TriciaJ, RN 23,209 Views
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Take a breath. Schedule an appointment with your doctor asap and discuss what you are dealing with. If you can benefit from pharmacological help, you need someone with a saner head than yours (at the moment) to monitor it. Please stop self-medicating with alcohol and whatever else you have around the house.
Being a stressed-out new grad does not make you unfit for nursing. (Please find and read about a zillion drowning new grad posts on this site.) If your employers and coworkers are happy with your work, you must be doing something right. It just doesn't feel like it, because nursing school didn't prepare you for this. (It never does.)
Find a mentor, or a nurse manager if you can and ask if they have any pointers for you or constructive criticism. If they tell you that you are on the right track, believe them.
Meanwhile, find a mantra like "It's not a perfect world; I don't need to be perfect." or something to help bring you back to reality. I get how hard it is to get to the gym after a day's work. Can you find 10 minutes a day to walk or stretch or just contemplate your navel? Having a successful nursing career will be easier if you can find and develop a reset button for yourself.
You will get over the new grad hump. It's just a matter of surviving in the meantime. Hang in there.
If I was in the OP's shoes, the first thing I would do is discuss my new situation with my nurse manager. Most people understand about family issues. If you've been a good employee so far she may not want to lose you. Give her a chance to come up with something creative that works for you both and doesn't involve burning a bridge. You never know until you ask.
If she comes up with nothing, then you're no worse off and can resume brainstorming this on your own. Good luck.
Just from what you wrote, it sounds like they are targeting you for some other reason. If your workload is that heavy, I can't believe they'd actually risk losing you over a documentation issue. So, either there's more to the story here, or there is something going on they aren't telling you about. I would start looking for a different job while you still have one.
It did, thanks! Tried letting it all out to my hubby, but he just made asinine comments that make me even madder!
AN: The Last Bastion of Fluffiness...or IS it??!
I think that some first time posters may really really want a question answered, but truly only want a response that proves that they are right, or were unjustly treated, etc. Sometimes I think it is hard to an originally poster to hear another side to the story, and once they realize that they may have been incorrect, or people don't side with them, they need to defend their side even more. I think it is hard with on-line communities because all of us come from both similar and very different areas, countries, and backgrounds.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who has this problem. I first encountered it when applying for a California nursing license. The lady at the fingerprint kiosk told me that nurses often have poor fingerprints.
It's a nightmare every time I visit my family in Canada because many US border crossings now use a kiosk instead of everyone just talking to an officer. You have to simultaneously place all four fingers on the scanner until you get a green light. I have the worst time. I've told them I'm a nurse and have worn-off fingerprints but I think they just think I'm a kook.
I use the term "stepping stone" because that is what it is often referred to by instructors in my program. In fact, many of them advocated for students not to stay in a med-surg unit as it hindered their abilities to think on a more critical level. I am not speaking for myself, but what instructors have told us. I have no history on a med-surg unit I have just worked in the ER for a year and a half.
It's not tattoos or piercings I have a problem with. It's poorly-fitting, ugly scrubs. I get that different people have different tastes, but there are some really hideously-patterned scrubs walking around out there. When they're wrinkled and fit poorly, how is the wearer supposed to inspire confidence? No matter what colour the hair is, it should be tied back. Food servers aren't allowed to work with hair hanging all over the place; why on earth should nurses?
My mom was a nurse back in the starched white uniform days. When I asked why she was removing her nail polish before going to work she said "Because nurses are supposed to be clean." I think a crisp, clean appearance can accommodate hair colours, piercings and tats. But slovenly is just slovenly.
Who was using the mental health situation in this country to talk about how crappy healthcare providers are?
I used an example of a patient with an actual PE, who was misdiagnosed and forcibly removed from the facility, and who later died.
Did you read the link I provided?
Yes, I understand, as a former psychiatric nurse that there are laws regarding 72-hour holds, etc.
I was merely pointing out that several on this thread were pretty quick to cast doubt on the patient, her mother and the passerby who took the video without acknowledging that subpar medical care is doled out on a daily basis.
It's not like patient dumping is unheard of in this country (even though it is illegal).
I have a story sort of similar to yours. A patient was sent to the med-surge from the ED. She was obese, a smoker, a diabetic and 42 years-old. Her BP upon arrival to the ED was 180/110. She had a headache.
ED doctor sends her to the floor. She begins to have trouble breathing. Her mother tells me she has complained of left-sided weakness. Her BP remains high. Now she is going into respiratory distress.
She was flown out to large teaching hospital with suspected stroke.
Several weeks later, the ED doctor tells me the patient is crazy and faked everything. I told him I read the ED notes before I began the admission process.
I asked: How did she fake that BP of 180/110 that never came down?
Honestly, I never knew if the patient faked it, or the MD was trying to save his butt.
It's always easy to huff and puff with righteous indignation, especially when you see a small sliver of the story. In the old days, we could four-point a combative patient till s/he settled a bit and could make safer decisions. But that's all but outlawed. I'm wondering if this wasn't someone who insisted on leaving, refused to get dressed and was at high risk to commit vandalism or assault on her way out the door.
Mother is now suing? Where was mother previous to this? The patient went to the hospital, not her mother's house. She was not accompanied by her mother. She did not call her mother for a ride home. But a mother turns up after the fact. This is not atypical.
This teacher likes to pretend her hand is better my thermometer (so many passes with "fever?" written on them). I had to talk with her at the start of the year because she would send me the same little ones multiple times during the day just for temp checks. So the fact that I was wrong about something was exciting to her.
And currently the parents still haven't returned my call, and I haven't received any paperwork.
OK, here is the update. It was about TB. Wow, all that secrecy for TB? I mean, thanks for letting me worry all night about pretty much nothing. We went over the case and plan of action. That's all I can say about it, but definitely not something that needed all that 'cloak and dagger' approach, as one of the commenters stated.
Thanks for your help and support!
I enjoyed the article. I have a few thoughts - since you asked. I think a push toward BSN nursing is "BS." I am an ADN nurse and I didn't think I would finish that program and the reason was the focus on subjects not associated with "nursing." Kinda like someone going to school to become a mechanic and most of the required classes are attached to some social element or being assigned a research paper about whooping crane migration patterns. For this reason the thought of further nursing education makes me nauseous.
Regardless, ADN nursing provides the biggest bang for the buck; 2 years and you're working versus 4. Another thing we all know; you don't learn anything about nursing until you start to "work" so I don't think BSN education enhances one's ability to be a competent nurse. So I think the BSN push is a distraction from what the core of the problem is - and that is the hospitals. They are the culprit.
When I graduated from nursing school I went to work for a local pediatric hospital ER. Benefits were great, premiums were affordable and any health care your children needed was provided at no charge. Adult employees and spouses could get lab work or x rays for no charge. That gradually went by the wayside over the years until 10 years later my own employer assigned a debt collector to me for being 14 days late on an exorbitant post concussion MRI for one of my kids.
Fast forward to today...benefits are chipped away every year, salaries are stagnant, nurses are worked into the ground with no equipment or limited equipment while admin offices are renovated with posh furniture, carpeting, and decorations. I could go on but most of you know what I'm talking about.
So my cure for the nurse staffing problem is to return to taking care of the one who is out there generating the income. Without the nurses and other licensed healthcare staff there would be no shark for the remora to attach themselves to. This is the reason I think nurses are drying up.
Thanks for listening...
I thought of TB and STDs. But why all the secrecy? Why not let us know something so we can prepare for the meeting? Is that normal for the health dept? Our district has never had the health dept set up a meeting like this before.
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