Just need to vent (long)

  1. Thanks to anyone taking the time to read this. I am very frustrated right now and my non nursing friends do not seem to understand.

    I have been a RN for the last 10 years. In August I completed my MSN in the Acute Care Nurse Practitioner program at Vanderbilt. I have been trying to prepare for boards and locate a job at the same time. I received some great input from you guys regarding an interview for an ED position a couple of weeks ago. Everyone I met at the interview was wonderful and all seemed very excited to have me join their team. I was offered the job the next day. At that time I already had another interview scheduled and asked them if I could give them my decision after that interview.

    Interview #2 was at the hospital where I am employed as a RN. I have been there for 2 years with nothing but positive reviews etc. It was for a job implementing a CHF management clinic and also helping develop the NP role in the cardiac surgery department. Although I was more interested in the ED job, the job where I work was appealing because of my level of comfort there and knowledge of the system etc. and a much shorter commute (5 min vs. 1 hour)

    I have always had a difficult time reading my director, but honestly never really got the "warm fuzzies" from her if you know what I mean. This NP position has been in development for the last year or more. So in my mind it is kind of a no brainer......you want to create this position.....oh wait one of my valued staff nurses is trying to better herself, maybe we can try to groom her into this position. I should have known better. As graduation came closer I kept asking her about this position and I kept getting somewhat put off. Finally when she did call me for an official interview, he exact words were, "we want to schedule you for an interview for the NP position, but if your not interested anymore don't worry about it."

    So I went to the interview, sold myself to the best of my ability. At the end of the interview I asked them when they would make a decision and asked either way I would appreciate knowing ASAP since I had another offer on the table.

    Well I never heard anything and finally called after 5 days had passed and was told basically that they chose another candidate (not a hospital employee) and the reason they hadn't told me no yet was because in case they couldn't work out a deal with that person then they would offer me the job). Ultimately I know I am better off not being in a postion where I am not valued for my loyalty, experience etc... but I can't help having my feelings hurt a little bit and chewing on some sour grapes.....then my director had the audacity to ask me about days I could work as a staff RN. I am working on my letter of resignation that will be cc'd to the CEO, Dir of HR etc about how I am disappointed in my facilities lack of dedication to their employees who are trying to better themselves etc.

    Thanks for listening everyone, I truly appreciate it. I take boards on Friday and then start my new ED position the next week! I look forward to sharing that experience with you all
    Kristie
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  3. by   sirI
    Quote from Kristiern1
    Thanks to anyone taking the time to read this. I am very frustrated right now and my non nursing friends do not seem to understand.

    I have been a RN for the last 10 years. In August I completed my MSN in the Acute Care Nurse Practitioner program at Vanderbilt. I have been trying to prepare for boards and locate a job at the same time. I received some great input from you guys regarding an interview for an ED position a couple of weeks ago. Everyone I met at the interview was wonderful and all seemed very excited to have me join their team. I was offered the job the next day. At that time I already had another interview scheduled and asked them if I could give them my decision after that interview.

    Interview #2 was at the hospital where I am employed as a RN. I have been there for 2 years with nothing but positive reviews etc. It was for a job implementing a CHF management clinic and also helping develop the NP role in the cardiac surgery department. Although I was more interested in the ED job, the job where I work was appealing because of my level of comfort there and knowledge of the system etc. and a much shorter commute (5 min vs. 1 hour)

    I have always had a difficult time reading my director, but honestly never really got the "warm fuzzies" from her if you know what I mean. This NP position has been in development for the last year or more. So in my mind it is kind of a no brainer......you want to create this position.....oh wait one of my valued staff nurses is trying to better herself, maybe we can try to groom her into this position. I should have known better. As graduation came closer I kept asking her about this position and I kept getting somewhat put off. Finally when she did call me for an official interview, he exact words were, "we want to schedule you for an interview for the NP position, but if your not interested anymore don't worry about it."

    So I went to the interview, sold myself to the best of my ability. At the end of the interview I asked them when they would make a decision and asked either way I would appreciate knowing ASAP since I had another offer on the table.

    Well I never heard anything and finally called after 5 days had passed and was told basically that they chose another candidate (not a hospital employee) and the reason they hadn't told me no yet was because in case they couldn't work out a deal with that person then they would offer me the job). Ultimately I know I am better off not being in a postion where I am not valued for my loyalty, experience etc... but I can't help having my feelings hurt a little bit and chewing on some sour grapes.....then my director had the audacity to ask me about days I could work as a staff RN. I am working on my letter of resignation that will be cc'd to the CEO, Dir of HR etc about how I am disappointed in my facilities lack of dedication to their employees who are trying to better themselves etc.

    Thanks for listening everyone, I truly appreciate it. I take boards on Friday and then start my new ED position the next week! I look forward to sharing that experience with you all
    Kristie
    Hello, Kristie,

    I had to take a deep breath before I responded to your post.

    I can TOTALLY relate with this. And, I completely understand how you must feel right about now.

    If you can, please take the position at the other facility and .....well, what I am thinking is not very professional (about the facility that used you), so, I will not say it. :stone

    I hope one day they look back and realize what a HUGE mistake they made by letting you slip through their fingers.
  4. by   CardioTrans
    How rude!

    Im with Siri on that one..... lots of things going through my head right now, but dont want to violate TOS.

    Id definitely write that letter and include all the appropriate higher ups. :angryfire
  5. by   traumaRUs
    Congrats on your ER position...I am still hopeful that I can snag one also when I graduate in May.
  6. by   christvs
    Congrats on your new job in the ER! As for that other job-it is totally their loss! Good luck with your boards & your new job!
    -Christine
  7. by   cgfnp
    Quote from Kristiern1
    Thanks to anyone taking the time to read this. I am very frustrated right now and my non nursing friends do not seem to understand.

    I have been a RN for the last 10 years. In August I completed my MSN in the Acute Care Nurse Practitioner program at Vanderbilt. I have been trying to prepare for boards and locate a job at the same time. I received some great input from you guys regarding an interview for an ED position a couple of weeks ago. Everyone I met at the interview was wonderful and all seemed very excited to have me join their team. I was offered the job the next day. At that time I already had another interview scheduled and asked them if I could give them my decision after that interview.

    Interview #2 was at the hospital where I am employed as a RN. I have been there for 2 years with nothing but positive reviews etc. It was for a job implementing a CHF management clinic and also helping develop the NP role in the cardiac surgery department. Although I was more interested in the ED job, the job where I work was appealing because of my level of comfort there and knowledge of the system etc. and a much shorter commute (5 min vs. 1 hour)

    I have always had a difficult time reading my director, but honestly never really got the "warm fuzzies" from her if you know what I mean. This NP position has been in development for the last year or more. So in my mind it is kind of a no brainer......you want to create this position.....oh wait one of my valued staff nurses is trying to better herself, maybe we can try to groom her into this position. I should have known better. As graduation came closer I kept asking her about this position and I kept getting somewhat put off. Finally when she did call me for an official interview, he exact words were, "we want to schedule you for an interview for the NP position, but if your not interested anymore don't worry about it."

    So I went to the interview, sold myself to the best of my ability. At the end of the interview I asked them when they would make a decision and asked either way I would appreciate knowing ASAP since I had another offer on the table.

    Well I never heard anything and finally called after 5 days had passed and was told basically that they chose another candidate (not a hospital employee) and the reason they hadn't told me no yet was because in case they couldn't work out a deal with that person then they would offer me the job). Ultimately I know I am better off not being in a postion where I am not valued for my loyalty, experience etc... but I can't help having my feelings hurt a little bit and chewing on some sour grapes.....then my director had the audacity to ask me about days I could work as a staff RN. I am working on my letter of resignation that will be cc'd to the CEO, Dir of HR etc about how I am disappointed in my facilities lack of dedication to their employees who are trying to better themselves etc.

    Thanks for listening everyone, I truly appreciate it. I take boards on Friday and then start my new ED position the next week! I look forward to sharing that experience with you all
    Kristie
    Kristie:

    I know you're pissed, and most of us have had similar dealings with hospitals because that's just how they are.

    I'm going to give you some advice that's a little against the grain. Think carefully before you decide to submit that letter. Once it's sent, you can't take it back, and they can hold it forever. I know you want to lay into them with all you've got, and I did too when something bad happened to me at the hospital I used to work at. But I didn't do it and I'm glad. It's not right, and it still irritates me from time to time. But I'm still glad I didn't.

    Here's a for instance: what if you go and work for this ED for 3 years, then the hospital you want to write a letter to has a position in their ED open up. They may have all new management by then, but they'll still have this letter in your file. Even if you write it totally sensable and professional, they may still view it as hostile and it may hurt you at some point in the future.

    Now I certainly wouldn't go to work in the CHF position at this time based on your experience, but I also would think carefully before you burn the bridge to the facility.

    If you have thought all this through and still feel good about writing the letter, then by all means let your ass hang out so to speak. But, if you decide not to, take comfort in the fact that although it's a silly, rediculous game, you're better at it than they are.

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