LilRedRN1973 14,475 Views
Joined: Sep 11, '03;
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8 year(s) of experience in ICU, psych, corrections
I have a hard time with the pain patient who is relaxed as can be on her cell who tells me her pain is a 9 out of 10.
I'm FB friends with my manager. I'm fairly active on FB, post lots of photos that I take, an occasional news article with rare rants about how idiotic the world is. But mostly I post pics of my pets, my family, places I visit. My life is pretty tame though.
It hasn't been a bit of a problem. It's the norm in our dept to FB friend people. I think most sensible people keep FB tame and politically correct. I don't post any of my more controversial points of view there, I only confide those to close friends, in person.
I make it a rule to not to **** where I eat. When things go bad you will feel the wrath. I do not seek friendship with managers unless we work in separate areas, different hospitals etc.
Not friends with my current boss on FB...just...
My former boss, sure; and that's only because we don't work at that facility anymore.
I wouldn't send a Facebook friend request to a boss, nor would I accept one from a boss, manager, or any type of superior. Doing so would only invite more trouble in my professional life than I deem necessary.
I'm no longer on FB, but when I was, never bosses. I had one boss as a friend, whom I friended AFTER I left the job to move out of state.
As far as coworkers, only those whom I was actually friends with, as in would socialize with outside work.
Coworkers and bosses aren't friends. I save my "friending" for actual friends, old school buddies, and my many family members. Isn't that enough?
Don't do it! Bad idea.
Don't do it.
Downside: your social media will become sterile and politically correct as you weigh every post with the thought, "Will my boss fire me for this?"
Upside: Your boss will remember your birthday!
Don't do it. Leave your personal and professional life separate. Especially in a field as stressful as nursing, taking the office home, so to speak, contributes to burnout.
I started as a Correctional Nurse doing sick call. Generally healthy people with minor problems, triage for the ones that actually have a bigger problem. Addiction, Psych issues, some trauma. I see a lot of different things. And many facilities will hire new grads
One key point about those non-bedside nursing jobs is that they require experience … at the bedside. Only you can decide if nursing is for you; however, keep in mind that one of the great things about nursing is the variety. I work OR- for me it's a perfect fit as it's a 1:1 ratio, patients are asleep, and families are nonexistent for the majority of the time (only see them briefly in preop). Would I still be a nurse if I'd started in a med/surg unit? Probably not, because I realized in nursing school that it definitely wasn't the specialty for me. It could be you just need to find your niche in nursing or it could be that nursing isn't what you thought it would be and it isn't your cup of tea.
I think after all that effort you need to actually work as an RN before giving up on it. Don't quit before you start.
If you and your family can afford the change, do what is best for your mental health and happiness. It is true that retirement is important, but you never know what the future may bring. You likely have many years of working yet to find the right niche with an amazing amount of income/benefits/etc. Who knows what other opportunities may come your way. As a mom, I think time with your kids is priceless. You will never get this time with your kids back, however you will probably have many opportunities to take on a different job and perhaps help with education. I took a HUGE pay cut to become a school nurse (like 50%) because I felt like the hours would be better for my family, and I just wasn't feeling acute care. I feel like it was worth it, even if sometimes I think longingly of the money. I probably won't be a school nurse forever, but I do know that I'm heading in the right direction.
If it made the difference between my kids having a good college fund and not be saddled with the debt we hear about all the time, and getting that very decent retirement, I could deal with a lot of crap as long as I wasn't truly being abused or my ethics weren't being compromised.
Ask people here, would they have rather had an ability to get an education without 100K in student loans and/or having to go the long way around or 6 more hours a week with mom at home.
I understand that it is a dilemma, but the college and retirement are huge factors down the road.
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