Why are nurses such back-stabbers? - page 18

Why do nurses feel the need to "tattle" on colleagues to the boss for petty things? Behavior like this does nothing to elevate our profession and everything to keep us down. Why are there some... Read More

  1. by   Ruby Vee
    Quote from cavmedic16
    they do it because they are mostly females and thats what little girls do....it is behavior that they learned as children and never grew up. they also teach nurses to tattle on each other in school.

    another misogynist heard from.
  2. by   nursel56
    Quote from cavmedic16
    And as for other careers I have had many banking, construction retail and military I have been in healthcare now for 6 years and nurses are by far the biggest tattle tales and backstabers I have ever seen. I am a nurse and I can say without a doubt that as a group nurses are the worst group of people I have ever encountered.
    nevermind
    Last edit by nursel56 on Feb 12, '12
  3. by   Asystole RN
    The only team I am on is my patient's team. Everyone else can go to hell, in the professional sense of the term of course.

    As a professional registered nurse it is my professional duty and legal obligation to report any action or inaction that would endanger the welfare of the patients. In addition to this, I am again compelled by professional integrity and mandated by state law to report any behavior that can be seen as immoral, unprofessional, unethical, or other behavior that demonstrates a lack of professional integrity.

    There is no room for the "old boys club" in nursing, there are too many lives at stake for that garbage.
  4. by   cavmedic16
    OMG you sound like a quote from some ethics text book ;and you miss quoted the name of the club It's "The Good Old Boys club" And I think your being a little over zealous in what you think you need to report. You are required by law to report any act that puts a patient at harm there is no legal responsibility to report another nurse for "ANY"act that may be seen as unprofessional or immoral ;If so almost every nurse I know would have to be reported on a weekly basis for what they do after a few to many drinks to some randome guy in the backseat of a Jaguar or something similar in a bar parking lot.
  5. by   cavmedic16
    You need to think more like a man; we say whats on our mind ,and you can say anything to anyone as long as nobody else can hear...In your case whatever that person told your boss you said when questioned about it all you need to say is "What?....No she said that that s*&t to me"..and as long as nobody heard you she cant prove anything.
  6. by   subee
    Have you heard of the ANA code of ethics? In my state, nurse-executives are mandated to report nurses caught using drugs on the job...unless the nurse enrolls in a program which requires temporary license surrender.
  7. by   nursel56
    "The Old Boys Club" refers to an oligarchy of wealthy power brokers who generally maintain their control through graft, bribery, threats, thuggery, shady deals and the like. They look the other way when one of them commits a crime. This is also known as "the smoke-filled room". The "Good Old Boys Club" (if such a thing existed) would probably consist of a few stereotypical "redneck" types at the local bar spending their paychecks on booze and perhaps (in serious instances) meth. They tend to be overdue for a trip to the dentist by at least 12 years.

    Since it is highly unlikely that most of the women you work with actually engage in the recreational activity you mentioned I'd have to just agree "another misogynist heard from".

    It's also a really bad idea to advise someone to lie about what they said when asked about it.
    Last edit by nursel56 on Feb 15, '12
  8. by   NocturneNrse
    I'm a woman too, but I am someone who does my job, treats others respectfully, doesn't get involved in the gossip etc etc. Maybe I'm more like a guy.. lol.. I don't know.

    I see this EVERYWHERE in nursing. It's horrible!!

    I've recently had to deal with another supervisor (I supervise on her "off nights" she on mine)..reporting things to the DON that were petty and just crap that she wanted to have the DON focus on to make ME look bad as opposed to the actual issues. There was nothing that I had done wrong, she just wanted to "b" about something. Now, I've heard from two of my nurses, that she has been "slamming" me on the nights I am off. Very unprofessional. I'm still usure of how I'm going to deal with this.. may just let her keep making a fool of herself and say nothing.

    BUT.. this is RAMPANT in nursing!!! I hate it.. it's the MAIN reason I am getting OUT of nursing.

    It's so funny how, those that gossip about others, or roll eyes, talk about other nurses and how they hadn't done something right etc etc... are SO unable to accept responsibility for mistakes they may have made.
  9. by   sofla98
    So, in other words, you're probably one of those nurses this SIX year old thread is about. Or, you are a new nurse who doesn't understand what she is talking about but used big words to try and sound smart...I mean seriously? Re-read your comment. It is absolutely one of the most ridiculous things I have ever read on AN. I really hope I never have to work with you. Just sayin'.
  10. by   damrcngrl95
    Quote from Asystole RN
    The only team I am on is my patient's team. Everyone else can go to hell, in the professional sense of the term of course. As a professional registered nurse it is my professional duty and legal obligation to report any action or inaction that would endanger the welfare of the patients. In addition to this, I am again compelled by professional integrity and mandated by state law to report any behavior that can be seen as immoral, unprofessional, unethical, or other behavior that demonstrates a lack of professional integrity.There is no room for the "old boys club" in nursing, there are too many lives at stake for that garbage.
    It's because people twist these obligations around so that they can beat someone over the head with it. I taught for many years and this was the excuse for the pettiness teachers used to tattle on each other. Also someone mentioned the military and if the unit culture allowed the hint that tattling was ok then it was rampant. It was also an excuse to beat someone emotionally. Only when the boss forced people to work it out did the tattling go away. My old boss was a retired SMG. and he was the biggest offender of allowing teachers to tattle. So it's not just nursing , but other careers too. When we are expected to act like professionals is when we do. Itis not a "girl" thing. When I had female bosses I had less gossip problems. I think it wasn't because they were female, but because they didn't put up with the pettiness.
  11. by   RN_travlr
    Jealousy....its true...
    If you know who is saying what..I would confront them. Not yelling and screaming....but in a grown up manner....this person has probably been a bully and never had anyone confront them before.
  12. by   RN_travlr
    Jealousy....its true...If you know who is saying what..I would confront them. Not yelling and screaming....but in a grown up manner....this person has probably been a bully and never had anyone confront them before.
  13. by   pat8585
    My 2 ....it isn't the nurse part...it is the woman part.

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