Passive/Aggressive

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    Dont you just love nurses who,will ***** and moan about you behind your back and will also hold a resentment against you for days because you forgot to do something on your shift,no the patient was not affected, and she had to take care of it on her shift ,but she will not communicate face to face with you and give you feedback about the problem so you can correct your mistake?
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    Yup.

    I always have the courtesy to take a problem I have with someone face to face, in the moment. I expect the same. I don't have the time or the patience for those who don't return the favor.

    Heather
    Last edit by OBNURSEHEATHER on Jan 7, '03
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    I face such people directly and pointedly tell them if there are any issues they are welcome to discuss them w/me. Those that do are met with only courtesy. Those that choose to stab me hear about it. And I know who they are....so do they. And they know I am direct and it usually cuts down on the bullshyt pretty effectively.
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    A pain in the arse so to speak.

    renerian
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    OOhhhhhhh......
    Just the other night, I walked up on the nurse I was to take over for to hear her say to someone on the phone... "She didn't do sh** last night!"
    When she saw me, she hemmed and hawed around, and hung up the phone.
    I said, "So, I didn't do anything last night, huh?"
    So she gets very defensive and starts in about how nebulizer tubing wasn't changed and treatments weren't done and so on and so on.
    I agreed, and told her that at the time tubing was to be chganged, I had a woman on the floor on her head...which was more important? and as far as treatments to be done...most were done....(like 2 weren't).
    And....I was informed that a catheter needed to be changed, but the patient told this nurse I didn't know how to change one. (Where was it marked on the TX sheet that it needed to be done on this night? It wasn't marked at all! And it did get changed...)
    Last but not least....I did inform this nurse that although I get to as much as I could, no, I didn't get to it all. I am a new nurse, only just passed my 3 month anniversary as a LPN, with absolutely no orientation, and I am trying to do the best I can. And no, I don't get everything done every night trying to muddle through and learn things on my own, and if she has anything else to say about me, I would appreciate her saying it to me.
    She ended up apologising, but it still grates on me.
    Worst thing is, I thought she was my friend. Now I really see what it's all about.
    Lately~ crap is really getting bad......
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    Originally posted by Julielpn
    Worst thing is, I thought she was my friend. Now I really see what it's all about.
    Lately~ crap is really getting bad......
    A great reason never to go to work, expecting to make friends. I am so sorry for this. What a HUGE letdown. Some people are just no damn good. period.
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    Julielpn,arent some nurses just wonderful? And it is a huge let down when a nurse who is supposedly your friend or a nurse whom you "used" to respect pulls this passive aggressive crap.
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    Yea, you gotta watch out for those passively aggressive folks and those aggressively passive ones always get you when you're not looking.

    I like the agressive agressive types and the passive passive types. At least you know where they're coming from.
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    funny I should happen upon this thread after last night/this morning...
    okay, no big mystery , as far as nurses go, I'm a relatively young one..okay fine, but it doesnt mean that I dont know what I'm doing ...
    well we have this "seasoned" (thats what she calls herself) nurse and she was on the team I worked on last night, keeping in mind that they have 3 nurses on that team for days and I was on my own with that team overnight, okay so she's talking to the boss and fussing because in one of my three (one out of three!!!!!!!!!!!!!) isolation rooms, the isolation hamper had some gowns in it *Gasp* first of all it was by no means full and secondly the patient had a bazillion family members in and out of there, so after I go in do my thing ,tidy up and whatnot they go in and mess it all up again .... I didnt even try to say anything because I knew where the conversation was going as soon as I heard the following "well I'm from another generation, another school of training , where importance was placed on things that arent important to the young nurses today"
    yeah like culturing bacteria to come up wity penicillin, well we have penicillin now, so lets step into the year 2003 already
    sheesh
    okay this isnt an older nurse vs younger nurse post, cuz trust me when I say I have tons of "seasoned" nurses that I get on just fine with, I happen to think that this "seasoned" nurse is also the passive/aggressive sort we are talkin about....

    where is a nice seasoned pasture when you need one?
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    I totally agree........ why can't people just vocalize to the appropriate person... esp when it is silly things that dont affect the patient.... but are housekeeping type things....dumb things..... the patient is fine, they got what they needed... how about u ask how my night was before you jump to conclusions??? dont mind my probably incoherent speach...i just worked a night last night

    ranting and raving and not telling the right person does nothing but decrease the morale of the unit.... i could go on.... ugh... that has to be my number one pet peeve though......


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