I've posted some time ago about my son disclosing his drug problem to me, and I got some much needed encouragement. Now I'm back. Here's the deal:
My son is a nurse. He is suspected of stealing " a card"? from work.
A "friend " got him into a detox center, which I will be forever grateful for. This " friend" has called me a few times , informing me that he needs a 100.00 to continue to stay. Then she called his (my son's) step mom and told her that he needs 300.00 for a med that will help with the withdrawals. Step mom called me and told me what was up - mind you, I've not heard any of this from my son, just the Friend - Together we decided ( for many reasons ) that it may not be in my son's best interest (long term) to just cough up the money. Money that neither of us has, by the way. So Friend called me today and told me the same story she told step mom. Only she told me that if he didn't get this money, he would very likely die. She said they are being mean to him and he's going to leave the ceter and live in his car.
I know that he is suffering terribly. My heart is broken for him. He is my child, and I love him. However, he has manipulated, lied to, stolen from, verbally abused evey one he knows. Detox is exactly where he needs to be. And I'm not sure I want him to be comfortable. I'm not sure he's " rock bottom" yet, as a matter of fact I know he's not as he has told me that no one can prove that he took those drugs and that he is way too smart to get caught any way.I want my son healed. I know this med will help make it easier, but I TRUELY don't have money for it, and really, I'm kind of feeling like something funny is going on here. Why the "middle man"? My son and I are close, we have no secrets and he knows that I am not sitting in judgement of him. there's no reason for him not to call me and ask me in person for help... BTW, friend also wants us to take care of son's car payment... I feel that is enabling him further and is not going to be helpful for recovery.
HELP! I am confused, suspicious and heartsick over this situation. Any thoughts?