I did call the center and was actually allowed to talk to him. I think that was a mistake. He was very beligerent and manipulative, and wasn't telling the truth about everything. He said he's leaving Thursday, he has no intention of going to rehab, kept saying he hates it in there...that they are "mean" to him, that he has "no control", that he has always been able to manipulate things to his advantage and he's unable to do that in there. UGH! He told me that he tried to commit suicide. But the way he told me seemed that he was just wanting a reaction from me. Said he cut his wrist, then went to an AA meeting. Then he tried a guilt trip, telling me that he knows he scerwed up my life for being born. ( I have never thought that!)
I know that I sound cold and heartless, but right now, I'm more angry at him than anything. His friend keeps calling and asking me for money, a phone card, etc. I have firmly told her no. (I have bailed him out of things more times than I can count, and it's always a disaster). She then calls his step mom and tells her that I don't care about him , and that she should help him. Step mom and I have fomed a unified front on this issue.
I know this isn't making a lot of sense, and I'm just venting. Is it normal to feel so angry? I love him whole heartedly, I don't want him to continue to live like he is, but it doesn't look like he has any desire to change. Plus, I think I'd be willing to help him if I thought he was trying to help himself a little.
I don't know what to do. I'm so afraid when he leaves that he will either overdose, hurt someone, dissapear, or end up in jail. This is a nightmare for me. I don't know the right way to respond to him. I told him I love him, but I think he wants sympathy from me, and I can't give him that, at least not when he is so arrogent, deceitful and beligerent.
What's the best way to interact with him? What can I do to show him I love him and care about what happens to him, without enabling him?
I'm in nursing school, and it's stressful enough, without this added to it. Is there any hope for him?