The Patient I Failed - page 7

by nerdtonurse? 375,075 Views | 321 Comments

She knew what she wanted. She'd watched her husband of 52 years die on a vent, and followed his wishes to remain a full code. But she knew that was not what she wanted for herself. So, she wrote a Living Will, had it... Read More


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    thanks for a beautiful story and sharing what it is like for us! the very ones that tkae care of these type patients.
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    Thanks nerdtonurse, that was a wonderfully written piece, it brought a tear to my eye. I have been in your shoes more than I would like, it is always hard to see a family member go against the patients wishes, it makes me so mad.
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    My goodness! I had no idea I'd win. Thanks for all the votes.

    And I've taken up the suggestions, both public and private, that I do something with this, and I've sent it to Reader's Digest.

    Thanks again!
    Thank you. You are speaking for many who you will never meet. Keep writing, and keep sending what you write to publishers! I really, really mean it.
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    Excellent article and a very deserving winner!
    CONGRATULATIONS!
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    I feel absolutely sick. Am I horrible for being grateful in my belief that karma will one day come back around to that daughter??
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    like one poster said. just. wow. beautifully written, just tragic. How selfish her daughter is...but as long as the patient was getting care in the hospital, why didn't anyone in the beginning check to see if there was a DNR? Or did I miss that part? Especially someone elderly, you would think that a nurse or social worker or doctor or someone would have checked to see if the patient had a living will or DNR....hmmm...

    Thank you so so much for sharing~
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    What a sad story and written so beautifully. You didn't fail this patient, you gave her dignity and love that Dr's and family couldn't give her.... its a sad sad world when we can give our pets a peaceful passing when they are ill and in pain but we can't respect the dying wishes of human beings.....redpinkhe
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    OMG!!
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    As a pre-nursing student, I was so touched with your sensitivity for this patient. This must have been one of the most difficult things you would have to do in your job. But, you did your job and performed well under the pressure, with compassion. Thank you for an example of how a nurse should handle such a situation. I will always remember your words.
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    Thx for yr sharing! Good article!
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