CrazyGoonRN 9,366 Views
Joined Aug 14, '09.
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The cooing and holding hands in the breakroom soon gets old and so you move to less public areas of the hospital thinking you'll have some privacy there to avoid being talked about and being scrutinized. But you will be and at least one of you will be counselled about your behavior and somebody loses their job because they're neglecting it. I have seen it happen more than once. It's never a good idea to date someone from work.
You're coming across as a little creepy to me. Is it just me?? The detailed plans involving someone you "barely know" are strange.
Have you never submitted to a drug screen before? The toilet water is always blue.
There was obviously a reason they were suspicious. You submitted and it was positive. There are always three sides to a story. I guess I'm the only one not buying yours.
If you are truly innocent then you should know to immediately get a lawyer, not come on a website. Do you have malpractice insurance?
We cannot offer legal advice. That is what you are in need of. I would not have called the BON or your state monitoring program. Now, you are on the radar. Good luck and hire an attorney.
Will a nurse with a Master's degree put pt's on bedpans?
Will a nurse with a Master's degree put pt's on bedpans?
In 1965, the American Nurses Association promulgated a position paper that would require that within 10 years the BSN would be the minimun academic requirement for entry into the profession. Why didn't this happen you may ask? Why in 51 years did this not happen?
I will not bore you with the details except to say: easier to spew them out to sell them out to the lowest bidder.
No offense intended to the ADNs and Diploma nurses or LPN/LVNs who often train the new BSN graduates. To them I am in their debt.
I think for the relevance and growth of nursing as both a profession and academic discipline, growth toward more BSN will be necessary. Nursing has been around forever, but as far as an actual profession built on a system of knowledge, research, and theory it is in it's infancy. For the profession to have a better standing and delineation against other disciplines, I think the move to BSN is of utmost importance.
I have less than a year to complete my bsn and will be going on to my msn right after. I think being educated is very valuable in healthcare, and I don't think it's appropriate for nursing to be behind pharmacy and physically therapy. Why should nursing be one of the few fields where an associates is acceptable? Also I know there was another thread about a bsn being "bs"....It's not. What I have learned already had made me a better thinker and nurse. We take anther health assessment course and an amazing course on genetics and genomics. Love it.
Meh. It's Fox News. They aren't out to report the news accurately; they're out to get the ratings.
Except that OP will still be a year behind if she takes a year off. And who is going to want to look at the resume of a stale grad? It's not like waiting a year means she'll be handed a job when she applies- she'll still need to go through all of those applications and interviews and maybe take another year (if not more) to find a job. She needs to get out there, pound the pavement, and work through her anxiety issues. Avoidance is not the way to go.
My D is a 4th year PhD student at the #2 ranked program in the nation, specializing in anxiety disorders. What they do for fears such as yours is called "exposure therapy."
Avoidance is the opposite of what is called for.
You would probably benefit from professional help. If you don't address your anxiety, you've just wasted several years and who knows how much money. Don't go down without a fight.
Taking a year off ...would equal throwing away all the work you put into your education.
Seek treatment for your anxiety disorder. In the meantime , start applying for anything and everything. You might find a position that does not require hands-on, but that will only delay the fact you need to deal.
With treatment, you CAN get through this.
How did you get through your clinical rotations? Did not any of your instructors pick up on this?
Your wish to do other things for a year after NCLEX is straight up avoidance behavior. If you don't immediately start looking for nursing jobs, and you take a non-nursing job, I'm pretty sure you will NEVER look for a nursing job and end up with an unused nursing degree and license.
If that's what you want--not being a nurse--that's perfectly fine, but don't fool yourself into thinking you're just "taking a year off." I suggest that you think about what you really want and pursue that, rather than taking non-nursing jobs you don't want just to avoid nursing.
In other words, move toward a job you like rather than away from a job you don't. Hope that makes sense. (For the record, I'm in the same dilemma.)
I do feel bad for the multitudes of students that are taken in by the "nursing shortage" song and dance. Some schools are lousy, pushing under educated grads out of an overpriced program, but some schools are excellent even if not truthful about the projected job availability after graduation.
I also don't really think it's fair to blame the sad state of nursing on new grads that are entitled and "all about me." Some new grads are lousy, but so are some experienced nurses still in the workforce.
Sooooo...I'll bite. I'm the wife with an insensitive husband (and his family, but that's a different story).
Not the OP's wife. You couldn't pry me out of the ED with a crowbar.
What is hard to explain, and gets tiring to explain over and over again, is that sure, on the surface it looks sweet. "Only" working 3-4 days a week.
But nursing is like an iceberg. What you see on the surface isn't all that's under the water.
What my husband doesn't understand is the mental and physical stressors of the job. Because in hospitals, the nurses don't deal with the healthy. We deal with the sick and injured, and their families. There are days that after 6 hours I've felt like I've run a marathon, and my pedometer proves it. 6K steps in 6 hours may not seem like a lot, but over a small area suddenly it's a lot more. Try taking 100, even 50, steps in your bathroom...hard, right? There's a lot of back-and-forth? Well, that's what the nurses do. We have to lift patients with minimal assistance. We have to carry things.
Mentally, we're always "on." "It's 1000 - these patients need this, I need to do that. Oh wait, it's 1300...what did I miss?" We see people who, with just a little bit of preventative care, could have stayed at home. But for whatever reason they didn't have that preventative care, so suddenly they're on our patient list. Behavioral health has its own lowlights; you never know if that patient who was admitted on a mandatory hold for suicidal ideations will decide that it's time to try again, and you're the nurse between them and their success. Little 80-year-old women and tiny 4-year-old children can be surprisingly strong.
It's easier, and safer, to come home and complain about coworkers, because there aren't any risks there. No risk of me telling my husband "oh, Mr. Doe did X today" and violating all sorts of privacy laws that could get me fired and my license revoked. Instead, I complain about how "Jane Doe from the lab took forever on this test, and John Doe from this other place yelled at me for trying to give report."
If your wife is working 16 hours, OP, then she's only getting 8 hours to go home, shower, sleep, spend time with the family, eat, and run errands. I see my husband for an hour, if I'm lucky. And it's put stress on our marriage. After my "week" is over, I'm worthless for at least a day because that's simply how much time it takes for me to get my energy back.
Also, take a look at how things are done at home. In addition to my full-time job, I'm also cleaning, doing the laundry, doing the dishes, cooking - everything that a stay-at-home wife and mother would do, which has been considered an unpaid full-time job. So suddenly my "work week" has gone from 3 or 4 days to a full 6 or 7. It's not all sitting around, watching Netflix and eating bonbons.
I enjoy being a nurse. I'm good at it. But that phrase "find a career you love, and you'll never work a day in your life" is a pipe dream. Or, do you enjoy and are you good at your job? Yes? Does that eliminate all stress from it? How about the insensitive coworkers who simply [i]cannot[/] understand that they need to watch how they act, or else they'll be hauled up in front of HR for harassment? They don't magically vanish. Nor do the complaints.
So kudos for coming and asking. Not going to hold my breath that you'll understand.
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