It is with a heavy heart that I give an update on my 16 year old stepson. Some of you may remember that he had a nightmare, or so we thought a few weeks ago, and woke us all up, screaming that there was a robber in the house.
I have spoken to my sponsor at great length about this, and it just seems to be snowballing, getting worse and worse. I know that when it rains it pours, but it's getting ridiculous.
A week ago Thursday night, the 16 yr. old woke us all up beating on our bedroom door screaming that there was an intruder in the house. We had no reason we thought, to not believe him, so my dh got his shotgun and went racing outside to see. (In his underwear, of course!) I called 911 and the dispatch sent out a state trooper and 4 local deputies, as well as a K 9 unit. We heard the story from the teen as the officers heard it too, and it was just full of holes. We thought it was truly a nightmare. The next day, he realized what had happened, and was so upset. Turns out, he had been at a friend's house and took drugs. He admitted to taking Extasy (sp??) He cried and cried and begged my dh not to give up on him. I truly thought he had hit his bottom. I was wrong.
We got a call from the school that he appeared high. He denied it and said he had only taken 4 Benadryl. Found out later he was high on pot at the time. This happened earlier the same day.
A week later, I received a call from my dad that my aunt was dying and we made a road trip to south Louisiana to see her. Caleb refused to go, and my dh told him that if he could find an adult to watch him he could stay. They got into an altercation, verbally, and dh grounded him. He turned around and left anyway. We tried to find him with no luck, so we called the coroner and had him PECed. This happened before we left, at approx 1015 pm. The S.O. called maybe 2 hours later that they found him and took him to the ER for eval. From there, they admitted him to an inpatient adol. rehab center about 45 minutes away. He was admitted Saturday am. It is only a 7 to 14 day program, and that wont touch his problems.
Today my dh went and spoke to the counselor and the teenager. Of course, he was very angry with both my dh and me. We found out that he has taken heroin, benzos, opiates, ETOH, pot, Extasy, and we aren't sure what else. He admitted to those. His mom, my dh's ex wife is blaming all this on me, saying that he did all of it because of me, because he is upset that dh and I got married and we have been married for 5 years, and dated 1 year before that. Funny that it didn't bother him that mama got remarried a year before we did.
He's only 16, and it would just kill me that he could be dead before long using the meds that he is screwing with. His dad and I are both in recovery and have been for 10 years. Mama, on the other hand, is still bulemic and actively using Xanax and pot as well as ETOH. She called dh tonight and basically said that all this is MY fault. This isn't helping things.
After the counseling session with my dh and the son, he said he definetly needed an inpatient facility for 90 days. Of course, he says he isn't going, and we have to be the ones to check him out when he is d/ced and transport him to the other inpt. facility.
I'm sorry, I just needed to vent a little. Dh is all talked out and not in the best of spirits. It hurts to see him so angry, but he has been angry for quite a while. It doesn't help that mama is talking out of both sides of her mouth, so to speak. She has been talking bad about me to the counselors and wanted to get remarried to dh. She got highly upset when that didn't happen. She has already contacted Metro Narcotics, or so she says, but she will forget to mention that she gave him the Xanax and Klonopin and she has been getting him drunk.
I'm sure that there will be more crap to follow. The ex wive's family waste NO time in talking trash about dh and me. The strongest meds we keep in the house are Dramamine and Clonopin. She has Xanax and Klonopin just lying around, not even put up out of view.
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