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Joined Jun 28, '11 - from 'Virginia'. Mom To 4 is a Staff RN. She has 'Since 2009' year(s) of experience and specializes in 'BSN to DNP student'. Posts: 617 (51% Liked) Likes: 1,387

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  • Apr 30

    I don't see how getting hammered and making an utter fool out of ones self in front of coworkers is "living a little"...

  • Apr 26

    I would have bought that man lunch and flowers on the spot. And also written a note of praise to administration on his behalf, because you just know that patient is going to be complaining about him.

  • Apr 26

    Overheard a conversation the other day between a pt's family member and a doctor. I was sitting at the nurse's station and he was sitting beside me. Family member walked up to him and began yelling that her loved one is not getting the proper nursing care and demanded to know why the pt was not any closer to discharge status. Dr says pt had been educated on post-op plans and had been refusing to take initiative to begin the recovery process (i.e. getting up, ambulating, incentive spirometer, etc.). Per documentation, RNs have been charting (in detail) that pt has been refusing.

    Family member screams, "It's THEIR job to help him heal!" Dr responds, "If he doesn't want to help himself, they can't help him. They provide excellent nursing care and it's evident where the problem lies."

    Family member continues to yell/scream (literally screaming) about an NA who "got urine all over him while helping him use urinal in bed." Dr says, "I don't understand, why can't he use the urinal without assistance?" She says (through gritted teeth), "if my son, who is sick and in pain and unable to sit up or get out of bed, needs to pee, you better be darn sure someone here is gonna hold his penis in a bottle for him...and NOT spill his **** all over him!!" Dr replied, "well ma'am, then I suggest you re-familiarize yourself with your son's anatomy and provide that care yourself."

    At this point, I'm picking my jaw up off the floor. On behalf of all RNs and NAs, I wanted to give him a big, fat wet one!!

    FYI, pt is twenty-something 3 days s/p lap sleeve gastrectomy.

  • Apr 25

    It may sound horrid of me but I always keep coworkers an arm length away. Polite but not friends. With some friendships comes drama, and I do not need that added stress. You will have to be one special person for me to step out of my comfort zone for you.

  • Apr 25

    Getting so trashed that it invariably leads to dancing on a table with one's skirt flipped up over their head, or erupting in a vomit geyser in front of co-workers is never cool (save that for your other friends).

    Besides, with cameras and video recorders in every smart phone, and social media merely a keystroke away, no one needs proof of the great fun they inflicted on everyone else the night before all over the internet where your boss - or the SBON can view the evidence of your inebriated antics.

    Sobriety around all co-workers (with the exception of your best friend) is not only safest, but highly recommended.

  • Apr 25

    Quote from valmick
    I am a nurse with over 40 years of experience, the last 8 as a nursing instructor. I see the seeds of the "underling" you mentioned in many of my students. Unfortunately, the "me first" culture of today has spawned a generation of selfish, self-absorbed, entitled people who will stop at nothing to get what they want. They say they want to become nurses to "help people", but they are not willing to put in the time and effort to gain the knowledge they need to do this safely. If they fail a course, the fact that a book was never opened has nothing to do with it. it is the instructor's fault. "The tests are too hard!", "That was never taught in class (even if the pages are on the syllabus!); "You used another source for lecture-you can't do that!" I was subjected to vicious personal attacks, both to my face and on social media, even threatened with legal action. After over 40 years of enjoying a sterling professional reputation, I was trashed; my reputation destroyed in our small town. It got so bad that I had to leave the college where I taught. I am sure that once these people eventually graduate, they will behave in the same manner as "underling".
    I wish I thought you were exaggerating, but I know you're not. I hear the same thing from my friends who are nursing instructors.

  • Apr 25

    Quote from LadyFree28
    Sounds like a death wish to me.
    Nope, not at all -- they definitely want to go on living; they just don't want to have to have dialysis. So they skip sessions and then want the rest of us to "fix it" when the inevitable starts happening. I work on the psych consultation liaison service of a big medical center, and have seen lots of those cases over the years (we get consulted for "noncompliance," like we have some magic wand we can wave and change them, same as with the alcoholics who come in over, and over, and over, and over again and are (gasp!) still drinking).

    I don't mind people using really bad judgment and making really poor choices about their lifestyles and health. It's a free country; if they want to skip dialysis, or drink or eat or smoke themselves to death, that's fine with me. I just wish they'd have the courage of their convictions and, when they start to crump, stay home and let nature run its course, not run to the hospital (again) and say, "Fix me! Fix me!" (So they can go back to what they were doing before as soon as they're discharged.)

  • Apr 24

    Quote from JimmyDurham9
    The ANA is fighting for nurses like you and like me; pretty much every nurse. Staffing ratios? We've taken it to legislators, we're fighting for you all.

    Improved educational programs? We're fighting for that and collaborating with leaders in the field to solve problems. No one is trying to manipulate anyone.

    If more nurses were involved, and actually collaborated to solve problems instead of just point them out, way more can be done.

    And at a risk of sounding snarky, jargon is part of nursing. You can only be manipulated by jargon if you opt for ignorance, and don't learn the terms necessary to perform your jobs. If you're not comfortable with understanding it, then please take a class or continuing education course to get comfortable with medical terminology.
    This same ANA doesn't stand for nurse ratios, pushing for higher education without having a pathway for experienced nurses. You are mistaken to believe they believe in federally mandated ratios.

    The organization out there that have fought for federally mandated ratios are the NNU, a nursing Union originated from California that has pushed for the current federal bill in Congress.

    Don't hook your star on the ANA; I found being unionized and in touch with a national nurses Union to be FAR more beneficial than that of the ANA.

    As far as your research, I saw only ANA "position papers"; none had abstracts to them, nor sample size; nursing research, as with all research models have abstract, sample size, methods, either quantitative or qualitative.

    I'm sure there are qualitative studies out there; I have been looking into some research into methods and improving the morale of my unit, although my research , sample and methods are in the preliminary stages and although it's not being raised to get an IRB, I'm careful to enjoy research on a quantitative scale; I hope you are able to find research within the last five years as to your position.

    And my unit's morale is something based in management and how they value and trust the staff; and they have exemplified that they don't; and most of management lack emotional intelligence.

    ETA: if anyone wants to look FAR into my post history, I have been bullied in the past as a child, a Domestic Violence and a Gun Violence survivor; I have endured "hostile" people in workplaces and have advocated for myself, that alone has shaped me as an individual who doesn't take kindly to people who like to abuse their power or manipulate in an attempt to control; and how I present myself professionally and personally makes me less of a pleasurable target; but with all things in life being a huge life long lesson-we learn all the way up until the day we die, paraphrasing Erik Ericsson-we can learn from challenges and become MUCH stronger, especially when we stand up for ourselves and command respect and/or find opportunities to be in positions to make changes, as I have learned and have grabbed on to have that experience.

  • Apr 24

    Quote from Farawyn
    You don't think my sparkling personality had anything to do with it?
    I don't have great co-workers and friends because I got lucky. I have them because I AM one.
    If you hate your job, leave. Your chip on your shoulder is loud and clear.
    Go to the next job. You may find someone like me who puts in an effort to work WITH people.
    I did leave those jobs. Not everyone is fortunate enough to just pack up and go like that though. I have no chip. I just despise nasty people who make it their mission to torment other people.

    I don't believe everyone in nursing is like that. My experience would leave me to believe otherwise, but that's not fair to nurses like you who are good and hard working.

    Not everything is black and white. And no one would should have to put up with abuse in their workplace simply because people say "suck it up" "don't like it, leave" when they should say "hey it's not okay to treat humans like that."

  • Apr 23

    Frequent flyers who keep coming back and getting admitted for the same thing because they are totally non-compliant.

    Frequent flyers who keep coming back and getting admitted because they just can't manage at home and refuse to go to rehab. I know it's hard but how many times do you need to be readmitted in a short time to realize you just take care of yourself right now.

    Frequent flyers who keep coming back and getting admitted for issues that really could be taken care of as an outpatient and the doctors who admit them.

  • Apr 23

    Being told what's what by folks who haven't done the job.

  • Apr 22

    I know one worker at a doctor's office who went to a client's Christmas party, got drunk and called her own employer the B-word in front of the entire company. The host complained to her employer about the worker's misbehavior and the worker lost her job.
    The DON of a small hospital I worked for threw a Chistmas party. One of the nurses got drunk and jumped into the pool. Although, DON announced what happens here stays here, the next day, the entire hospital was gossiping about the incident. It totally ruined the lady's reputation and chances for advancement. Always keep work and fun separate. If you want to 'relax' and party with co-workers, do so at private parties, not official events.

  • Apr 22

    Socializing with coworkers outside of work is ugly business, in my observations.

  • Apr 22

    Quote from KelRN215
    I'm really honest when I drink. I hated almost everyone I worked with at my last job so when I had to go to some celebration of the 10 year anniversary of the company, I didn't drink... because I knew I'd tell everyone what I really thought of them if I did.
    Alcohol is like truth serum for me too!! Most everyone I work with already knows what I think about them so it's all good. I love 99% of them and the 1% that I don't would not be out with us anyway.

  • Apr 22

    I'm really honest when I drink. I hated almost everyone I worked with at my last job so when I had to go to some celebration of the 10 year anniversary of the company, I didn't drink... because I knew I'd tell everyone what I really thought of them if I did.