Different Types Of Coworkers - page 6
Let's face it: our colleagues are rather interesting people. Some of these individuals are awesome and, as a result, our workdays flow smoothly whenever we work with them. Other people are, well, not... Read More
1Oct 31, '12 by multi10To tnmarie:
You misunderstand me. I laugh at all of it. I'm Irish-american (I just labeled myself) and we tend to laugh even when we're hurt. (Is this becoming cringe-worthy? Forgive me.) Labels, assigned by other people, especially people you have to see every day at work, can be hurtful.
It's a different matter if you label yourself.
I've been called a "flirt" at work. If a nurse talks to a doctor, for maybe a little too long in others' eyes, she's a "flirt." Eventually I developed a slightly thicker skin while growing in confidence and competence along the way.
You get to a point where you shed the label. Shrug it off like an ugly itchy scarf.
1Oct 31, '12 by MotherRNQuote from multi10I should clarify that I save my labels for personal use (to share with family and friends without revealing real names). I don't gossip with co-workers or share the labels at the work. That is hurtful, unprofessional and too risky.Archetypes can be fun to recognize, as a group. When it's made personal at the workplace, not so much.
Would you like to know that your colleagues call you "The Intimidated Nurse", or any other label?
Name-calling, when it's personal, is never okay unless you are praising your colleague.
We change and evolve each day. What name will you be tomorrow?
1Oct 31, '12 by tnmarie, LPNQuote from MotherRNVery true! We all know where we fall and are usually painfully aware of our weaknesses. There is no need to be hurtful or rude about it and definitely no need to bring it up at work. That would be incredibly unprofessional (and kind of mean!). Of course if you are "the bully", then that is exactly the kind of stuff you would do .I should clarify that I save my labels for personal use (to share with family and friends without revealing real names). I don't gossip with co-workers or share the labels at the work. That is hurtful, unprofessional and too risky.
1Oct 31, '12 by MotherRNQuote from PMFB-RNI did try to politely tell the Slow Cooker to just tell me the abnormals. Well, suffice it to say, she ultimately reported me for being 'disrespectful' and that was the tool used to fire me. (MUCH longer version of this in another post of mine).Hmmm, haven't you ever told an on coming nurse "hey just shut up and listen to my report. When I am done you may ask any questions you may have".
The only 'disrespectful' thing I ever did at work to her WAS to question her during her report-no bad language, no raised voice, no name calling-but still, somehow it was 'disrespectful' to question a co-worker about info being passed on or the manner in which it was reported.
I think from now on I will just 'grin and bear' whatever report I get, muddle through the shift afterwards...then go home and think up a REALLY scathing new nickname for my co-worker to post here to make me feel better
Total honesty on the job DOES NOT PAY!!!!
2Oct 31, '12 by mariebailey, MSN, RNMy favorite nurse is the hybrid nurse. They are the nurses who went to school later in life, so they tend to be lifelong learners with a wealth of life experiences to bring to the table. I particularly like the baby boomers who went to school with Generation X & Y. Open-minded, flexible, and peaceful presence.
2Nov 1, '12 by lorirn58This article is not talking about simple "flaws". This article is talking about unnecessary and ruinous behaviors in a profession where those behaviors DO NOT BELONG. I am glad that the article also mentions good behaviors and choices of ways to be in the nursing profession. We ALREADY know that people are people and these behaviors apply to ANY job. Stay on the topic at hand.
2Nov 1, '12 by lorirn58Multi10, the truth is the truth. Too much time is spent being politically correct and it causes a lot of grief and havoc in a profession where bully and inappropriate behaviors DO NOT BELONG. You need to consider the patient first.
Now, if you want to define and pigeonhole other human beings, perhaps you should tell them to their faces. Then wonder what they call you behind your back. But you probably don't care what they call you if they even bother with you at all. <this is a vicious circle you describe and illogical. Think about it.....
1Nov 1, '12 by multi10lorirn58:
"Illogical?" Don't...call...me...stupid. (Keven Kline, A Fish called Wanda.)
You labeled my reasoning illogical.
The fact is that I agree with most of what you said. Bullying and inappropriate behaviors cost tons of lost time, and unnecessary pain, and should be reported and banned. Of course we all consider the patient first or we won't last long on the job. Even the meanest most abusive nurses I've dealt with I believe had the patient first. Not true for the nurse that dips into the narc. box.
Consider the typical code or the typical ER admission and how we all mobilize for the patient at hand. The petty stuff falls by the wayside.
Maybe it's semantics. I define bullying as overt and in-your-face harassment. Labeling or typecasting can be sneaky and covert and a way for some colleagues to undermine a person.
The way I coped, successfully, was by concentrating on keeping my head down, my mouth shut (for the most part), and learning to be better.Last edit by multi10 on Nov 1, '12
0Nov 1, '12 by mariebailey, MSN, RNQuote from lindseylpnThat is me.The "unsure" nurse. they are always second guessing themselves.
0Nov 6, '12 by Aurora77, BSN, RNI've got one--the "takes no initiative" coworker. I can tolerate a lot in my coworkers, but this drives me batty. Seriously, after several months on the job, you should not have to ask basic questions over things you do daily. You should also be able to do more than the very bare minimum required (if you even do that much). Combined with a healthy dose of passive aggression and you've got one of the CNAs I have the "pleasure" of working with.