Quote from nadomel
Have any new grads feel like they are bullied by other nurses on the floor they work on.? First off I am a new grad with 10mths experience on a chf floor. I precept ed on mornings and opted for night shifts to work. I am naturally quiet . I must say I do observe a lot. When I came of precepting one night I got a new admission front the ED . When she came up to the floor I did everything for this patient and eventually found out that her bed was broken and I got her bed change without any help from my caregiver. I asked the patient if she needed anything else she said I need something to eat. I went to care giver and ask her if she could get the patient something to eat while i call the doc. Her response 'You can do it too' then she proceeded to nutrition room grab the other care giver and started discussing me. I was on the phone with the doc and observe all of this at the nursing station. My nightmare began there. I made one comment not to any one in general and asked what is the issue. One particular nurse told me that they said because I don't talk to them I should not ask them to do anything. Now these care givers never even much as say hi to me it never even bothered me. I have never asked them for anything except once. When I was precepting on morning I heard so many complaints about them. I seriously that they were making it up. I had no preconceived notions. I was here open and ready to learn. After that incident I really never asked for their assistant I found that caregivers from other floors were more willing to assist . I try to make my schedule so that I would not be on the same night they work. On several occasions they gather in groups and discuss me. They are loud at nights when patients are sleeping . I don't want to be apart of that. I had told a patient that he could not have ice cream one night. The care giver was not assign to my patient and gave the patient ice cream. I went to the caregiver that was assigned and asked what was going on. He explained to me that he had asked her to assist while he took a break. Fair enough. Yet when I pass the patient room there was the caregiver berated me in front of the patient. On several occasions both nurse and caregiver instigated patients to complain about me.Need less to say i was in shocked. There was even a rumor going around that no patients wanted to deal with me. On another occasion one particular nurse instigated an nurse to say she had a problem with me. Everything I do is under scrutiny. If I make the slightest slip up. They are ready and waiting to report me. I feel that this is not an environment conducive to learning . I feel like I should be a nurse with 20 years experience and absolutely know every thing. Some of the incidents that happen I can't really get in because I feel so disillusioned. Nurses are suppose to be caregivers, nuturer's instead we fight to tear down our very own. We seek every opportunity to write up someone instead of helping someone to grow in the field that we claim to love. A lot of my classmates that started with me have left. They have gone to other fields because it's not worth it. I hoping that someone can encourage me right now. Know matter what I do I can never measure up all because one particular cna started a rumor that I leave my patients room without giving them water.
Poor workplace relationships do not constitute bullying, and what you're experiencing is poor workplace relationships. By your own admission, you don't talk to your colleagues except if you want them to do something for you. No wonder they don't like you. Your one comment "not to anyone in general and asked 'what is the issue'" sounds passive-aggressive. If you're having a problem with a co-worker, it is up to you to talk to them about it. Not confront them, but talk to them. Ask them what's going on, have you inadvertently offended them somehow and to please let you know so you can fix it.
I can almost be certain that you HAVE offended your colleagues by not talking to them (unless you want something.) Workplace relationships can be difficult for us introverts, but you HAVE to invest the time in cultivating good relationships. You can see now what happens when you don't. Perhaps those caregivers never said hello to you and it never bothered you, but did you ever make the effort to say hello to them? Ask them how they are, how was their weekend, and did their kid's project do well at the science fair? Perhaps they were in the wrong by not saying hello to you, but you were equally in the wrong for not saying hello to them. And they already knew their colleagues; you didn't. So it was more important for YOU to try to fit in than it was for THEM to get to know you. Their workplace relationships were already established. You've even gone so far as to try to schedule yourself so you don't work with them. No wonder they're convinced you don't like them. And as long as they're convinced you don't like them, they aren't going to like you.
You're new, so of course everyone is watching you closely to see if you slip up. Those vulnerable patients are everyone's patients, not just yours. We want to make sure we can trust you before we take our attention off of you and let you loose with our patients. Orientation is just the start. If you've already made several mistakes -- or the same mistake several times -- people will watch you more closely. If they don't know you or like you, they'll watch you more closely. Another good reason to develop good workplace relationships.
If you're expecting your busy, overwhelmed colleagues to take the time to nurture your tender feelings, you've got the wrong idea about nurses and about workplace relationships. It's not about your feelings; it's about the patients, the work to be done. So toughen up already about your hurt feelings and get on with the job at hand. A big part of the job is teamwork, and so far you haven't indicated that you're willing to be part of the team. No one is "fighting to tear you down" -- they're all too busy holding their heads above water.
By the way -- it's entirely possible that you DID leave your patient without water. You're new, you can't possibly be expected to know everything or to remember everything. I left lots of patients without water, without call bells or without an extra blanket when I was new. The CNA is telling everyone about that because she doesn't like you. She won't like you unless or until you become likable. So be friendly. Say hello to everyone. Spend a moment or two chatting with everyone you work with -- seriously. It helps, and the time it takes is well worth it.