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  • Sep 30

    My friend, I believe you are beyond help. Your lack of ownership and projection can't be overcome because you refuse to see.

    Good luck, you need it, I am afraid. I am so out of here. I invested way too much time as it is. Think I will go spend quality time with the spouse. See ya.

  • Sep 30

    Quote from AllOfMyWat

    He will NOT be pursuing another marriage with a nurse. Please stop throwing yourselves at him immediately.
    Takes off lipstick

  • Sep 30


    He will NOT be pursuing another marriage with a nurse. Please stop throwing yourselves at him immediately.

  • Sep 30

    You keep repeating how wonderful you are as a spouse and how horrible she is as a person/wife. I know that with my own personal experience in marriage counseling, that never would have been allowed to fly. Both spouses have to accept responsibility for what is happening in the marriage.

    You also give off a big misogynist/mansplaining vibe that I really don't appreciate. If you have issues with women and with nurses, fine, but take it somewhere else. We're not your collective punching bags.

  • Sep 30

    Sorry for the pain you are experiencing but despite your efforts to support her it sounds like the plank in your eye has more to do with other factors and blaming her new education and career seems convenient.

    Good luck to you.

  • Sep 30

    Quote from Spouse
    Ok then,

    When trained to deal with a patient who doesn't comply with your instructions, are you not trained to manipulate them to comply?
    Everyone knows that nurses are really super secret Sith lords.

  • Sep 29

    Actually the divorce rate for nurses is somewhere in the middle, way below bartenders and dancers.
    One of the main reasons I went to nursing school was because I knew my marriage was not going to work, I needed a 2 year degree stat to support myself. All 4 members of my study group were in the same exact boat.

    Whatever personal issues you two had, it was not achieving a NURSING degree that empowered her to leave. She was making her way out of a problem relationship.

    My condolences, divorce is painful. Blame her, blame nursing, blame the universe. But it's time to move on.

  • Sep 29

    "Consider this just a plea to nurses, before you let it go too far, please make sure you go home today and tell your spouse that you simply love them and are sorryif you have made them feel slighted in any way because, I promise you that there are some feelings there. Maybe just a tiny bit but, please at least just talk about it, so you don't get to the point where I am."

    If you felt this way, you should have been direct... people are not mind-readers. This goes for both genders.

    "Her sister, who is also a nurse and divorced has the exact same disorder. They are simply so much better at everything and better than everyone that it’s sad to me"

    Two people (related, at that) does not a stereotype make. Also, "disorder" is a strong word.

    "There is no remorse. She has done nothing wrong. I am over-reacting. There is nothing left. No let’s find out what to do, there is no lets get help, no let’s talk about it. I guess that’s that. (Divorce papers in hand, to be filed at the courthouse on Monday) :-("

    It does sound like you are over-reacting - example: you are posting this to a bunch of strangers on a message board - are you trying to get affirmation? You are going about it in a strange way with under-handed insults and disparaging words.

    "Way down in her heart somewhere, is the beautiful soul that I married 27 years ago. The country girl that was so sweet and caring and didn’t see herself as better than anyone. Nursing school has ruined my life and I didn’t even go to nursing school"

    How would you 100% know it was nursing school that caused this hypothetical change?

    "Maybe, I’m just naive and this is really the way that a husband and "Nurse" wife are supposed to be. If that is truly the case, then I will never pursue marriage with a nurse again"

    You are generalizing based upon your experiences and projecting your beliefs upon a large diverse group of people without any merit.

    "Help me?"

    Stop posting and get professional counseling/help as the above posters have so rightfully recommended. Good luck.

    (Unless this is a troll, which I suspect it is - in that case, tell Gandalf I said hi).

  • Sep 29

    *makes popcorn

    PS: a more careful reading of this post suggests you want to control your wife. I'm sure she's capable of driving herself to work and back. And taking that 'baggie of vitamins' if she wants to. How do you have all this time to run her life- do you work?
    I suspect if she was a pharmacist, and attorney or a cop you would have the same issues.

  • Sep 29

    This is completely inappropriate. This is not a nursing problem, this is a private marital problem. You need to take your concerns to a professional counselor, even if you go alone, not to an anonymous message board.

  • Sep 24

    You are not an LPN being forced to identify yourself as a CNA, you are a CNA improperly identifying yourself as an LPN. If the position that you were hired into is CNA, then that is how you should be introducing yourself. Regarding your badge, what surprises me is that if you were hired as a CNA, and your facility doesn’t employ LPNs, that they allowed you to have this placed on your badge.

  • Sep 22

    WOW. Still a student and asking for the highest paid, lowest stress job. Perhaps you should obtain your licensure and work in a few areas while you figure that out.


  • Sep 22

    If you're only in ICU because you want to be in anesthesia school, you aren't really engaged in ICU. If you no longer want to be a CRNA, quit the ICU job, go back to OR and be happy.

    If you still want to be a CRNA, you'll need ICU experience on your resume. You don't get a monopoly on sick patients because you "need them for CRNA school." Focus on what you're doing in ICU. Take care of the "downgraded" or less acute patients and become knowledgable and competent in their care. There's a reason anesthesia schools want to see ICU on your resume. You will need the skills you use in caring for ICU patients. So take the time to actually learn those skills and learn them well.

    Only YOU can make up your mind to enjoy the ICU experience, get as much out of it as possible and really learn what you need to know. I'll admit that the scheduling and the educator seem to be a bit out there -- but you are NEVER going to find the perfect job because perfect jobs don't exist. You're only going to find the one that you can make the most of by enduring those (temporary) inconveniences of your orientation and making the most of the parts of it that you like.

    8 preceptors is a lot, I know. But look at it as an opportunity to observe 8 different approaches so you can figure out which approach works for you.

  • Sep 22

    Quote from nicmdavi
    Would I be in the wrong for treating her like a medical assistant and not a graduate nurse?
    Absolutely not. It's the job she signed on for. The reality of the situation is that she's *not* a nurse and *you are*.

  • Sep 22

    She is not an RN. You are an LPN. You took the test and passed it. She did not. She is an unlicensed assistive personnel. Perhaps a highly educated one, but still no license.

    You know your job and she is your assistant correct? You have the seniority.

    Anyway you you break it down you should be the senior one of this working relationship. You need to assert yourself. If that doesn't work you need to take your issues to a higher authority. If she can't adjust her behavior she needs to be replaced.

    For one thing if she starts acting in the role of an RN without a license it can be dangerous for the patients and open the practice up to potential lawsuits. It is not just a matter of senority. It is a matter of safety and legality. If she proves uncooperative she needs to be fired for the safety of all concerned. You need to form your objections in this way. Not that you can't work with her, but that this is dangerous.

    Assert yourself YOU are the nurse, not her. It is your responsibility to delegate and be an advocate for your patients. A diploma doesn't matter if you can't pass the NCLEX. Also I just looked recently and the dang thing has about an 80% pass rate for first time takers. She couldn't pass after 5 attempts? What does THAT say about her?