Is it wrong to date your instructor after semester?

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Specializes in FNP-C.

Is it wrong or illegal to date your clinical instructor after the semester is over or after you graduate? There is this beautiful instructor who has her masters and shes a single 30 year old but i'm almost 23 years old. She is just so attractive but I know I can't approach in an unprofessional matter. Theres nothing going on but I think about how great life would be. sorry i know this may seem unprofessional in this thread but i dont want to make a mistake nor do others.

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Specializes in Neonatal ICU (Cardiothoracic).

I would wait until after graduation/NCLEX before pursuing a relationship like this. Doing so while still in school is just asking for trouble, especially if things don't end up working out. It's not illegal, just not too smart in my book. If you are still unattached and interested after you graduate, by all means go for it...!

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In all likelihood she could get fired for it. Not illegal, just not extremely ethical either. Colleges really look down on this sort of thing.

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Specializes in FNP-C.

yeah i thought about it. Im just going to stay away until maybe time after graduation.

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Specializes in FNP-C.

hey guys i had to change my screenname because i'm still a student! lol i had a staff private message me but i can't find the reply button?

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Specializes in Cardiac Care.
hey guys i had to change my screenname because i'm still a student! lol i had a staff private message me but i can't find the reply button?

You'll have PM (Private Messaging) functions after 15 posts...

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Specializes in ER/OR.

Yes, wait until you graduate. Bad things could come up for you and her if you started dating as a student. I take it you've never talked to her about this...she may not even be a cougar....:D

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Specializes in FNP-C.

i didnt talk to her about this at all because i was aware of the possible consequences. believe me, she is a beautiful asian cougar.....hahaha

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stay far away until after graduation. who knows what could happen between now and then. just because you had her for one semester doesn't mean she won't pop up again and an instructor for another course. that would make for big problems. its not illegal but very unethical.

oh in regards to calling her a "cougar". unless you know for sure she has a history of dating much younger men, she isn't a cougar. she just happens to be a beautiful older (although 30 is far from "older" to most of us but it might be to you) woman. and really a woman who is 30 can't really be a cougar. she's considered a "puma" :lol2:

cougar slang definition: cougar refers to an older woman, usually in her 40s, 50s or 60s who usually sexually pursue men in their 20s and 30s.

puma refers to a young "cougar," typically a woman in her 30s or 40s who pursues men in their 20s.

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Specializes in Hospital, Psych, Corrections, Case Mgmt..

Jeeeeez man. You have time to wonder about dating?? Hell - I'm working on my BSN and work full time. I'm lucky if I can get a shower in some days, let alone ponde a social life --- But for the sake of keeping your life less complicated, I'd wait until diploma was in hand along with a passing NCLEX slip and a RN license in the state of your choice.

At that point, it's all fair game. However -- I have found that dating within the profession can create for some boring dates -- Try to broaden the horizons, unless of course you're just after that one thing women are always accusing us of chasing....You know? .....Successful Women! :bugeyes:

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Specializes in FNP, Peds, Epilepsy, Mgt., Occ. Ed.

Please don't embarrass her by asking her out, or by indicating in any way that you are interested in her, not until you have graduated, taken and passed NCLEX, and have a job.

It would be considered highly unethical for her to date a student, even if she is never again your instructor. It at least gives the appearance that this is an unequal relationship, that as a faculty member she has some coercive power over you. While you've made it clear here that's not the case in reality, the appearance/possible perception is what is important.

Once you are finished with school, have passed the NCLEX, and have a job, then it should be abundantly clear to anyone and everyone that you only reason for dating her is that she's the most gorgeous thing you've ever seen in your life.

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Please don't embarrass her by asking her out, or by indicating in any way that you are interested in her, not until you have graduated, taken and passed NCLEX, and have a job.

It would be considered highly unethical for her to date a student, even if she is never again your instructor. It at least gives the appearance that this is an unequal relationship, that as a faculty member she has some coercive power over you. While you've made it clear here that's not the case in reality, the appearance/possible perception is what is important.

Once you are finished with school, have passed the NCLEX, and have a job, then it should be abundantly clear to anyone and everyone that you only reason for dating her is that she's the most gorgeous thing you've ever seen in your life.

I agree. Plus she isn't a cougar, as someone else pointed out. And the age disparity is concerning. You are barely out of your teen years. She is an adult with a degree and a job.

The consensus here is wait. I agree.

steph

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