I work as a new grad in L & D and have been assigned two preceptors to share me.
One is great, seems to trust me, give constructive criticism and positive feedback.
The other is a micromanager and puts down everything I do from charting to how I spread the sheets when I turn a patient. I have never received any positive feedback from her. Often these comments are in front of patients and other nurses. She is also a highly negative individual who bad mouths almost everyone on the unit, especially other shifts. Her constant criticism and condesending behavior is plummeting my self confidence which is already shaky as a new grad 3 weeks into the job. At end of last shift with this preceptor, she told me (in front of two other RNs in the break room) that I had major issues with self confidence and it was/would affect patient's confidence in me. She is right, I do have low self confidence- but mainly just when I work with her! I do not have this problem with my other preceptor.
After she told me this, I acknowledged I heard what she said, but was speechless due to the irony of the situation. I could kick my self for not addressing how her behavior affects me. I need to establish boundaries with the woman so she can not walk all over me. Any advice on what to say to her with out screwing my self career wise?. I have gone to my manager and we agreed I need to address this myself with the preceptor to establish my boundaries.
Any feedback on what to say to this nurse is appreciated.
Aug 28, '04
Unfortunately, not everyone makes a good preceptor. I know several nurses who do it solely for the extra money. And although you are kicking yourself for not speaking up when the negative preceptor lit into you, I think it would have been worse for you to stoop to her level in speaking in front of others.
I'd meet with her privately and explain that you know that you have issues with low self confidence, which is perfectly normal for a new grad - and need her support and constructive comments, not criticism - especially in front of others! - to help you make the transition. I personally don't think any criticism is constructive. It is putting someone else down - when what they need is an explanation of how to do something better.
And I agree with Leslie that it won't hurt to let her know you've already spoken with your manager. Not to make her feel that you are complaining about her, but that you want to make this a positive learning experience and feel it is not that way now.
Last edit by weetziebat on Aug 28, '04