Thanks for your perspective on things. We plan to continue homeschooling even if I go back for my nursing degree. Well, at least for my son. My daughter wants to audition to attend the local arts magnet high school starting next year. She wants to be an artist and they have an excellent program. The high school is ranked in the top 5 in the nation. :-) My son wants to continue homeschooling though and I think that is certainly doable. They are both getting to the age where they are more independent and do a lot of work on their own. Also my husband is a firefighter/paramedic and only works every third day, so he is home more often than not and helps with homeschooling.
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    Quote from studentrnchristine
    I'm 42 years old and in my last six months of Nursing school, for our family this has been a financial burden to lose my income, but we know that in the end it will be worth it. I believe that you should always put 100% into your dreams and goals and always remember that our children learn just as much from our actions as they do from our words (if not more). What example are you setting for your children if you choose to not follow your dreams? Where is the future of nursing going to take us? That is something that all of my classmates concern themselves with, but for me this is just a journey I need to complete because I started it and it's my dream. I know the rest will work itself out when the time comes. Because this is my passion I am one of the top students in my class, and you will be too. As for your husband, when you talk about nursing school with him, take the focus off the job part and emphasize the need to finish what you started and accomplish your dreams. Some men want to be the bread winners and the have that mind set, but I'm sure there is a way to get him to support you in following your dreams, just try a different approach. I wish you the best of luck!
    Thanks for your input. I will try and take a different approach with my husband. I think if I can get him to realize how important it is to me, I will have his support.
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    Quote from griffinchet
    If you waited on your fear to diminish you'd be waiting forever. Don't listen to those who tell you you're in over your head. Go after what makes you happy, and don't be concerned with those who tell you this is too much for you. I say firmly, before I received any degree there were thousands who told me I couldn't make it and less than a handful who told me I could make it. I could tell you from personal experience, I have two degrees and I am working towards my MSN/JD!
    Go for it!!!!! Don't look back on the times you have not gone for what you want. This should give you incentive for succeeding beyond their scope of you!

    Best of Luck!
    Excellent advice! Thank you!
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    Quote from netglow
    Don't worry about "if" you can do it. I am sure you can, it's not that hard, really it isn't. So put all that aside.

    Since you are older you just need to consider your family. Who is going to stay with the kids? There is absolutely no bringing them with anywhere. Don't laugh, some moms think they can bring them on the off saturday you find you need to be at the college for some nursing thing. Big NO and the college will make sure you know it. No asking for a break because a kid is sick, or there is a school function, or somebody forgot to bring a backpack to school. Also, I found nursing school somewhat unorganized, so you might as well. You need to be flexible as far as your time commitments go.

    You may drop some money and not be able to pay it back. If you take out loans, know that thousands of new grads remain unemployed with monster loans on their backs. This is also true for other levels as well. I know several NPs/MSN (I will say, they went from another bachelors, all science degrees to direct entry) who remain unemployed. Now they are hella in financial trouble. After two years go by, and you need to renew your license but are unemployed, some states will not allow your renewal if you have not been able to deal with your student loans.

    Since you are an adult and understand money issues you will do this now and know that you chose your debt. So if you are going to go do it you just gotta own your decision.
    My husband is a firefighter/paramedic and only works every third day, so he is home with the kids more often than not. They are mature enough, and used to spending time at home by themselves while I am gone at classes. (I am taking college classes right now working on a minor in anthropology.)

    I don't have any student loans right now (my education to this point was covered by benefits I earned in the military). I can get my ADN from our highly regarded community college for about $8,000. I plan on paying for as much of that as possible without taking out any student loans. My bridge to the BSN will cost about $12,000. I am more than willing to own the costs of pursuing my goals. :-)

    Thanks so much for your advice and perspectives!
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    Quote from Wrench Party
    It actually sounds like the perfect time for you to go back to school- the children are independent enough to
    practically take care of themselves, you can use the pre-requisites to reinforce your science and math teaching,
    and it definitely would behoove you to have the ability to be financially independent.
    Yes, I think it may just be. You are right, the kids are very independent. I think we can juggle my school and their school. It will be a challenge, but I think we can do it.
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    Quote from ssferrans
    I am 41 with 4 kids and hoping to start a BSN program in January. My kids are ages 4 to 10 and I also homeschooled before going back to school. I went back to school for financial reasons and felt very guilty about not being able to continue providing my children's education. I am thankful that I was able to provide the oldest 3 with a solid foundation that has served them well in the classroom, and we continue to make an effort to supplement their education outside the classroom. My husband is very supportive of me and that has helped immensely. My biggest regret is that I didn't go back to school after my first was born when I originally wanted to. I unfortunately listened to my family's opinions which were negative towards nursing. I have since realized the negativity mainly comes from them not wanting to personally be a nurse and in their eyes it is a step down. Consider your options and how they will affect your marriage and children and try to find the balance that is best for everyone.
    Thank you so much for sharing your story with me! It is a hard decision to be sure because even though we plan to continue homeschooling, I know I won't be nearly as involved as I have been.

    Us moms have so much guilt don't we? Kudos to you for going back to school for your family for financial reasons. My mom went to LPN school when I was 12, and I have always admired her for working so hard to keep us financially afloat and to achieve a better work life for herself (she worked full time as an aid before becoming a nurse).
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    Quote from 37 C
    You home school a 10- and 12-year-old? Who does the instructing? If you do, there it seems impractical for you to pursue a degree full-time. And you won't be cut much slack if you have to deal with child issues (illness, etc.).

    There are many things you can do with a nursing degree, but how do you know you want to be a nurse, rather than what you picture a nurse to be? Have you thought about volunteering at a hospital, and/or pursuing CNA certification, so you have closer exposure to nursing environments?

    If it's something you'd really like to do, then by all means, go for it. Don't pay attention to the naysayers.
    I do the instructing, but they do quite a bit independently these days as well. My husband is home often too and helps out. He is a firefighter/paramedic and only works every third day.

    I am pretty sure I want to be a nurse. I worked for a year as a CNA in a nursing home before I had kids. It was hard work, to be sure, and plenty of crappy days, but also plenty of good days too. I knew I was in the right career field my first week when a resident started throwing up and I helped her. After that I had many other moments that confirmed my desire to work in medicine/health care.

    Thanks for your advice and comments. :-)
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    I want to thank you all so much for your comments! I am inspired by your stories, motivated by your advice, and thinking hard on some of the various perspectives and issues that have been pointed out. Thanks for taking the time to share a bit of yourselves with me.

    I am going to take some time to think about this decision. If I decide to take the plunge, I will begin retaking the 4 prereq classes I need this summer. I could be in a nursing program by Spring 2014 or Fall 2014. Exciting to think about. Lots of hard decisions and thinking yet to be done on this.

    I recently made a motivational wall for myself. Above the desk where I study, I taped up a bunch of inspirational and motivational quotes, sayings, advice from myself, etc. I thought I would share them:

    "Don't worry about failures, worry about the chances you miss when you don't even try." -Jack Canfield

    No guilt! Your happiness, your dreams, and your goals are important too!

    "Decide what you want from life; create a plan and be willing to sacrifice everything else, rather than accept permanent defeat." -Napoleon Hill

    Eye on your goals! This too shall pass!

    Nurse Practitioner or Bust!

    "Failure is not an option!" -Apollo 13 mission

    With a radical sense of hope, I strive for the seemingly impossible.

    "When faced with a challenge, look for a way, not a way out." -David L. Weatherford

    "If we all did the things we are capable of doing we would literally astound ourselves." -Thomas Edison

    If you wait too long, dreams become regrets.

    I will be adding some of your inspiration words, stories, and advice to my wall!!!! Thanks again! :-)
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    Oh, I forgot to add this, prepare for the kids as well due to the fact that your clinical or lab time will be extensive. It won't be an hour or two of class or clinical time and then you go home. Depending on how your school does things you will in clinicals a full shift plus an hour or two over that time for instruction. So if you do 12 hour clinical shifts you would count on maybe 14 hours time plus your commute for those days. Then on top of that you have your normal hour long classes, plus your lab classes usually several hours of lab class, and then your study/reading/careplan time, and then the added research papers etc. on top of all that combined. It is a full time job.

    I just put that in because some people don't understand the time part, and now that you do, you'll think of a backup plan way ahead of time, simply because you won't be at home, and when you are home you will be doing college work.
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