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Self-esteem can be defined as the extent to which we deem our value, worth, and competence as a person. It factors significantly in how we view ourselves and the manner in which we progress through... Read More

  1. Visit  Kashia profile page
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    Quote from HM-8404
    I am going to get blasted for this, so bring it on. One of the reasons I think this occurs in nursing is because it is dominated by females. Women are very competitive with each other. Rather than banding together they rip each other apart. In male dominated fields if management ticks us off, we as a group, get mad at management not each other. We don't think if we can make a co-worker look bad that will take the focus off of us. I have had many female friends tell me that they get along better with men than other women because women are too catty.

    Your comment is so right on, to the point and true! Would much rather work with male charge nurse especially or at least other male floor nurses. It does make a difference in the balance of attitudes and energies. Thank you for posting this.
    TJ'sMOM, Szasz_is_Right, and lindarn like this.
  2. Visit  Kashia profile page
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    Low self esteem I imagine would stem from looking for natural "man" to provide you with something they can not.

    The more disillusioned we become, the more blind we become, the more lost we are, the longer we stay on the same empty

    road -the worse we feel...and are.
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  3. Visit  yadda_yadda_yadda profile page
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    SO true! We've got a supervisor that has a select % of the staff as 'FaceBook friends', and actually talks about this in front of the others...and wonders why the morale is as it is.
    The 'friends', of course, can do no wrong.
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  4. Visit  PsychKnits profile page
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    Years of dealing with back-stabbing, drama, snarky comments and passive-aggressive behaviors takes a toll on one's self-esteem. Most of my experience in nursing has been like an abusive relationship. I know several nurses who meet the criteria for PTSD due to incidents on the job. It seems that admin staff supports this type of environment- after all, how can staff rally in support when they are constantly bickering? A staff member said this to me the other day: "Its the people who walk around with a smile on their face that I don't trust. Those are the ones who are stabbing you in the back."
  5. Visit  TheCommuter profile page
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    Quote from PsychKnits
    Most of my experience in nursing has been like an abusive relationship.
    One of our other members, who happens to be a nurse with 30+ years of experience, jokingly mentioned that you need a 12-step program to get out of nursing.
    Quote from PsychKnits
    A staff member said this to me the other day: "Its the people who walk around with a smile on their face that I don't trust. Those are the ones who are stabbing you in the back."
    This is very true. Passive-aggressive coworkers use indirect methods to express their aggression. Therefore, they outwardly smile and act agreeable, but they are secretly focused on sabotaging the colleagues whom they dislike. One thing I cannot stand is being forced to work with a passive-aggressive coworker.
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  6. Visit  Hygiene Queen profile page
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    Quote from PsychKnits
    "Its the people who walk around with a smile on their face that I don't trust. Those are the ones who are stabbing you in the back."
    I like this post x 20!!
  7. Visit  lifeisgood2012 profile page
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    This article is interesting to me. I searched for nurses and low self esteem to see what could help me after
    my punch in the stomach termination last week - and while I was reading through this I realized I have a
    few of these "symptoms" but not tons of them. I do tend to be overly hard on myself - as I am sure most of us
    are - and I tend to be bruitally honest with myself too. My self esteem has increased over the past several years
    due to personal changes I have decided to make within myself. However, being new to the nursing profession and
    now after getting terminated (posted on another thread) I realized that my self esteem in this field is very low-
    it was before I got fired. Now - I was able to do the work - not be shy - jump in and ask questions - build
    rapport with the residents, families and staff - but my confidence as being a nurse in and of itself is lacking -
    does that make sense? My worth as a nurse in that capacity has only been external - I havent had the confidence
    within me to trust that I am a good nurse yet - I dont know if I am making sense - it does in my head.
    As with anything I want to do more to overcome this - I dont want it to be an obstacle. Its not in so many ways - yet
    I cannot continue determining my worth as a nurse based soley on what one person says - for example - one day when someone
    says I am doing good I am happy - when they say I am not I am sad. I still jump in and try and ask questions - but I think less
    of myself. I dont know. Ok. I hope someone understands what I am saying and can help me with this. Thanks.
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  8. Visit  TheCommuter profile page
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    Quote from lifeisgood2012
    My worth as a nurse in that capacity has only been external - I havent had the confidence within me to trust that I am a good nurse yet - I dont know if I am making sense - it does in my head. As with anything I want to do more to overcome this - I dont want it to be an obstacle. Its not in so many ways - yet I cannot continue determining my worth as a nurse based soley on what one person says - for example - one day when someone says I am doing good I am happy - when they say I am not I am sad. I still jump in and try and ask questions - but I think less
    of myself. I dont know. Ok. I hope someone understands what I am saying and can help me with this. Thanks.
    Keep in mind that the process of overcoming low-self esteem does not happen overnight. In the vast majority of cases, self-esteem problems developed early in life, so people who have low self-esteem are going to have to re-program their thoughts and views of themselves.

    As always, do not be afraid to seek professional help if you feel that this issue is hindering your professional and personal life.
  9. Visit  dmena14 profile page
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    Hello! Hi! I need help with this issue. Can I ask I question?
  10. Visit  TheCommuter profile page
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    Quote from dmena14
    Hello! Hi! I need help with this issue. Can I ask I question?
    Welcome to Allnurses.com! Feel free to post the question that you were wanting to ask.


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