Quote from iamgabrielle
i don't say much at work and i try to be really nice and friendly.. although i'm stressed out i try to keep my attitude in check. so i don't think i'm sending of negative vibes or energy towered them.. they react as if i killed a patient when i don't get to do things right away. im trying my best that's all i can say. one day i'll be good at it that's a promise i made to myself. i just need the exp then i'm out of that hospital. i cannot work with unprofessional people. enough said thank you very much
there's currently a thread about how someone was surprised and dismayed that a social, talkative nurse was hired rather than a quiet nurse with a great gpa. the reason that happens is that managers, like many people, would rather work with someone who is social. my manager expresses it like this: "we can teach them how to be good nurses, but we can't teach them how to be the people we want to work with."
being new is stressful, and if you're not very social (don't say much at work), your attitude may come across as snobby or standoffish -- people may conclude that you're not nice. especially if you're trying to keep your attitude in check. just reading your posts, i wouldn't be surprised if you were sending negative vibes out. i'm not saying that you intend you, and you probably don't even realize that you do . . . but i'm guessing that you do. now experienced folks, managers and old folks like myself ought to realize that the negative vibes are a result of you as a newbie being uncertain, stressed out and not the result of you being nasty or stuck-up. but in the moment, sometimes we don't -- we're human too.
probably the most unhelpful thing i can tell you is to relax and try to be social . . . i just don't know any other way to say it. maybe someone else who reads this can think of a better way to explain it.
the thing is, if you don't get to things in a timely manner, you can if not kill a patient, then at least cause them great harm. and if you're stressed and stress makes you quiet, they may not know how hard you're trying. (you are trying hard, aren't you?)
you can get some experience and then head to another hospital, but when you get that new job you'll still be there. i'm guessing that if you improve how you're interacting with your colleagues, they'll improve how they're interacting with you. as the newbie, it's your job to fit in. good luck. i wish you well.