Fiona59 37,246 Views
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All the above is true. But let me share my experience. When I had my 2nd child, I became acquainted with an OB nurse who happened to be male. (yes I chose those words carefully). He was FABULOUS, just amazing. I had a lot of preterm labor and problems, so I saw him often when admitted----many times before I finally had my c-section. He was gentle, respectful, professional and just so caring and warm. It was a military hospital and he was an Air Force captain. Of all the nurses involved in my care, he was a standout. I loved how comfortable he was in his skin, being an OB nurse. It did not seem to faze him and it did not faze me. Anyhow, that I remember him 17 years later, tells you something.
I also worked with 2 male nurses as an OB nurse. Same thing. Respectful, going above and beyond to bring professional and compassionate care to the women and babies in their charge. I loved working side by side with them. They were some of the best colleagues I had. No drama, no issues and very comfortable with who they were and their chosen career paths.
Yes, there are barriers. A number of women (and their spouses/significant others) do NOT want a male nurse involved in such intimate care. These folks KNOW their doctors, most often, and having some sort of established months-long relationship, the male OBs are acceptable to them.
Often, it's the fathers who have a real issue, (with the notion of having a male nurse)---- not the moms. You will have to be able to work with this and back off if you are rejected as a nurse, able to not take it personally. But there will be many other women who won't mind, because as said above, they have male doctors. And the doctor delivering a baby is most often NOT the doctor of the woman's choice, the one she saw all through pregnancy. Because OB is 24/7, doctors on call are the ones who deliver the babies. Women accept this and understand it.
The few who cannot accept a male OB nurse are usually objecting due to religious or cultural reasons. There will also always be a handful who had been victimized sexually by males who could/would not have ANY man involved in their care. I saw that at times and we always honored this situation, as did the OB practices caring for them. Often, a female OB would come in specially to deliver their babies. I would be very aware of the religious and cultural population of the area in which you plan to work; if there are, say, many Muslim families, you can plan on not being allowed to be involved in the care of a lot of people. Know who you will be caring for.
Those women and families with the above issues won't even allow you in their rooms to do something as benign as deliver their food trays in some cases. I had families who even balked at having a male pediatrician caring for their kids and if they were allowed to examine the newborns, it was with the understanding it would be done in the nursery, away from the postpartum women.
So I say, if this is truly your passion, you might want to go for it. But if you do not want to deal with rejection and colleagues who may have a problem with a male OB nurse, (at least til they get to know you)----- then I suggest you do what said above, go for NICU and get the baby fix there. OB (and, by the way, NICU) is about caring for FAMILIES, not just babies, meaning moms, and fathers. (and other family as well). Some just are not going to accept you, no matter how good you are. The families are the ones who will remember you, one way or another. They will be an integral part of your care planning.
Hope this helps.
I agree with PP to consider NICU. You get your baby fix and there are definitely action-packed days to be had.
There are many women who feel that way ....no doubt. And yet, they often have male doctors.
I'm strictly med-surg at the hospital even though here lately, I can't tell. But, only personally speaking, I can't imagine a woman of child-bearing years, and especially one that has just given birth, being comfortable with having a male nurse....nor her significant other. OB is not all about the kids, ya know?
But there again, I'm very old school and very set in my ways, the relic that I am.
i've been at my hospital for over 3 years and i am considering opening a can of worms before i leave this facility in 2 weeks. i've secured another job.
during my stay, i have been bent over so many times here it's almost hilarious.
i would receive patients other nurses refuse (because they have to get up more than twice a shift to tend to their needs).
i never felt my assignment was unsafe (maybe because i didn't know any better) until i gave a 1:1 change of shift report. meaning, the oncoming nurse received ALL of my patients. in hindsight, i should've voiced my concerns.
some nurse would come on shift early to review their assignments and "make adjustments." i'm not sure how i am constantly grinding for 3/4 of the shift when other people are on their butts developing stage 2 pressure sores for the same amount of time. i did/do not have a time management problem. i never exit the building over 15 minutes late. in fact, i think i am punished because i do triathlons.
this hospital is small and almost family-like. 50% of the people are related to each other. they often "hang out" off work, as i see this on their social media pages.
we have 4 charge nurses. there is ONLY 1 charge who evenly distributes the workload. or maybe that person just gives me a break. she definitely isn't part of this "clique."
i am over it. thanks for reading.
Agreed. I am looking for a new job, not much to be had here except casual or temp. No sign of improving, especially with the oil crisis. Stay where you are.
..... Regrettably, we live in a time in America where people seem to have less inhibitions airing their religious intolerance at the expense of people who deserve the freedom to adhere to their respective religious beliefs.
I have worked with many Muslim women in the past. Some wear a hijab and some do not. In the setting of mental health or corrections I would not recommend wearing it. It would be a safety issue.
These are some stupid mistakes. Especially the random insulin vial? Why didn't you tell the teacher it was lying there? Nervous?
The residents at my facility constantly ask for snacks. Heck once I put my latte down and the patient took it as soon as I set it down. No darn way am I buying snacks. We have a limit on shakes we give to the residents. They are like generic ensure but the residents LOVE them. When I first got to this facility many residents would refuse their meds if they also didn't get a shake. As our home has 99 residents and 23 shakes per shift that only go to residents with weight gain problems...no. Refuse and i will chart it. I am not going to give them shakes to bribe them into taking their meds. Plus many have weight problems. They can live without a snack. Heck during my shift I often times don't even get a lunch. Buying snacks for residents, no. no. no.
Stop enabling their crappy behavior and stop spending your own money on snacks! Especially for the diabetic patients.
And no, it's not discriminatory. Rich and poor pts alike have the same limitation. It's not our job to ensure economic equality for all patients; only equitable nursing care.
This practice of nurse-purchased snacks could make things inequitable though, if one nurse is unable or unwilling to buy snacks.
Oh HELL no. There is no way I am buying snacks for a patient. No flipping way...let alone durable medical equipment. It's not about poor customer service, it's about the fact that I am not willing to spend my hard-earned money to help the hospital offset its costs. If the hospital chooses a snack limit as a way to limit costs, they will stand behind that policy.
If patients are upset about it, they should put that on the survey and let the chips fall where they may.
Ya'll need to stop this, yesterday, and make sure the powers that be are aware.
If nothing else, it's a mass-crossed professional boundary that could mean trouble for them as well as their staff.
I would rather the hospital spend money on equipment and supplies rather than snacks.
If pts are that hungry that they needs more than 2 snacks during the day, they can bring in their own supply from home.
The "golden hospital" doesn't sound like a place to aspire to, IMO. I'd be darned if it were expected of me to pay out of pocket for nicey-nice things to make patients happy. First of all, that's not my job - I'm there to provide quality, professional nursing care, as WKShadow suggested. Second of all, it's not a sustainable solution. If a patient needs a cane, there should be appropriate resources to acquire him a cane, not just the expectation that some nurse will be able to buy it for him.
So yeah, while the two-snack limit seems strict, it also seems more reasonable to me than your other hospital. I also think you'd be opening up a can of worms by buying a bin of snacks yourself -- good luck on that not becoming something people expect you to keep stocked yourself.
(And finally, directing snark at bosses is not generally a great idea.)
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