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Joined Jun 20, '05 - from 'AZ'. She has '12' year(s) of experience and specializes in 'various'. Posts: 994 (51% Liked) Likes: 1,625

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  • Oct 7

    Quote from Elizabeth Blanchard Hills
    Greetings, All:

    As part of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I am currently working on a series of stories for the community.

    Specifically, I am interested in your personal narrative:
    • Have you ever been in an abusive relationship?
    • Are you currently in one, but thinking of leaving?
    • Have you yourself ever been an abuser?

    I you'd like to be interviewed, please PM me. Your personal point of view will be invaluable.

    Also, if you have specific questions you would like for the series to address, I'd love to hear them. Please post your ideas below. Here are a few ideas of my own:
    • Is there anything about our profession that makes us more (or less) vulnerable to becoming involved with an abuser?
    • We often hear how nurses "eat their young". Are nurses also abusers? In there a connection between bullying at work and bullying at home?
    • What patterns, if any, typify a victim and abuser?

    What do you ​think should be included in a series of posts about domestic abuse?
    I am uncomfortable with the idea of someone new to the forum asking such personal questions. We don't know you, and you've shared nothing about your own history or qualifications to write about domestic abuse. Nor do we know why you wish to interview members on an anonymous forum. It seems that if you're interested in the stories of domestic abusers and domestic abuse victims, you might contact a women's shelter, the YMCA (who, in the past at least, have had programs for abusers) or your local ER at 2 AM. Then, at least, you would have some assurance that the person you were talking to was legitimate.

    I wonder how many posters will admit to BEING abusers. The general line among abusers is "she MADE me do it." Or "I didn't hit her that hard". Or "She fell down the stairs -- she's really clumsy."

    Domestic abuse is a serious topic, and many members have shared their stories. I'd rather see a renewed thread or two about the subject that a series of articles from someone who is just "writing an article."

    But maybe that's just me.

  • Oct 7

    OP you probably won't like this but be grateful it is not worse. Back when I was active duty nursing I literally worked all three shifts every week as did all the other military nurses. It sucked. At least I was not alone in my misery.

    Onto the child issue I got very tired of hearing on every single holiday that the nurses with children had to have the holiday off because they were parents. My issue was even single childless folks like to have a major holiday off on occasion. We singles had family too.

    OP you have been given some good advice about advocating for yourself going forward and please pay heed to not raising the "I have a child" card with your co-workers. Single, married, childless or not we all have family, friends and lives outside of work so no one has a monopoly on scheduling needs.

  • Oct 7

    Quote from KHVILLE
    It has nothing to do with seniority. Having a child does matter actually. Nurses without children do not have to worry about childcare and should be available to work any given night. I was hired for day shift and am being assigned a Monday night shift because of "preference" and not necessity.
    You do NOT want to go there. Because you have no CLUE what other people's lives are like. Do not play the "I've got kids card"- it's irrelevant and makes you look like a special snowflake.

  • Oct 7

    Quote from KHVILLE
    It has nothing to do with seniority. Having a child does matter actually. Nurses without children do not have to worry about childcare and should be available to work any given night. I was hired for day shift and am being assigned a Monday night shift because of "preference" and not necessity.
    Um, no. Nurses without children may have other obligations and are not at the beck and call of you and your child's scheduling needs.

  • Oct 3

    Quote from lalonzo27
    I still don't see it right for a school to require medical records. If my child is in danger bc of a medical condition then I will offer that info. Their shots or physical isn't the schools business. My kids are healthy. It should be parental choice. I'm not a fan of being forced into things. There is no greater good when My top top priority is for my children. My children don't need an extra advocate. They have a large loving family. The school doesn't need to be involved in our medical records. Pro vaxxers would rather see happy well rounded loved children taken from their parents then to see them un vaccinated. That is the world today.
    Yeah, well if you want YOUR kids to go to school with MY kids then you have no choice but to follow the rules. The health and safety of the students is more important than your choice to believe whatever incorrect BS about vaccines and lice and HIPAA you choose to. Remain as ignorant as you like, and home school your kids.

  • Oct 3

    I hear ya. Wish I had some good advice. I just document all of my many attempts and hope for the best honestly. Of course, if it's extreme- I will get the principal involved. Most of them do comply once it means their child will miss a field trip/event.

  • Oct 3

    That teacher needs to back off. Nobody has ever died from going commando, plenty of people are without undies by choice on a daily basis.

  • Oct 2

    You knew I was late at bringing you the ice water you had asked for. I know you knew this because the nurse who relieved me that day told me about how you complained for quite some time about it. How you couldn’t believe I couldn’t keep up with the two patients I had in the CDU. You knew you didn't want to be in the hospital on Christmas Eve. You knew you had more important things to be doing. You knew you had family waiting for you to get home. But here are a few things you didn't know.

    You didn't know that my other patient, just across the hall from you, a 23 year old daughter of a loving family, mother of a 3 year old boy, had just gone from bad to very much worse. You didn't know how I kept my voice calm in the room as I told my aide to call for the doctor even though my internal voice was screeching. You didn’t know how many times I kept telling myself this wasn’t happening. I had taken a job away from my usual ICU so this wouldn’t happen. You didn't know, as I did, that her heart was going to fail her three seconds before she did. You didn't know the fear in her mother's eyes as I caught her gaze as I was compressing her daughter's chest. You didn't know about the controlled chaos that the code team always brings with it, the intubation, the bagging, the endless rounds of code drugs. You didn't know the word I uttered when the doctor finally gave up, nor the hatred with which it was uttered.

    You didn’t know how I begged him for one more minute even though I knew it would make no difference. You didn't know I was left alone in the room to clean up the aftermath, to make a very unnatural scene look somewhat natural for the family when they came back in. You didn't know that while I was getting that ice water that you received late I was thinking about what I could have possibly missed that would have made a difference. You didn't know that by the time I gave you that ice water I was blaming myself. You didn't know that after the family left I sat by her and told her how sorry I was that I failed. You didn’t know how incredibly heavy her body was as I assisted the funeral home worker transfer it from my bed to his stretcher.

    You didn't know that on that Christmas morning I wouldn't be thinking of my son and his third Christmas, but of another 3 year old boy instead, a boy who would forever remember Christmas not as a time of joy, but instead as the day he lost his mother. You didn't know that a part of me will always remember it that way as well.

    You didn't know any of these things because I didn't let you see them as I gave you that ice water, late as it was. I simply apologized and asked if there was anything else I could do for you. The fact that you didn't know any of those things is a source of pride to me. It proves that I can go about my duties with a calm demeanor, regardless of what calamity may have happened. That fact says something about me, but as I get older I'm not sure it says anything positive. In fact, it seems to point to something very tiring indeed.

  • Oct 1

    Ambulance bill or dead kid . . .?

    This family had insurance by the way.

  • Oct 1

    He tried to get his hamster out of a gym shoe...

  • Oct 1

    Quote from grammy1
    OMG, our PE kids are running the 1/2 mile today, you'd think they're being tortured. Coming in whining about not feeling well, running with no breakfast in them. Sigh
    OMG! Right?? Or the PE teachers sending kids because they are out of breath... Um, yeah. They were running. Give them 5 minutes and some water.

  • Oct 1

    OMG, our PE kids are running the 1/2 mile today, you'd think they're being tortured. Coming in whining about not feeling well, running with no breakfast in them. Sigh

  • Oct 1

    Yesterday was my birthday and my first 51/50 (for those not in California a 51/50 is an 72 hour psychiatric hold). It was sheer craziness.

    This weekend I plan on having fun in San Francisco. I'm going to pretend to be a tourist and stuff myself on crab and clam chowder. Also, double-decker bus tour and ride over the Golden Gate bridge. It'll be nice to not have to drive through that traffic and pay the $7 toll (!!!!).

  • Oct 1

    Quote from GdBSN
    We have a 1/2 day today. No one has come to the clinic all morning. I guess "life-threatening stomachs" don't happen on Friday 1/2 days.
    Lunch just ended, so the student that I told to see if lunch helped her stomach will be showing up, without ever going back to class.

  • Sep 28

    "He is just not himself. He fell asleep at circle time. I had him last year and he is definitely getting sick, should I call mom?"
    NO. you should GET OUT OF MY OFFICE and maybe make circle time a little more interesting because this child is not sick, and is certainly not going home a half hour before the school day is over. this is the FOURTH TIME THIS WEEK she has tried this.

    end rant. deep breaths.