The introverted nurse - page 3

by esunada 16,141 Views | 30 Comments

Hello, I'm a nursing student. i just had my clinical eval and my prof focused almost the entire session on how quiet I was, how I need to be more assertive in clinicals, talk in class more, and be confident - have more of a... Read More


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    esunada.... i just got a flashback of my clinical eval with my second semester clinical instructor all over again. same thing happened to me. if i could go back, i would tell her to kiss my behind! i did not need to be loud and obnoxious like some of my fellow classmates to get through nursing school. she even questioned my ability to make it as a nurse because she thought i was too quiet.

    i did not find the need to step on other people just so i could answer the question first, or be sneaky and get the first procedure (foley, ng tube, shots etc..)i did answer questions, i did talk to my pts, i did do procedures... i just didn't tell her of every single moment.

    i recommend to just be yourself. your knowledge, grades and skills will show. it's sad that i almost contemplated kissing her behind just so she would give me a great eval. i finished my lpn program, graduated and have had no problem getting jobs.

    loud isnt always better! listening is! just get through nursing school.
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    OP, you are going to do fine. Some people are drawn to loud, boisterous types and those people might prefer those qualities in their nurse. There are just as many people, however, who are drawn to the quiet, calm personalities. You will never please everyone, so just be yourself and don't worry about what other people think!
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    I am also a nursing student! I tend to me more introverted. Many of my classmates would say that I am one of the quiet ones. However, I tend to be very open, talkative with friends, family and coworkers. Besides the quiet introverted side I can also be out going. As a child I was extremely shy and quiet, but over the years I have opened up tremendously ever since I started a part time job in retail 6 years ago. When I am caring for patients I am able to listen and communicate with them. One of the most important things we can do as nurses is to use our listening skills.
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    I think introverts sometimes make extroverts nervous because they wonder what we're thinking since it doesn't come spilling out of our mouths all the time. It is not a crime to be an introvert and introverts can most certainly be good nurses. I am an introvert and many of my patients tell me I have a calming presence. It does get old to be harassed for being an introvert--I quit apologizing for it a long time ago--it is who I am.

    On the other hand I recognize that being around people is draining for me and being alone is how I regain my energy so I do not work 12-hour shifts. I find that 12s are not good for me or my patients. Be yourself and do your own thing--I don't think patients appreciate a someone faking it.

    :-)
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    i too am an introvert and will begin nursing school in august. i think i will make a great rn and am excited to follow my dream to become a nurse. however, i hope my introverted nature will not hinder my success. i too hate it when people tell me how quiet i am. i feel insulted and it makes me feel like insulting them in return (we're all not perfect). what's wrong with being quiet? i speak up when necessary, and have given presentations. i'm just not good with small chit chat unless it's on a one-on-one setting.

    it was refreshing to read all the comments. good luck to all us introverts!
    mitral likes this.
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    I am EXTREME introvert as well (we seriously need to form an introverted nursing club LOL) and here are my words of wisdom to you which I hope you keep in mind: If you posted on this website because you were hoping for support, that means you are willing to accept our opinions as advice. So why not accept your own advice? You can go ahead and make your own "rules" about this. At the end of the day, introverted, extroverted, whatever it may be, people will dislike you. You will not make everyone happy, someone will always dislike you. So do whatever you feel comfortable doing (without hurting anyone), and if it works, it works, if it doesn't..then either change the rules you set for yourself, or keep searching for your niche!

    Honestly, no one can tell you what is right or wrong for a situation like this, where our type of personality is so vastly different from our coworkers...(I work in OB..lol Imagine the loudness of that floor!). So since there is no right or wrong, just muster up that confidence to do your own thing, and see how it works for you. You can force yourself to be an extrovert (not recommended), or you can stay true to yourself, orrrrr find some sort of middle ground, where yes, you will push yourself to uncomfortable lengths just to fit in... Totally UP TO YOU.

    I feel your pain! I just started working, and it is such an annoying see-saw personality I'm developing...I'm talking at times when I just want to sit and be left alone. I feel the need to fill in silence because I feel guilty if I'm the one who is being silent! Ugh, not fun. But I'm still trying to find my own path of happiness, just liek you. It will take time and patience. And people who are not introverts just don't understand that...so yeah, I totally see where you are coming from.

    Hang in there fellow nursing buddy!!
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    As long as you can effectively communicate with your patients, you are probably better off as an introvert. I am an extrovert and sometimes I have a hard time turning it off. I will be mentally telling myself to shut up and I still can't. But, the two introverts in my clinical group are just wonderful with the patients. Don't worry. You'll find your own way, which may not be your instructor's way.
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    I'm pretty introverted. I got great reviews from my clinical instructors in school but they always had something to say about my confidence. When I first started working as an RN my confidence level was shot...but after working it has grown tremendously. I do deal with emergency situations and on the inside I feel like I'm dying lol but my patients tell me I didn't look nervous at all. There are still times where I am afraid to call a physician (particularly the ones who are known to have an attitude problem) but that still doesn't keep me from getting my job done and being my patient's advocate. None of my patients complain.
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    I love this posting... Nice to know that I'm not the only introvert that became a nurse in a very extroverted world.
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    I know this is an old post, but I am just now finding it. I am an extreme introvert. I have been told my entire life that I'm too quiet. I have been a nurse for many, many years. I have earned respect from my co-workers, but yet I am still told that I'm too quiet by others in the field despite my accomplishments. I would highly recommend the book "Quiet: The power of introverts in a world that can't stop talking" by Susan Cain.


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