nurses dating nurses?
- 0Jul 29, '10 by rnskirandom question, thought it would be fun since i'm a n00b to this site:
any nurses here dating another nurse?
if so, are you happy or finding it frustrating at times?
if not, would you?
- 11Aug 5, '10 by canesdukegirl, BSN GuideYou know, it's funny that you asked this. I used to be married to someone who was not in the medical field. I found myself frustrated (pretty often) that he could not understand both the hardships and the victories that I had as a nurse. We eventually divorced for numerous reasons, and when I was ready to date, I went out with a man that was an EMT. It was SOOO refreshing to share my stories with him, and he TOTALLY understood where I was coming from. We dated for a few years before we got married 2 weeks ago. We had a few bumps in the road while we were dating, and after many days of soul searching when we were apart, I thought that one of the most important things to me was that he could understand my work and how important it was to me. At that point, I knew that I could never date anyone outside of the medical field. We work in the same facility now and he knows the surgeons I work with. This alone makes our bond stronger, solely because he can empathize with me, give me pointers on how to handle certain precarious situations, and give me support when I need to vent. I could never do this with someone that doesn't understand what I do in my profession. I tend to identify myself by my profession, and I needed someone who understood me and where I was coming from. It just CLICKED.
I am personally all for it. I think it creates a special bond. You can vent, and you don't have to explain yourself. It worked for me. Just my opinion though.
- 9Aug 5, '10 by wezzie, RNI'd love to. I think it'd be great to able to share such a huge part of your life together. Help support each other, help each other grow. Be wonderful to have that understanding with a partner.
Maybe there should be a forum here for single nurses to meet other single nurses.. although I'm sure women would outnumber men 10 to 1 or more .. hmmmmmm.. good to be a single male nurse..
- 0Aug 9, '10 by eriksolnI found dating/being married to another nurse annoying as all heck. It made leaving work at work so much harder. It was nice at first to discuss this and that about our jobs, compare notes on what things were like for each other. In the end though, it made having a "day off" almost impossible.
If one of us was off, and the other worked.......the one working (Murphy's law) would ALWAYS have a bad day and come with a severe need to vent. Which, is fine. But, when it's almost every day you have off, you get kinda tired of it. It dampens your days off, makes enjoying yourself and removing yourself from the workplace difficult.
So, eventually, with both of us feeling this way (that our days off were not as fun), we stopped talking about work. So, the end result was we didn't feel like we could vent to each other about stuff that happened that night.
Plus you throw in there the fact that nursing schedules tend to be so random.......if you both don't have the same weekend off, you can go FOREVER without seeing each other. Its a mojor pain. Also throw in there the fact that you both work holidays and you have a whole new set of problems. One partner's unit wants them to work T-day and have Christmas off, the other partner's unit needs them for Christmas and New Year's but not T-day blah blah. When we travel nursed, we at one point had a month and a half period where we literally had 2 (yes, TWO) common days off.
- 0Aug 13, '10 by rnskithanks for sharing your stories! keep em comin.
i'm a nurse dating a nurse right now, we've been together for about 7 months now so it's still a pretty young relationship. he's great and it's nice to be able to understand each other profession-wise. i don't have a job yet and he does, so he tells me all his great stories about work and vents when he needs to (we're both fairly new nurses). sometimes though, i feel like he puts his degree and job over my degree and lack of a job because he graduated first and got a job before me. it's all in teasing form of course, but he does it ever so often that it makes me think that he feels like he is the better nurse. don't get me wrong, he IS a great nurse. i guess that's just my fear...competition in the workforce will be a con in our relationship once i do get a job.
i'm sorry to hear that eriksoln, i didn't even take that into consideration! different days off and constantly venting can be tough. hopefully all is well with the two of you!