Another rude supervisor. What gives??

[SoCalRN1970]

I am with another company this month. After a few bad bad experiences I decided to give the specialty I love another chance. I have been doing hospice for 8.5 years. I have many employers. I have left jobs because the department closed, bait and switch, and even being asked to document fraudulently to submit a medicare chart for payment.

Its been awful. I would rate my experience Patient Care 9. Support, and management 2. You get the point.

I started with my last hospice company ever. I must say I as so excited to be hired by the owner. She is energetic, happy, positive. I thought I was in Shangri La. That was until I was introduced to my immediate supervisor, or clinical supervisor. I put my hand out and said to her when I saw her. "you must be Mary Jane, so nice to meet you". She said "Exactly who are you?". It was a tone that set the rest of our conversations.

I could write a list of issues, but the biggest is she openly rolls her eyes and staff meetings, tossese papers around and acts like she is soo over the top busy. Don't call her, she will tell you she is too busy to talk to you!

I took this the person who hired me only after being there a month. My concerns were not really downgrades, but there wasn't a lot of concern there. I was told to talk to my supervisor face to face. That would go real well, Mrs. mary Jane, you are rude....

I have had pleasant interactions since this reporting. But I have suspect the boss boss talked to her. I am still documenting issues. It's almost to the point of a stress leave. I made it a point to tell the boss boss, I treat everyone with respect and I expect the same back, not rolling eyes, tossing papers and harsh phone calls..

WHere in the world do these people come from? I mean, no training, unprofessional, rude and expect us to have respect for them?

[caliotter3]

Your real problem is with the boss boss who hired this person and puts up with that unprofessional and immature behavior. Watch yourself or you will be looking for a new job.

[Altra, BSN, RN]

From your post, you seem to have had the same, recurring problems at different employers. What conclusions can you draw from this?

[Isabelle49]

The 'rude' supervisor sounds like the perfect 'corporate employee'!

[SoCalRN1970]

From your post, you seem to have had the same, recurring problems at different employers. What conclusions can you draw from this?

I have come to the conclusion there are many supervisors who are beyong burned out and dont' recognize this. There is no need to be rude to your staff nurse or roll eyes during staff meeting. If I did it, I'd expect to be in trouble.

My conclusion? I didn't interview hard enough, I should of asked to meet with my immediate supervisor before I accepted, and unfortunately, I am sick of the abuse. It's time for me to walk away.

[SoCalRN1970]

Your real problem is with the boss boss who hired this person and puts up with that unprofessional and immature behavior. Watch yourself or you will be looking for a new job.

Art this point, to be terminated may not be such a bad thing.. THis is another horrific experience.

[carolmaccas66, BSN, RN]

Don't let her win.

Take her outside one day - or into a room where no-one can hear you - and confront her. Bullies don't learn unless u do this, and she will keep performing like a circus dog unless you do something.

Tell her exactly how you feel and that you ARE documenting everything. She will bully & bluster at first, but I bet after you tell her straight you aren't putting up with her c**p, she will eventually start acting a different way. She is testing you, you see. She may never by pleasant, but she may just start acting civil. I cannot believe the way she first greeted you - if it was me, I would have replied, in a louder voice; "And who are YOU exactly?" with a hand on the hip and a piercing stare! She's just trying to intimidate you.

I've done the above with a few bullies and it has worked, usually (unless the bullies have formed an office band, then nobody wins). Why should YOU walk away?

If u feel u can't cope, brush up the CV and I would schedule a meeting with the boss boss (as you say), and tell him/her EXACTLY what I thought of them - that's a nice feeling, as I've done it! AAAHH bliss!