Hi Nurse Beth,
I am pleased to be a part of the site. I am a new student nurse currently in training for my Associate's degree in Nursing Science. I have found that the students who sit in the first rows in class seem to be preferred and may/may not be receiving extra tips with the tests and are giving priority when doing community service activities.
How can I fight for just as much help and preference without looking like I am jealous of them or somehow singling myself out? I have even found some of those students on the professor's social network site. I cannot complain because I will be singled out or not receive time with her when all of the those other students are rushing up to her desk to receive rationales about answers that they missed on tests for example? They have even sent motivational texts to these students and nice messages as a response to the tests that they aced as opposed to me squeaking by with a C.
Before this, I have always been an A student and now, I am getting Cs because I am always lost and cannot even hear her that well from my seat. I didn't even get to pick my seat, but apparently, they all grabbed the chairs. This has turned into a competition, and I do not feel it should be regarded in such an unprofessional manner. Everyone should encourage and be able to receive the tips. I don't know what to do, but I am always so irritated in class that I have trouble paying attention and I feel ignored so I feel as if the college only wanted my money and doesn't care about the students who really do need extra help...
Can you please help me sort this out Nurse Beth? Thank you!
Dear Playing Favorites,
You are right, it does need to be sorted out to turn things around for you, and quickly. This is consuming you to the point that it’s affecting your studies.
-Do not go above the instructor’s head to complain. This rarely works well for the student.
It's not (shouldn’t be) a competition for the teacher’s favor. I sincerely hope your instructor is not playing favorites and courting this kind of behavior, but if so, you must rise above it.
You feel that the instructor is showing favoritism, and a lot of your energy is going into seeking examples to prove your belief. You can’t control what anyone else is doing except for yourself. Don't look at others and don’t nurture your feelings of jealousy. That's energy that needs to be channelled into effective studying.
Take charge of your learning experience and ask for what you need. Make an appointment to meet with your instructor. Tell her you are concerned about your grade and ask for her help in improving your grade.
Tell hear that you cannot hear and see if an accommodation can be made.
If you continue to struggle with feelings of being ignored and treated unfairly, consider that you may have some unresolved issues around this that have more to do with you than your situation. The instructor may be a trigger.
is stressful and emotional responses can be heightened. Talk to a trusted person or counselor to put this in perspective. You don’t have to go it alone.