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  • Jun 28

    absolutely not. worst mistake ever.

  • Jun 28

    Not sure. I quit my job today and actually have peace and two interviews lined up. The good Lord will lead me to where He wants me to go.

  • Jun 28

    If the patients care your staff is providing is impacted by the things you have listed, and you have notified your chain of command with zero outcomes, then I would recommend to report the issue. Not to the Board of Nursing but to the Department of Health Services.

  • Jun 27

    A few reasons to get out of bed:
    Promote lung expansion
    Shift pressure points
    Strengthen trunk muscles
    Easier, safer to eat
    Increase activity to decrease risk of DVT, bone demineralization
    Prepare patient for mobilization
    Demonstrate to patient they are getting better
    Comfort
    Better digestion, elimination (on BSC instead of bedpan)
    I have seen many patients reluctant to get out of bed initially but admit they feel better once they are up.

  • Jun 15

    From what I read in the article, they crossed the line in this case. The ends do not justify the means, in my opinion. Certain boundaries should never be crossed.

    The macabre possibilities are undeniable in the organ harvesting industry. We've seen it in poorer nations, with murders being committed to save wealthy recipients. It's imperative to keep things totally by the book, or we'll end up down a very slippery slope.

  • Jun 13

    This relationship parallels in many ways as a "work friendship". Work friends have a great relationship while they are working together, but once you move onto another job, the friendship falls apart very quickly. I think that one of the few things that is holding your relationship together is working together. The only way to find out is to move on and see if the relationship holds up. If it doesn't, then you know that there was only a thin thread holding you together.

  • Jun 13

    OP, I'll be upfront with you. At first I wasn't even going to reply because I felt slightly annoyed, or frustrated perhaps, after reading your posts in this thread. I'm not even sure why, but I think it's mainly because the narrative isn't consistent and there's a wishy-washy helpless quality to it all. That's not your fault, it just happens to be something which irks me. Please bear with me though, I am responding because I do want to offer what hopefully amounts to helpful advice.

    Quote from purplegal
    I am currently dating someone who I am working with in that area. While we greatly enjoy each other's company and share many interests, I am concerned that my attempts to advance my career may result in the loss of the relationship.
    He does not seem to have many interests
    he is not willing to reveal much about himself and does not appear to have any interests to have a conversation about.
    Which is it? Do you share many interests, or doesn't he have any interests? It can't really be both.

    If all you have in common is an interest for PVCs, delta waves and Wenckebach blocks, that's most likely not enough in the long run.

    I do wonder how long the relationship would last since most of our discussions involve work. Without working at the same place, there may be little to base our relationship off of
    So what's the solution to this? The two of you working together in the same place until you both retire? Is that a realistic option?




    I'm going to list some of the things you've said about your relationship.

    Cons (I assume):

    Truth is, while we talk with each other a lot, it seems to be mostly work related.
    While I try and open myself up, my boyfriend does not seem to reveal a lot about himself.
    When we are texting back and forth, it is generally me doing most of the talking.
    I generally have to initiate most of the contacts, including coming up with ideas for dates.
    He does not seem to have many interests, and has very little personal information to contribute to discussions.
    He also seems to lack ambition and passion for anything.
    he is not willing to reveal much about himself and does not appear to have any interests to have a conversation about.
    He doesn't appear to have any goals in life
    Yet, he goes around pretending that he's passed the exam, even though I'm almost positive he has not.

    Pros:

    At the same time, he is a great guy that treats me well.

    This is an extremely important question I think that you should ask yourself. If a friend you cared about described her relationship this way, what advice would you offer her?

    Only you can decide what you want and need in a partner, but that pros/cons (im)balance isn't one I'd personally be willing to settle for. I would never stay in such a relationship, but that's me. By the way in my opinion, treating you well should be the default position, not the only positive attribute you can list.

    What does your pros/cons list tell you about your feelings for him? To, me your interest seems kind of lukewarm. There's likely a reason why you listed so many cons, and a single pro. Don't you deserve better? Doesn't he?

    I'm just worried people would think less of me if I chose to move on, because they really like us both.
    Would you advise a friend to stay in a relationship just so that others wouldn't think less of her, regardless of whether the relationship was a good one or not?

    I am concerned that my attempts to advance my career may result in the loss of the relationship.
    There's only one way to find out.

    Do I continue in my current positions so I can be sure that I am still in a relationship?
    You can't be sure. Remaining in this job isn't a guarantee that you'll still be together in ten years, or even in one year.

    I would feel bad if I chose to move on and my plans ended up not including him, especially since he is a very nice person.
    And I don't want to cut out someone who could be a good match just because I'm ambitious and want to do more with my life and nursing career.
    Just as staying in the same job isn't a foolproof way of protecting the relationship, leaving isn't predestined to cause the two of you breaking up.

    It seems to me that you have created/constructed a scenario where the only way you guys can stay together is for you to be joined at the hips, at the same workplace and if you find employment elsewhere, that will be enough to break up the relationship. I'm not convinced that's true, but if it turns out to be, what does that tell you?

    Do you think that a relationship that proves to be so fragile could withstand the stress of having and raising children and hopefully spend many, many years together with all of life's ups and downs?

    Maybe I'm expecting too much after almost a year of dating.
    We get asked a lot when we are getting married or having children.
    This must be a cultural thing. In my neck of the woods (Scandinavia), most people would be giving you this look if you start talking children after dating for less than a year. People definitely wouldn't be asking the couple/pressuring them for a date.

    I realize it might be viewed differently though, but I still want to caution you to make a decision to commit to this relationship if that decision is primarily based on:

    It would also mean that I would probably be single again, and with my 27th birthday coming up, time is running out to find someone to marry.
    Feeling that time is running out (and I disagree that's the case at the age of 27), isn't in my opinion a good reason to commit to someone if you have doubts/reservations.

    Look, as I've said previously, only you can decide what's best for you. If it were me, I'd do what I deem is best for my career and personal growth. That would be my priority and if that meant leaving the tech job, it would be an easy decision.

    As I've already mentioned, the relationship you've described wouldn't do it for me. But if you think there's something there, you still need to find out if it's sustainable in the long run. The way I see it, the relationship might survive that career move. If it does that would indicate to me that there might be something there worth building on. If it on the other hand, didn't survive that rather minor disruption, that would be a clear sign to me that the two of us didn't really share anything substantive in the first place, and that's something I'd rather find out sooner than later.

    Also, I think you'd benefit from trying to figure out what it is that you want, rather than worrying what others might think of your decisions/actions. It's your life, it's your choices.

    I wish you luck with your decision and much happiness in life!

  • Jun 13

    I picked up on so many red flags that I would get out of that relationship even if you weren't changing jobs. He may treat you well, like you said, but if he doesn't initiate conversation or discuss his life that is really odd. Especially if you're finding out things about him from your coworkers. He should want to talk to you as much as you want to talk to him. Don't feel in a rush to get settled down & have kids. Because then you will marry and/or have kids with the wrong person. I wouldn't make a major life decision based around someone I kinda like. From what I can tell, your boyfriend isn't totally into you or committed to you. So go ahead & change positions. See what happens when you do. If he is still your boyfriend after, then yay. But don't be surprised if he isn't.

  • Jun 8

    Reason # 523 why I don't work in a hospital. Patients and their families treat it as a 5-star resort. Ultimately, every dissatisfaction falls on the nurse's shoulder.
    "I've never had a complaint against me in the 5 years I've been a nurse but the hospital where I work is termination happy." If I were you, I wouldn't be "freaking out", I'd be livid. They are messing with your livelihood. You know you didn't harm or kill anyone yet they are keeping you in suspense for some likely petty complaint. Whatever the outcome, I hope you find peace and resolve.

  • Jun 8

    I was suspended once, without pay, for patient abuse. Turns out, I never even had that patient. She was 94 yes old and confused. Somehow they decided it was me, and suspended me without even checking anything. It was another nurse with a similar name. Then I was suspended another time, 3 days without pay, because a patient threatened to hit me! (I must have done something to make him mad, they said.). Frankly, I don't see why anybody would want to be a nurse, with the way were treated. I've been a nurse for 29 years, and it just gets worse. Good luck, dear.

  • Jun 7

    In my nursing class, we had a young man who was on an insulin pump for type 1 diabetes. He was one of our best students and educated us on all aspects of DM as he dealt with it. After graduation he went to work in the ER and as far as I know he did very well there. So yes, you can be a nurse with diabetes as long as it's well managed. Good luck!

  • Jun 7

    I know a number of nurses with T1DM. If they felt unwell (even during a code) it would be ok to say "I need to step out". Codes are run by teams, not individuals. Generally speaking, you have too many people around in codes, not too few.

  • Jun 7

    In the places I've worked over the years, that decision would not be made by an individual RN; the request would be reported to the physician, and the physician would determine what actions to take, whether that involves letting the person leave, telling the individual that s/he can't leave, getting a stat psych eval and holding the individual until that can be done, whatever.

    Capacity is a complicated issue. Being fully oriented does not automatically mean the individual has the capacity to make an informed decision to leave. The presence of the hallucinations does not automatically mean s/he doesn't. IMO, that kind of decision is outside the scope of practice for an RN. In the facilities in which I've worked, only attendings have the authority to make a determination about allowing people to leave AMA.

  • Jun 6

    Taking home controlled substances is a far cry from a patient complaint.

    I have never worked in a facility where a nurse was suspended during the investigation. That is not the process. Any disciplinary action takes place after the investigation, if it is warranted.
    Spend these days off searching for employment in a facility that is not "termination happy". Do not go to the meeting with the manager alone.

    Best wishes, let us know how it's going.

  • Jun 4

    OP I'm so sorry this happened to you! I think it stinks like mucomyst+GI bleed+neuro breath that we've come so far in de-stigmatizing mental health issues....unless it's one of our own. This kind of thing will -- I am certain -- deter nurses from seeking help. Why add to the hell of the disease by messing with our livelihood?? Whoever decided that was a good idea, as far as I'm concerned has blood on their hands.


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