Quote from SmilingBluEyes
I don't think a majority of us spend a whole lot of our time talk rudely about our patients behind their backs. I know I try not to---and try not to be unfairly or overly judgemental. BUT I am human and to vent is human, not divine. I just try very hard to remember why I became an OB nurse in the first place. It really does help temper my tendency to let certain people and situations get to me.
And I find it kind of sad that we cant', as nurses, seem allow others to vent without taking it personally, here. I can't imagine anyone here who has spent any real amount of time doing this, has not run into situations that make them want to scream. Venting in an appropriate place and at a proper time is ok. As long as the care rendered is professional and compassionate, letting off steam, IMO is quite healthy. Who else BUT other nurses would possibly understand where we are coming from here? Let's try doing that here, if we can----let's nurse ourselves and one another.
If this isn't the appropriate place to vent, I don't know what would be. Spouses and significant others often care but don't understand (unless they, too, are in health care, in which case you'd have DOUBLE venting. Oh my!). And we don't want to wear them out. Venting on the job can be done in tiny amounts--just enough to help us keep our sanity for the rest of the shift, but you have to be extremely careful not to be overheard. Our kids don't need to hear the kind of slop we sometimes have to put up with. And friends, even the ones who are also nurses, have their own load to carry.
That's what's nice about being able to come to a board like this one. There are so many things you don't have to explain. They're already understood.
If someone seems continually stressed to the breaking point, it might be appropriate for some of her cyber-buddies to gently ask if she needs to find a position that isn't so toxic. Or if a poster sounds truly hateful and capable of giving her patients substandard care, that might be another time to make some inquiries.
But the garden variety vents that focus on rude patient behavior and our frustration at having to deal with people who each think they are our only patient for that shift, I say, vent away. No need for anyone else to judge. No need for US to add to another's load.
As Deb said, this is a place where we should be able to let our hair down and give and get some of that nurturing nurses are famous for.
Let's be good to each other.