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- May 7, '12 by OCNRN63Quote from Hygiene QueenI know this is TMI, but that made me laugh so hard I farted.Give her a high-five?
- May 7, '12 by OCNRN63as to what i would have done? i would have knocked really hard on the door and said loudly, "dr. so-and-so, you are needed in icu (or wherever)." as someone else said, it really isn't too hard to figure out.
this reminds me of a scene from downton abbey, when the head housekeeper heard noises from behind a door. she unlocked the door and found a soldier and a maid in delicto flagrante. in this case, nothing happened to the soldier, but the maid was sacked.
- May 7, '12 by classicdameBOTH have moral issues and lack of judgment. But that is not against the law and you cannot reprimand unless it is against policy. The BON might be interested, but I would recommend contacting AMA as well.
- May 7, '12 by CrazedMy dude works as a registrar in a very large ED on nights.
As he says, "It is a meat market in there. You'd think we were all at a night club."
I've experienced this first hand as his crew of people sometimes go out to breakfast after shift, and a married coworker (secretary) approached him one morning and suggested they get a room because no one would "ever find out." He thanked her for her interest, told her he was flattered, but explained to her that it violated his morals and that even if no one ever said a word I would know. He told her that his girlfriend was like a psychic detective and that eventually I find out everything.
In all seriousness though it comes down to patient care. How focused can we really be on care if we're busy trying to get busy? I won't judge either one of them for the infidelity because it's not my place but I will say that both of them are cheap and should have paid for a hotel.
I wonder - can they bill insurance for the room?
- May 7, '12 by ThePrincessBrideI still can't believe all the people here who are defending their behavior. I suspect some people in this thread who have done exactly what this couple did.
There is a time and a place for everything and having sex at your place of work is unacceptable....unless you are a porn star. What is wrong with some of you?!?
- May 7, '12 by RURN2O11I am a very young nurse but I have always believed that sex & the work place do not mix. I learned this at my very first job when I was 17 & worked at an office w/ a married couple. They often brought their own marital/home problems w/ them to the office & things got nasty for everyone as a result. Ever since then, I've been of the opinion that relationships & sex do not mix well w/ any work environment. I know single people are going to meet at work & when you have the schedules that nurses & drs do it's quite likely that if you're single the only realistic place you're going to have time to meet someone is at work. However, I still believe sex & the work place should not go hand in hand. Yes, some relationships are going to start at work & if both people can be professional & mature about it then that's ok. But the moment it starts to negatively impact patient care then something needs to change. Having sex in the actual work place is just unprofessional & stupid. What if a dr is receiving a very important page but he/she is too "busy" to answer it? That is not safe for the patients. And sadly stories like this do just reinforce all kinds of stereotypes about nurses & drs that are mostly not true (at least not in my area b/c we are too busy actually working to "get busy" w/ each other). I know some affairs are going to start at work also, but leave it outside the work place. Regardless of our positions, we are all at work to take care of patients in some format. Leave the sex at home.
- May 7, '12 by Flaresure... it's tacky - but they are consenting adults. One off duty - one a contracted (i'd assume) physician. The doc should answer his pages, and i am hoping that the manhunt only began after an acceptable amount of time, overhead paging, calling other floors, etc. if not then it sounds like CCU nurse knew what was up and was just trying to bust them, which is tacky in it's own regard.
- May 7, '12 by BlueDevil,DNPOh come on kids. It's just sex. Who cares really. I agree with ther person who suggested the OP doesn't have all the facts, because it is just too lame and stupid to think any allegedly intelligent person would do that, or that the maintainence man would even agree to it! Between the three of them, I'd think at least he would have a lick of sense, lol. I also expect that they would have heard them working on the door. The tale just doesn't ring true. Unless they were being sneaky and wanted to catch them, in which case It hink those three ought to get fired. The lucky couple gets a high five from me too. Good for them.
Newsflash: I have sex when I'm on call, and guess what, they have to wait until I'm finished before I return the call. They also have to suck it up and wait if I decide to eat a meal, take a shower or use the toilet. Pretty much the only time I'll return a call or page immediately is if I was sleeping, and that's only because I wasn't busy doing something else, lol.
- May 7, '12 by Andy DroidQuote from 33762FLFrom the orriginal post....but I do care that this is a safety issue. The MD was on call and didn't answer the page. They locked themselves into a room - what if somebody needed to get into that room for patient care purposes and could not?
Quote from pawsomepooch47It was a sleep room, not a PTs room.After several attempts to reach him, she went looking for him, thinking he might be sleeping(that's allowed) Upon hearing voices behind the sleep room door
And as for him not answering the page.... then why do they have policy in place that allows them to sleep? instead of "getting to know" that nurse, he could have just as easily been a deep sleeper.
- May 7, '12 by AutymnI would have went and gotten another staff member as witness to what I thought I was hearing behind the closed door; THEN banged on the door loudly and said, "I, nor anyone else on staff is getting any right now, and you're not either (*or something else just as pithy.) Get the hell out here and do what you are supposed to be doing, NOW." And...if I got an armageddon of excuses or crap from them, then I would go report it.
Immoral yes. But the only judgement call which belongs to the person who 'caught' them should be the immediate repercussions of how the situation pertains to the immediate needs of the staff/patients etc. I would expect management to make discipline decisions...and then the staff member who had to put up with the crap could go have a coffee at Starbucks after her shift, and use her moral compass to complain about the low morals to a friend, hopefully who is like-minded.