PacoUSA, BSN, RN 36,224 Views
Joined Mar 25, '09.
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Please find something you are passionate about before you start. If school was a "nightmare" for you the first time, school is free and money is your motivation, you will not be motivated to learn and won't be much of a student. And you won't learn a thing. You have plenty of time to decide-- don't rush into a program just because it's free.
I'm an ER nurse, and male. You're very right that there is a double standard and it's NOT in favor of us guys. My suspicion is simply that us male nurses are quite aware of the possibility of being accused of sexual battery when we do those procedures. If I have a female patient and I have to do a straight cath or a foley, I will always ask for a female to be present. If the female nurse offers to do it, I'll make sure all the equipment is immediately available. This is strictly because I do NOT want to be accused of sexual battery simply because I'm doing my job. If I'm doing the task, all I truly care about is getting the task done efficiently.
I have rarely (if ever) have heard of a male patient accusing a female nurse of sexual battery when doing straight caths or foleys. Furthermore, society at large doesn't view females/women as being sexual predators so there's a bit of a social bias built-in to the whole patient nurse interaction when the two are different sexes.
Now then I will gladly do a straight cath or foley on a male patient on behalf of my female colleagues because things are starting to change a little bit and our policy is to have a chaperone of the same sex as the patient present whenever an opposite sex provider or nurse is doing any sort exam or procedure that could result in accusations of sexual battery. I do this because often it's just faster I do it as I don't need a chaperone when doing these procedures on male patients.
Personally, if I was committing to constant overtime, I would want to be PAID overtime for it. Picking up the occasional PRN shift at a second job is one thing, especially given that you're usually paid a premium for those jobs, but two regular part time jobs sounds exhausting and financially not worth it. If you've got the experience to be hired part time for both positions, you've presumably got the experience to be hired PRN for them (or for float pool).
Multiple PRN jobs can work, especially if your finances can withstand the risk of not getting shifts at times. You usually get paid significantly more than FT or PT work, and in most PRN situations you are responsible for setting your own schedule and have few or no holiday weekend requirements, so the chances of both jobs expecting you to be there at the same time are much lower. The risk, of course, is that you aren't guaranteed hours and you're first on the chopping block to be sent home for low census, so it doesn't work if you MUST have full time hours to make the bills. But if you've got a cushion, it gives you a lot of flexibility and you can keep an iron in multiple fires, employer-wise.
On the upside at least it would be another edition to your resume and a good way to refresh some skills. Try it first before you decide either way. You may actually like it!
It is pretty crappy for them to expect you to do this with such little training though and I totally get your frusteration.
I was forced to float ti peds from med surg and I resisted it for the longest time and then one day I realized hmmm...I kind of like this. So you just never know. Good luck and give us an update.
I dunno why people keep saying to wait 24 hrs...smh! I had 8 friends take it. All of them did the PVT within 1 hour. And all of but one got the good pop up. I did it 30 mins after taking mine and got the good pop up. I don't want to be a debbie downer, but if it took your money...yea, that's not a good sign. But I could be wrong.
You GAVE it your money - voluntarily. Nothing was 'taken' from you.
"Your eyes are so dark, you look like the devil. Are you going to make me possessed??" ( I work in psych!)
What's the rudest thing that's been said to me by a patient or family?
A patient called me a black ___ (rhymes with 'witch,' but starts with 'B') and told me to "go back to Africa." I told him I was born and raised in the US, as well as the preceding six generations of my family.
I also ended the interaction and turned his care over to another nurse who belonged to the same racial group as him. Life is too short to deal with people who stereotype me and do not want me around.
"You're no nurse! Where did you go to school?" I don't even remember what that one was about. At my hospital we all get a lot of these... our population has a lot of people with mental illness, poor coping, poor social skills, unreasonable demands, etc.
For the most part I either ignore the comments or say something along the lines of "I'm sorry you feel that way" and leave it at that, which sometimes they don't have an answer to but sometimes irritates them more. But I don't think I have ever "won" a power struggle with someone who says, for instance, "You aren't doing anything to take care of me!" and then I try to list the things I've done.
However, as a charge nurse, if another nurse asks me to step in and diffuse a situation, I sometimes do get through to a patient by pointing out the good things the nurse has been doing. I think trying to do that when you stand accused just puts yourself in the wrong and gives the patient or family member more power.
"If you would prefer to have a different nurse we can arrange that" is our statement of last resort--you have to be sure your team really will support you in saying that. The patient/family usually seems a little bit ashamed and drops it.
Once a nurse with decades of experience came to me when I was in charge, holding a lovenox shot, and said "The family doesn't trust me to give this shot, will you do it?" I laughed, because this is a nurse I look up to enormously and always go to when I have questions. The nurse was matter-of-fact and casual about it; she wasn't going to let it bother her. Rather than argue with the family, I just went in, gave the shot, and left. I made pleasant conversation with them and also asked if there was some problem. They said "Well, I think she probably just isn't very experienced, I'm sure she's very nice"--I told them pleasantly that she was the best and most experienced nurse we had and they could trust her completely. I think there was an element of racism/xenophobia to that situation. The nurse was from another country/race and has a very thick accent; the family volunteered that "the nurse we had last night was so great!"--this was a nurse with two months of experience, a pretty young white woman. That's another thing we deal with a lot because our staff is very multicultural.
Thanks Pacu, I've just posted this in a new thread, but I certainly appreciate your advice. I'm hopeful that I someday get to that point where I'm confident and that "I do get it".
sounds like someone had a few too many select all that apply questions on their nclex
To be good at nursing role in clinic, one needs to have bedside experience, IMHO. Maybe not long years of it, but it is still necessary.
Where I live, options include home care and chronic dialysis (may be place dependent, but at least Davita takes new grads without experience in Midwest - strictly for outpatient, though) and some mental/behavioral health. Another way is to go straight to Masters' for NP or education (last one is more complicated for first job search).
I didn't even start nursing school till I was 45. Went to ICU age 55.
LTC is turning into acute care. Unfortunately, the patient: nurse ratios do not reflect that change. I don't blame any nurse who wants to avoid that.
In my experience, it seems that men are offered management jobs sooner in their professional career than women.
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