Why did she pick on me? - page 3

by Dean7 | 4,547 Views | 28 Comments

Hello everyone, I've been a new nurse for almost a year now. I had an incident that still rattles me. There was a patient who had an elevated blood pressure, around in the 170's/90. The doc said to just re-check it in an... Read More


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    oop:
    It's not about a new nurse having to earn respect, its about the other nurse being respectful toward the new nurse, and treating her with decency and common courtesy.

    Nurses eating their young is shameful. It's bullying behavior and will be perpetuated for as long as there are those that condone it!

    I have 20 plus years experience helping people deal with the effects of bullying and I was shocked to find that it is the greatest hurdle many nursing students and new nurses have to face.
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    I've learned only on rare occasions do you argue with your mother in law..otherwise nod your head and smile..lol
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    Who cares what that nurse thinks. Always do the right thing by your patient, document as you need to. Never let anyone sway your got or what you think I'd the right thing to do because you are the one responsible and need to answer if there is a problem.
    anotherone and onetiredstudent like this.
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    Along the same lines as what everyone is saying, but don't allow this person to make camp in your headspace. Likely she never thinks of you unless you are right in front of her. Do what you know is right, go about your business and don't spend another minute worrying about it. This is a lesson I wish I had learned way sooner than I did!
    gonzo1, onetiredstudent, and joanna73 like this.
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    "Why yes, in fact, in my practice I report abnormal values to the MD."
    Don't get into a contest with this nurse. Respond to her inquires direct and on point.
    Of could always add "because I prefer my patients not to stroke out for the oncoming RN" however, that would be sarcastic, and wrong.
    You know your patient, you know what the MD may have said in rounds (re-take a BP and we will then talk anti-hypertensives) and unless the nurse in question is your charge nurse (and if she is, report to her what the MD wanted, and what you did about it) you are under no obligation to inform her of your plans of care.
    SoldierNurse22 and joanna73 like this.
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    Perhaps she was having an off day.

    You need to practise according to facility policy and the standard of care. What other nurses do is their business. Whether or not this person felt it was important to treat is irrelevant. You did your job.

    Don't concern yourself with other people's opinions. It doesn't matter.
    anotherone and onetiredstudent like this.
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    Why care about this when you are right. ? i see so many of my coworkers get so worked up over stuff like tgis. It is comical. I can see my some like to engage them. Some people also get involved because they do thi k they are helping you or have such superior knowledge. Do your job and ignore them. I have said things like, "of you are right I won't page about a bp that is 170/90. Should I wait till pt strokes ?" or i look right at them and IGNORE them. awesome feeling.
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    170s systolic isn't really high enough to report to an MD here in the stroke belt (Southeast) but I think the best way to solve this issue is to have protocols that establish which BPs are reportable and which aren't. If I had reported that BP to an MD, they would've looked at me like I had four eyes. Your coworker was probably trying to give you advice about, let's call them: cultural norms in your hospital. The MDs you work with may feel that that is an acceptable value. However badly put, you should consider taking her/his advice and of course, consider what your own feeling is.
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    Quote from Michigangirl
    As with everyone else, ignore her. You're doing a great job.

    I am a little worried that this is making you so angry. So what if she made the comment or doesn't respond to your friendliness? You know you are doing the right thing. Don't let it get to you so much, that is why she is doing it. I hope she is not purposely trying to sabotage you...just be careful, and let it go, and certainly avoid asking her for advise!

    I really like the response above "You might be right". I use it all the time with my mother-in-law!
    A lot of this. If people can get to you that easily, you really need to work on thickening your skin. Yes, they're annoying, but if you're ever actively angry or actively thinking about her outside of your job space where you're directly interacting with her, you've already let her affect you way too much. Nitpicking nosey busybodies will always be anywhere you work -- you really just have to ignore them.


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