Go Fund Me for Co-workers?

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If you're on Facebook, you're probably familiar with a Go Fund Me appeal being posted for a co-worker. I have mixed feelings about this.

Often, multiple people will repost for a particularly popular person. One recent post was the adult daughter of a gal who worked in the hospital, who died suddenly, trying to raise money for funeral expenses and to help her. Her goal was $20,000. I thought, what kind of funeral are you planning? It felt like she was trying to cash in on this.

When I see one for someone who has expenses from an illness, I think about the many people who also had illnesses, had to have FMLA perhaps, also incurred the extra expenses, and no Go Fund Me.

There are people who get into a pickle because they blow their money on trips, the casino, enabling adult children, or blowing their PTO and sick time frivolously. Then comes the cry for help when Murphy strikes.

Any thoughts?

Anyone ever hear the quote "A fool and his money are soon parted"? That's really all anyone is talking about here. True times of need, charity absolutely required, everyone understands those. Go Fund Me is just another way of reaching out to get help for those who need the charity. For those greedy bastards who just want to ask other people to fund their dream vacations, well isn't that really just another form of begging? They would have begged on a street corner, now they're doing it on the internet. If stupid people want to give greedy people, lazy people their money well more power to them. Eventually these stupid people will run out of extra money the greedy people will either get what they need or not depending on how many stupid people they could connive into forking over the cash. Buyer beware baby!

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Specializes in MH, ED, ICU.

Sometimes I donate to GFM accounts, and other times I don't. It depends on the circumstances and on my mood. For instance, I donated to one that someone had made a crappy comment on about how they'd just spent a week at Disney and "should've used that money for their bills instead." Well that week at Disney was c/o Kidd's kids and the person who made the comment looked like a moron when a friend linked him to the pics from their site. I saw it on Twitter and contributed, and I've always keep that particular one in the back of my mind because it shows you never really know someone's situation.

However, I usually don't donate to "help me go on this mission trip," or "help me get this elective surgery," blah blah. I am more apt to donate when it's a true medical issue beyond someone's control, a loss of possessions or dwelling r/t a catastrophe, or just someone I know who works their bottom off and can't catch a break.

Different strokes for different folks. If giving isn't your thing then don't do it; we all still give back in our own way anyway, right?

Specializes in MH, ED, ICU.
Right??!!

I run a good sized craft fair and i cannot tell you the number of vendors for LuLaRoe I have to turn away and some are angry! it is a CRAFT fair!!!

Isn't that the overpriced, one-size-fits-all leggings? I have a friend who tried to talk me into trying them. No thanks. My $5 ones from Walmart are just as comfy and have lasted me for years. Lol

Specializes in Psychiatric.

This is not a co-worker but someone I used to follow on Instagram. All last year she posted photos of her holidaying twice to Hawaii and one to Las Vegas (we live in Australia so the flights alone are huge and she took THREE holidays in 1 year) THEN she posts a gofundme request for $20'000 for skin removal surgery because she's lost a lot of weight. I couldn't help myself and asked 'Perhaps the 3 holidays to Hawaii and Las Vegas may have covered the cost?'.

She's raised $60 in 18 months...

I did donate to a GFM where an archeology student with a severe physical disability needed to raise funds to go on an archeological dig with all her equipment (wheelchair, oxygen, support staff). I was so impressed with her determination. She managed to go and had a fantastic time.

God grant me the serenity

to accept the things I cannot change;

courage to change the things I can;

and wisdom to know the difference.

I have to agree with most of these posts. I feel that GFM provides an opportunity for predators to take advantage of those kind people who want to "help" others through a rough time. On the other hand, I have seen GFM pages for co-workers who have lost everything to a fire, want to help a loved one without health insurance or pay for some vital medical equipment - this is different. I can verify whether or not my co-worker's catastrophe is valid or not. Also, the choice is mine whether or not I wish to donate. GFM attracts those who want to manipulate, misrepresent, and prey on others (without recourse). Unfortunately, every dollar earned serves as a positive reinforcement for their misdeeds. Like with anything else, it is our responsibilty to be smart and discerning or else you may get burned.

Specializes in ICU, Military.

I worked with an RN who posted a GFM to help pay for her 3 y.o. daughter's acting lessons because it was her dream. Um. No. Give me a break. Pay for that s**t yourself.

However, there is definitely a good place for GFM for truly charitable causes, but its abused way too often imho.

Specializes in Healthcare risk management and liability.

Sometimes I think if folks don't have the money, they should scale down their plans... Here's a link to an article on low-cost funerals, including free cremations. I now better understand why Costco sells coffins. Looking for a “low cost” or even FREE cremation service?

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