Vaginismus: A Quiet Storm - page 2

Vaginismus is a medical term that refers to involuntary vaginal tightness when any type of penetration is attempted. The condition may render all forms of penetration impossible or extremely painful,... Read More

  1. by   j0yegan
    Quote from mamagui
    (((HUGS)))) So sorry for you! Have you discussed treatment options with your doctor?
    Appreciate it. My doctor referred me to a gynecologist to do the pap smear because I couldn't get through it. She actually could see my muscles tightening up and couldn't continue. I'm trying to stop being depressed about it and be more hopeful. My husband has been so supportive and patient with me. I mean, it's painful but I just kinda suck it up and get through it. There's always a spot of blood afterwards, too.
  2. by   j0yegan
    You know what. I think this whole thing started when I got my first pap smear (I was still a virgin). The doctor made me get one because I was a certain age (when everyone else has sex). That was the worst pain I ever had. And NOW when there is any kind of penetration, my muscles tighten up in anticipation of pain.
  3. by   mamagui
    That is awful! Perhaps you should talk to a therapist- I bet they could help you work through this so that you could still go along and have a happy, healthy sex life. Thank you for sharing your experiences. I am sure it is very difficult to talk about this and is says a lot about your character to be able to share with us what this condition is like.
  4. by   j0yegan
    Quote from mamagui
    That is awful! Perhaps you should talk to a therapist- I bet they could help you work through this so that you could still go along and have a happy, healthy sex life. Thank you for sharing your experiences. I am sure it is very difficult to talk about this and is says a lot about your character to be able to share with us what this condition is like.
    Thank you so much for the kind words. I've kept it to myself for quite some time. And it's especially hard because I work on postpartum... women who are able to have sex and give birth just fine. I mean, I can still have sex; there's just excruciating pain in the beginning. Hopefully the OBGYN will discuss some treatment options for me. I know she's a professional; I just still feel really awkward and shy talking about it and feeling like a freak. I've never seen a therapist before. Maybe I'll be referred to one by the OBGYN or maybe there will be something else to try. We'll see, I suppose. She can even see if something is anatomically wrong down there.

    I'll keep you guys updated. Thanks everyone for being so kind.
    Last edit by j0yegan on May 21, '14
  5. by   TheCommuter
    Quote from j0yegan
    Sorry, my other post was deleted for some reason...

    I have to get a pap smear and I know I have vaginismus. I'm thinking about taking anti-anxiety medicine to calm down and maybe my muscles won't tighten so much... and I'll need someone to drive me to the appointment because you're not supposed to drive on anti-anxiety medicine since it can cause drowsiness. I've NEVER taken anything for anxiety in my life either. I took half a pill today to see how I'd react. I was getting so much anxiety just thinking about getting a pap smear and was crying. It's so embarrassing. I feel like I can't talk to anyone about this.
    I used to have this same issue, which is why I wrote about it in the first place (gulp).

    Various therapies have been life-changing for me. Once you can train your muscle down there to relax for certain occasions such as sex, gynecological procedures, tampon insertion and any type of penetration you previously found uncomfortable, it feels as if you've conquered the world. Feel free to send me a private message if you want more information.

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