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  • 6:08 pm

    Dear ns responding. Still not the staff nurses job to teach you. It's your schools responsibility. I graduated less than 3 years ago. I passed all meds with my instructor. My teacher would find out things that were happening on the unit like dressing changes and or ivs that needed to be started and teach all us. Not have a staff nurse teach us. As its not the staff nurses job to teach nursing students. Guess I went to a great adn program.

    And please. We do care about the next generation of nurses. But it's still your school's responsibility to teach you. Not the staff nurses.

    And I love to teach. Teaching my patients and their families about their illnesses is the thing I love most about my job. And I love to precept new nurses.
    But as a student you should have higher expectations of your school and its teachers and not some random nurse you are paired up with for the day.

  • 4:59 pm

    You need to to self reflect. You are not taking any personal responsibility. Your attitude is negative. Change your thought process and you will find a job. You can change only you. Stop looking at negatives, it is a waste of time. Never will you find a perfect job, nursing is tough and YOU NEED TO BE TOUGH AND THICK SKINNED or you won't make it as a nurse.
    Stop making excuses, you made choices. You can not change the past but you can change you. Get Tough and stop whining!
    Face up and start applying. You may have to work a &$@# job but keep it, work hard and read the book, "Your Erroneous Zones" excellent and you will see how your thinking is flawed.

  • 8:33 am

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    Quote from EstrellaAzul
    None of this has been my fault. Life circumstances.
    Ummmm, yea it IS your fault. You need to own it. You chose to not give 2 weeks notice not once but twice. Employers don't care about what's going on with your "life circumstances" -- they want employees they can trust to show up and do their job. Your track record shows otherwise. Life circumstances happen to all of us -- deaths, births, relationship issues, car trouble, etc etc etc -- but we still show up to work every day.

    Not being mean, just being honest.

  • Jun 23

    I don't see anyone judging you. Employers do not care why you left. Most don't really care about you at all. Their only concern is are you dependable and can you do the job. In two cases you didn't and left without notice. Doesn't matter why to them. The fact that you left without notice may hurt you and you need to be prepared for that. No one said you can't get a job. Good luck to you!!

  • Jun 23

    Quote from SunnyPupRN
    - and if it is offensive that I balk at making a ' fricking ' phone call, well remember, you're not in my shoes, and your heart isn't torn in wondering if your child will trust you in the future again with sacred information if you blow it.
    Don't be so sure about that. Many of the people posting have personal experience with pretty much the same thing that you have gone through. Some of our children might actually have been raped as well.

    As to being "qualified," none of us are qualified to treat our own children after they have experienced a trauma of this sort. That is why it's considered unethical to do so no matter the training we have received prior.

    And lastly, no, I do not agree that a little girl who has been victimized is capable of being a "perpetrator" in the sense that she should be reported to law enforcement. As said earlier, she likely does not have the capacity to understand she is victimizing anyone. That is NOT to say she should be left alone to continue to act out in this way, simply to say her actions should not be viewed as criminally actionable. Pretty much everyone on this thread has agreed that the best way to stop the cycle of abuse (and this situation illustrates clearly that abuse is the gift that keeps on giving) is to report the kid to someone who will HELP her, not punish or shame her.

  • Jun 23

    Trust me, you are not the first person to have to set boundaries with this person. So go for it and stand up for yourself. Block her number if you have to.

    I don't think this will be an ongoing issue. She is not likely to last much longer in school. Perhaps if she spent her time studying instead of tracking folks down & hounding them......

  • Jun 22

    Regardless of why you left your previous jobs I wouldn't lie about them to future employers. You could omit them from your resume- but if a future employer asks about where you have worked previously I would tell and and just explain that you left as it wasn't a good fit, or something vague like that.

    It sounds like you have insight into your illness- it mat be a good idea to talk with your therapist (or find a therapist) about the stresses you've experienced at work so they can help you cope and advocate for yourself if needed.

    All you can do is keep applying for jobs and show them your best at interviews. Be honest but don't share all- employers don't care to hear about past drama (in my experience).

    I think you've gotten some good responses here- there's not a lot we can do to help you other than to encourage you to keep on trying. Good luck!

  • Jun 22

    Quote from floridaRN38
    Nurses eating their young on social media sites.
    Stating nursimg students are extra work for the staff nurses is NETY?

    This and after stating that a pharmacy required your wife had to provide M.D. ID to pick up your prescription in your presence makes me really wonder.

  • Jun 22

    Quote from floridaRN38
    Nurses eating their young on social media sites.
    Who, me? Not at all, merely a simple statement of fact. An awful lot of student nurses seem to believe that they make the RN's job easier in clinical, which is just not the case.

  • Jun 22

    Quote from Extra Pickles
    I was curious about this so I just googled Paramedic to RN Program and came up with this site. OP it looks like everything you want to know in one spot, I bet you can find all your answers and see if it is in line with what you want to do.

    Paramedic to RN Degree Programs: An Online Guide
    Did you even look at the website? It is a load of marketing crap for test prep companies with ZERO useful information!

    Long story short, there are very few P->RN bridge programs. The few worthwhile ones are designed for experienced medics. Most of the rest only grant 3-6 credit hours for Paramedic, at most a semester and often have experience requirements or are for-profit schools that have high costs.

    It is far easier to go RN->P

  • Jun 22

    Quote from SunnyPupRN
    It is sad. I don't deny that something probably happened to screw up this child. But can you see how I am torn between respecting my child's privacy and confidence in me? What good does it do to take away what little control she has left over the situation? Yes, the girl told my child she had sex with her own cousin so something is awry. But forcing my child to be interviewed, isn't that more traumatization?
    Children often want things that are not in their best interest. Or they don't want to do things which ARE in their best interest. That's because they are children-they don't know any better. You, as the adult in her life, are tasked with making sure she gets what she needs whether or not she realizes it or wants it. Kids typically don't want vaccinations, medical treatments, or healthy diets, and that doesn't stop us from giving them what they need even as it might be unpleasant at the time or make them upset with us. This is no different. If you as a nurse would advise another mother in this position to get her child some help, then you know also that this is probably what's best for your kid as well. Lots of educated, well trained individuals are advising you that you are not trained to handle this situation on your own, and even if you were, it's not appropriate to treat your own child. It may turn out that since your D put a stop to this before it got very far, that she hasn't been traumatized as much as you fear. But don't you think a professional should find that out in case this is bigger than you are prepared to handle?

  • Jun 22

    Quote from SunnyPupRN
    Thank you for all the support. So difficult. I want to clarify to anyone who thought I was going to "ignore" the problem that I did not mean to give that impression. Rather, I meant that in that moment, I cared about addressing my child's concerns of privacy and embarrassment, not the the other child. As callous as that might seem, right now I just cannot bring myself to the mind set of getting the other girl the help she needs. I don't give a damn about her. But I do see the points you make that reporting the attempt upon my child could prevent or catch other perpetrators. Thank you.
    I absolutely understand that your child is your priority.

    I am concerned that by not reporting this that you might be confirming to her that she should be embarrassed - that she did something wrong - that she was to blame. Obviously that is not true.

    With your and/or a therapist's help, a 5th grader could reason out that reporting this is the right thing to do.

    You are wise to take your time and think carefully about how to handle this. It would be so easy in this situation to react emotionally and so hard to act rationally.

  • Jun 22

    As for how to keep your child's trust. Be honest. Trust starts with honesty. You lose her trust if you report and blindside her with it. You gain trust by letting her know your intent and being open about why. She is old enough to understand that her friend might be being sexually abused and feels the same way your child does about it. She may be upset about it and for the short term may be upset about it. But over time, I bet she will be accepting of your choice when she realizes it could be helping another child.

    But also think about what you are teaching her by keeping it quiet. If you dont report this incident then your child learns that that is how these situations are handled. When she gets older, and God forbid she gets raped. She may not ever come out about it because she learned at a young age that her personal shame and trauma should be hidden. You need to consider her long term development over the short term angst and possible mistrust.

    No no matter what you choose, I'm very sorry this happened to your child. As a child sexual abuse victim myself, it is one of my worse fears for my own children and I understand the upset you are feeling right now.

  • Jun 22

    Quote from SunnyPupRN
    I know the signs...And I'm going to be honest. The other child is just not my priority right now. She may need help, but my child is first, her dignity, integrity, everything comes first. Maybe that's me speaking out of emotion because I just found out and I'm raw, I don't know. I don't have family to bash this out with and figure things out. I know you are right...I know she needs help, but all I can feel right now is she is a perpetrator. I'm pissed.
    I definitely understand how you feel. I can't even begin to guess how I would feel. I don't even want to imagine it.

    I think your child is going to be alright, because she was able to talk with you about it. You can protect your child by not allowing the other child around your child, and you can get your child counseling if s/he needs it.

    If this other child does not get help, s/he will do the same thing or worse to other children. Then some of those children will become sexual predators too. Then some of their victims will become predators.

    The person abusing your child's friend might have access to your child. It could be the child's parent, teacher, coach, minister, neighbor, another friend's sibling, babysitter, daycare worker, etc.

    By reporting this you will be protecting your child.

    If you don't want to violate your child's trust, you could do it anonymously. I think the better approach would be to talk with your child about how someone is probably hurting their ex-friend and it is important to report this so that that person can be stopped.

    As I should have stated initially - I'm so sorry that this happened to your child.

  • Jun 22

    Quote from Rose_Queen
    This child needs help. With what you know, you need to report it. Otherwise, you become complicit in the crimes committed against her. How would you feel if it were your daughter whose cousin was using her for sex, her friend's mother knew, and never told anyone?
    Agree.

    You have information that needs to come forward.
    As for counseling; it doesn't "revictimize" the person, rather, gives the survive tools to sort through emotions from the trauma-loss of trust and control; ignoring the problem will set the stage for coping mechanisms and behavior contrary to belated somewhere down the line-do not ignore this.


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