My girlfriend is afraid that I might meet another girl in the nursing program...

[ThePhilster]

She has some concern, but honestly I don't blame her. I'll be going to school with lots of beautiful nursing students and we will all be working closely together. Also they say your classmates in nursing school become friends for life. This closeness with other girls seems to always threaten the current girl in your life in my experience. Also she said that I probably wont have that much time for her. 1 day per week I'm guessing?? I start nursing school in 1 year from now.

I do not plan on hooking up/dating any of my classmates because 1) I love my girlfriend and she could possibly become my wife 2) I do not want to jeopardize in anyway my schoolwork.

Input?

[fathertod]

Honestly, you will probably still have a wife during and after nursing school, but you will probably end up with a new girlfriend too. The tension is a little hard to miss during nursing school, so just enjoy it while it is there.

[PacoUSA, BSN, RN]

If you want to be a nurse go for it. If you have trouble now with her what will you experience when you are in school. She sounds to be very possessive. If she can't understand your dream and a little thing like going to school with women bothers her this much, what is she going to be like when you get a job and most of your co-workers are women. Sit her down and say this is what I'm going to do for the rest of my life. If you have a problem with that, if you can't trust me, well so long. Don't trade your dreams for hers.

This deserves re-quoting ... excellent response and sums it up nicely.

Don't be afraid to speak up and let her know that this is a REAL issue. You REALLY do NOT want to deal with this headache while in nursing school! She needs to accept your decisions and your new life and she's either in or she's out. Her paranoia about this all a year from your being in school is a HUGE red flag, you need to avoid ignoring that. Not telling you to break up with her now (I mean, I would ... but that's just ME), but if you can't come to terms with her about this and it will be an ongoing problem while you're in school, you need to say goodbye. You can only get through nursing school with people that won't give you grief along the way.

[ebenton07]

I have been in your same spot but if you are upfront and honest with you lady she will not have nothing to worry about. When it comes to studying always in a public place no ones house. Introduce your classmates to your woman. The main things is honesty and communication.

[mom_kds]

I have been in your same spot but if you are upfront and honest with you lady she will not have nothing to worry about. When it comes to studying always in a public place no ones house. Introduce your classmates to your woman. The main things is honesty and communication.

I completed my degree in 1986. The first day of school we were told "you will have no family or life from this day forward.". Says it all.

[branvswild]

When my fiance and I were just dating, she was a pharmacy student. I didn't get the need to have all the study time she required and I didn't understand the close relationship she had with guys from the class... But as a little time went by and our relationship grew (meaning love, trust, understanding, etc. grew), I learned how much work and time were required to be devoted to studying and how important the support from her peers was to her. It wasn't important to her because she wanted the attention from male classmates or anything like that, it was important because she was working very hard for her doctorate and once we were engaged, very hard for OUR future!

Now I'm on the study group side of the equation, changing careers to nursing, and she has graduated. I'm going into a field of predominantly women and she knows how much time and support I'll need from my peers. While she may have a complete understanding of what it takes, it's ultimately up to me to MAN UP and not give her any reason to be jealous or do anything that would harm her or our relationship.

If anyone is dealing with this issue, the best defense is an early attack. Love, trust, understanding. You have to get these issues on the table and work them out or they'll crush you in the end.

[Chad Collins]

If she is that insecure might wanna reexamin the relationship

[Clodhopper]

Your girlfriend needs to have more confidence in your relationship. While nursing is female dominated, just about most professions have significant numbers of females in them. Just walk into any office building and look around. Closely working and going to school with females is fact of life, even in male dominated fields. Maybe the response back to her could be "If you are going to engineering school with a bunch of guys, would you become tempted to leave me?"

[lpn2rn2dnp]

I'm a lpn and I actually met my girlfriend in my lpn school. I told myself before going into school that I was going to be solely focused on school and studying, I even said to myself that I won't even try to make any friends, female or male. That all changed as within the second month of school I asked one of my classmates out. It was a big risk because had we broken up during school, it could have made things very awkward. I ended up having every term with her, including all of my clinical sites. I was with her literally everyday for over a year. Weekends we studied, as we left school we would go to my house and study. We even carpooled during one of our terms that the site had been over an hour away each way, to and from our homes. Trust me when I say that nursing school can ruin relationships. In my case I lucked out, as I know she's my other half. Even after school was completed all I ever want to do, is to be with her. We text and call each other literally everyday all day. We never told our classmates that we were dating, which we did not display anything remotely intimate in front of them. This helped with any drama that we could have experienced from our classmates.

I guess the point of my story is that nursing school is a beast of it's own. Relationships change, plans change, life is constantly changing. She will feel left out, regardless of what you are doing. Truth is, you can make sometime for her during the week. I did during school and still had time to study. Except for those super important exams, I left her out in the cold but she understood! Good luck and reassure her that you are committed to her and only her.

P.S. I'm still with the love of my life. :)

[jaycee15]

I think your girlfriend has a valid fear. You will be around a lot of females and naturally being around new people can spark interest. People change and things happen.

[jaycee15]

Even if you don't want it to happen. But if you really love her you'll focus on her and not other girl who catch your eye

[ArrowRN, BSN, RN]

Be realistic. Her fears are valid. You will meet another girl in nursing school. The question is what are you going to do about it?

[erbryan]

Sounds like a TRUST issue.....