Hey - I am just so mad that I could scream. My name is still Anne and I am still a nurse in recovery. I love our recovery threads here, and need a little help, or just to vent.
My DH and I have both been in recovery for 7 years. My DHs ex wife is still actively drinking and drugging. I have spokrn with my sponsor about this until her ears are bleeding I'm sure, and been to meetings. Just need a little more help with this.
She has given us a boatload of trouble since even before we got married. She refused to get clean when he did, and she left high, walking bardfoot in shorts in early spring that year because he wouldn't give her car keys because she was fried. (Just a little history...)
Long story short, the judge gave DH full custody in the settlement unless she went to rehab. She refused. She got remarried so she could see the boys on her every other weekend visitation. This is really the worst thing that she has done to me that I know of but it just makes me soooo mad.
On her last weekend visitation, Sunday pm when I met her now ex hubbie but renting a room in her house, he told me that they had not seen the 15 year old since Sat. am about 6 am. She had gotten drunk on Friday afternoon and admitted that she gave the 15 yr.olds friend who spend the
night Friday night permission to use her truck, a new 2008 Avalanche. He drove them home from the 4 wheeler track where they were apparently having a party and she was so drunk she had him pull into a truck stop to but more beer. She pulled up her skirt in the lot, before dark and urinated. About 6 am, the boys got the truck stuck in the mud. She just sent him and the friend to stay at the friend's house the rest of the weekend. Never called us, nothing. No disipline, nothing, because we found out later she did let them take the truck.
She called DH the first of the next week and gave my DH various stories when she found out he knew she gave permission.
1. That I had been calling treatment facilities out of state, pretending to ne her and requesting admission, giving her rather screwed up past.(And I did things too, but sucked it up and admitted and got into recovery.) I was allegedly calling from different states standing in their lobby. She said I was flying to these states!!
2. That I was calling from our home and my cell phones doing the same thing, until my DH said he was going to pull our phone records to prove her lie.
3. Then she said I was going to various stores in town doing the same thing. When my DH asked for proof, she just said "Uh........"
He asked me about it and I told him it was bull. He asked her how do you know it wasn't someone else you did over in the last year? Then she just yelled and screamed a lot.
Serenity prayer, serenity prayer!!