Nursing Hostility and Other Nonsense - page 3

by RegisteredNuisance

In my short career as a nurse I've seen some terrible behavior among nurses, and I'd like to share my take on things. I've only been a year for two years, and working as a nurse for 13 but in that short amount of time, I've... Read More


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    We have to work very closely with each other and with other groups in the organization (project management, factory, implementation, sales, purchasing, legal, accounting, etc.). Most work is done as a team. Each member of the team has clearly defined responsibilities. We also each have our areas of expertise. if we are working on something we don't know well, but that a team member does know we reach out to that team member for support / training. There is so much to know that no one could know it all.

    The companies offer training on building a sense of teamwork, communicating with difficult people, etc. You can learn the skills needed to create a positive culture, but your management has to embrace it. if you are interested in that type training, you should check with your HR dept. I know from friends who work there that one of our local hospitals does this type of training for their staff. From the perspective of a patient at that hospital it seems the staff really enjoy their jobs there. (Their happy demeanor made my 4 day stay there much more pleasant.)

    I hope you are able to change the culture in the hospital. As a society we need good nurses, but good people aren't going to enter or stay in the field if they dread going to work.
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    Quote from AWanderingMinstral
    This IS a generalization, BUT stereotypes exist for a reason. So, I'll sum up the problem in one word: women. I'm a gay male nurse and I rarely encounter drama and, more importantly, I won't put up with it. I'm IN THE MOMENT with my patients, but I don't take any of it home with me and, if you're organized and know how to prioritize (and no one just coded), you shouldn't be there more than 15 minutes past your scheduled shift time. It's a 24/7 biz. So, someone will be there to pick up where you left off. And for the individual who noted nurses looking for a resident to have a fling with/marry, the residents look for nurses too. Be well!
    I absolutely agree with you! Like I said in my first post...we women tend to fight over the smallest/pettiest things(I am generalizing as well). At my first nursing job these nurses(females) would ALWAYS fight over who was going to take their lunch break first. They both worked the 7am-7:30pm shift and they both wanted the 1:30-2pm lunch break slot. NEITHER would budge and take the 1-1:30p slot or the 2-2:30p slot. So the charge nurse literally had them rotate...one day one would go at 1:30, the next day the other would go at 1:30. Pretty pathetic that such a rotation had to be implemented huh?

    Another fond memory was someone nearly clawed my eyes out because I walked away with their Cross name brand pen. For those who don't know, Cross manufactures high end pens and pencils...I think a "cheap" cross pen goes for $47.00. Anyway I borrowed it for a second and accidentally walked away with it. It was a pure accident and I got accused of stealing my co-workers beloved $80.00 PEN! I asked her why bring such an expensive pen into a 1,200 bed teaching hospital? I then proceeded to tell her that she was lucky it was just me that borrowed her pen and was able to walk two feet to find me...because next time a resident from ortho or urology comes to consult with one of our patients and borrows her beloved pen for just a second, she will blink and they will be gone, and her pen will be lost among a sea of residents. Of course I was in the wrong. I of course gave it back and apologized profusely. Had I intended to steal it I would have told her I gave it back to her already. Anyway...if I had a dollar for every time someone "stole" one of my paper mate pens, my bank account would contain an 9 figures...this is why I bring paper mate pens and not Cross pens...not to mention if I got angry every time someone "stole" one of my pens, every vein in my head and neck would be busted.

    See what I mean? Petty things really ruffle feathers..at least around my workplace they do.
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    One of the benefits of working in home health is you don't spend a great amount of time around your coworkers, so there's not too much opportunity to get on each others' nerves. I also happen to work with an awesome group of nurses, who are genuinely nice people. I've been in the hostile, back stabbing, petty nonsense infused working environment too, and it's miserable. You have to just put your head down and work, and try to avoid your coworkers at all costs. Not a fun place to be. I'm very blessed to work where I do now.
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    I think i respect everybody and try to give my co-workers the benefit of doubt when they fall short in their performance. I do not compromise the care of my patients for anything even frienship. When i started working as a nurse it was hard for me to accomodate to the real world of nursing. I bought the idea of the fantasy world created by my proffessors and end up believing it. I will work hard and always give the extra mile not only for my patients but also for my fellow nurses and felt not appreciated at all. The more i did the less appreciated i was. I work dayshift (12 hours).....of course just the fact of working days makes it harder work because you deal with the family members at all times, you need to keep up with the orders, your documentation, the pt's status and i worked in a busy floor that i called a factory. Pt's have become numbers lying on beds awaiting for the expected discharge in which the institution expects to get the more of the insurance withouth loosing money.... I noticed that not only nightshif staff did not appreciate the extra effort that i did but my dayshift co-workers looked at me like an idiot who struggles to do more and being uncapable of managing things! I became so furious about me that i decided to hold people responsible for their actions and demanding more of them. To cite and example... If i have to discharge 3 pts after 5 pm i discharge 2 instead and i do not feel guilty about leaving a discharge for the incoming shift... It was them that boom... They started to noticed how i cared more about my time management and not about providing comfort forthem at my expense! It is still hard for me to deal with lazy people, but i do my best to deal with them.thanks jesus that my co-workers respect me and when i demand from them more they are more receptive. I do not know what your case may be. Forgive them. If you are the type of passive rn who always falls short you may be upseting your fellows with your performance; i am sure that if you attempt to improve they will star appreciating you more.on the other hand if you are like me that loves to be on top of the ball, cares very much about my patient and struggles to perform their best be patient and give your fellow nurses the benefit of doubt when they perform poorly! I have learn that even though all of us are rn not all of us have the knowledge and experience and some people is to be educated....it may be your chance to be proactive and teach others. In addtion, as sad as it is, some people are rn because they only care about the money....they do not understand the many of the word caring, or empathy! It is terrible to realized that there is people out there that their agenda is clocking out on time!
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    I've worked in other professions and there is non worse than some large hospital atmospheres. Most employee do it for the benefits, but the high stress atmosphere brings out the worst in people, and it's only going to get worse. So have fun wanting to "Help the patient." Like it should be.
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    And then we have the nurses who like to write people up. I sometimes hear the same 1 or 2 nurses saying how they are going to write this one up or that one up. They even say this about the docs. This upsets me and makes me sad at the same time. No one is perfect and we all work hard to take care of the patients. I believe people like this are mean spirited and are on some type of a power trip. These people can also be dangerous to ones career if they decide they don't like you.
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    I can only say here that the more men in nursing the better off the profession will be...
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    Quote from AWanderingMinstral
    This IS a generalization, BUT stereotypes exist for a reason. So, I'll sum up the problem in one word: women. I'm a gay male nurse and I rarely encounter drama and, more importantly, I won't put up with it. I'm IN THE MOMENT with my patients, but I don't take any of it home with me and, if you're organized and know how to prioritize (and no one just coded), you shouldn't be there more than 15 minutes past your scheduled shift time. It's a 24/7 biz. So, someone will be there to pick up where you left off. And for the individual who noted nurses looking for a resident to have a fling with/marry, the residents look for nurses too. Be well!
    Could you imagine if nursing was a gay male dominated profession? Just thinking of the amount of cattiness I would be confronted with on a daily basis, is enough to make me cringe in horror. This is, of course, a generalization

    I completely agree with poster who said the issue lies in the culture and work environment promoted by management. Can women be catty? Absolutely! With that being said, it is the job of management to take the few individuals who exhibit that behavior aside and handle the situation accordingly.

    A statement like, "I can only say here that the more men in nursing the better off the profession will be...", is insensitive toward women and hardly accurate. Trust me, I know all about poor management and the issues it causes--concerning men and women alike!
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    Quote from GabbyT23
    Could you imagine if nursing was a gay male dominated profession? Just thinking of the amount of cattiness I would be confronted with on a daily basis, is enough to make me cringe in horror. This is, of course, a generalization

    I completely agree with poster who said the issue lies in the culture and work environment promoted by management. Can women be catty? Absolutely! With that being said, it is the job of management to take the few individuals who exhibit that behavior aside and handle the situation accordingly.

    A statement like, "I can only say here that the more men in nursing the better off the profession will be...", is insensitive toward women and hardly accurate. Trust me, I know all about poor management and the issues it causes--concerning men and women alike!
    I can assure you that we'd have better uniforms...
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    When I did tech support, I was one of 2 women in a department of 7 people. Men can be just as vindictive, manipulative, and petty as women.
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