Well, having just completed my 1st semester of the nursing program, I have found that as a single guy, you are really in (at times) a very weird catch-22 being in a female-dominated student body.
Although I definitely do not complain about the female-to-male ratio, I have learned - the hard way, really - that trying to date one (or, god forbid, even more than one) of your classmates can in many ways be a disastrous decision. Because even though you will likely interact with your female of interest every single day at school, that still doesn't change the fact that you still have to stay focused and on the ball if you want to succeed in nursing school
. At one point, I thought that because we were both in the same program, at the same school, etc. it could still work - but man, that just hasn't necessarily shown itself to be the case, in my experience. You simply cannot have your head in the clouds and still do well academically. I would love to be proven wrong on this, but I'm hedging my bets carefully from here on out. It's hard sometimes, trying to find that balance - because even though I'm relatively young (29), I'm not going to pretend that I want to stay single forever - but I definitely don't want to risk losing my "edge" with my studies.
Any other guys experienced anything like this?
Dec 19, '07
Quote from SteveRN21
I had a huge crush on a girl in my class for almost 4 years, but was afraid to ask her out, because I thought it would be weird if we ever broke up, seeing as how we spent 5 days a week in class together, and had a lot of the same friends. I finally got up the courage to ask her out, and 3 weeks in, she broke up with me. Needless to say, my fears were confirmed, and it was extremely weird until graduation. However, I believe you CAN have a relationship with a classmate, as long as you can maintain focus, and remain friends if and when you break up.
The girl that I described in my post and I did sort of "break up" after things began to happen, because we realized that it just wasn't going to work, for several reasons. She is working full-time and raising a child on her own; I in turn also work, and I plan on moving out of state after I'm done with school. So all of those factors together just makes it too hard to realistically maintain a relationship. However, we are still good friends and even sit close to each other in class every day.
But then another girl and I kind of started flirting with each other at a later point in time, and then because of that things got weird with the friendship between myself and the first girl...and yeah. It got pretty high-schoolish I suppose.
Last edit by Jedi of Zen on Dec 19, '07
Dec 22, '07
Female here just wanted to drop my 5 cents here. On our first day of class our nursing program director had ALL nursing students come to a meeting. There are 5 classes of 24 at my school. Her first statement was a Welcome to nursing school statement. Her very next statement, she was a full bird colonel in the army and it SHOWS, "Ladies and gentlemen, if you are not presently seeing, dating, or married to anyone present in this room, DO NOT make it happen. (About 80 or so jaws hit the floor). She followed up by saying, "Relationships are hard, nursing school is harder, broken relationships and hearts are NOT the place for nursing school students. The quickest way besides bad grades to lose out on nursing school is to find yourself in a relationship with someone in this room, only to have them 'jealous you are in a study group with so and so, spending more time studying than with your new friend, all to have it blow up in your face the night before an exam. DON'T be a statistic, it happens far too often." She steps away from the podium and we all just sat there frozen. About 3-4 minutes passed before anyone approached the podium, I assume they were letting that sink in.
I can tell you that we had 2 in our class not heed that warning and they broke up, as will happen, she flunked out due to being depressed, he is trying to date yet another girl and not focusing on his studies.
Just what happens. You are young and you have PLENTY of time AFTER nursing school to find someone. Who knows, maybe you'll find a cute female doc or nurse at the facility you work at after school to be with.
Last edit by nurz2be on Dec 22, '07
Dec 22, '07
agreed! another female nursing student here.....
there is a guy in my class, who although a smart guy, is on my last nerve by being the class casanova. first semester, he dated 4 girls in my class, 2 at the same time. needless to say, there were so many cat fights that 3 of the 4 girls flunked out because they were too busy whining and fighitng over this guy than paying any attention to class. sometimes they wouldnt even come because they couldnt stand to be around him. the other one still follows him around like a lost puppy and she is so ate up about how mean he is to her that shes riding the line, too. now we are in our 5th semester, and he has a new girlfriend who he sits next to in GI/GU and is in hot water with her already for flirting with another girl in his clinical group. i just want to slap him. not only does all this drama distract him and his flavor of the month, but everyone in his classes and clinical group is distracted with all their drama!! im really sick of it. he will call me occasionally and ask for notes, and my answer is a big fat no.... pay attention in class. most of my classmates are very focused on becoming nurses and dont appreciate feeling like we are in the middle of a bad laguna beach rerun.
i understand men have needs and that going through the stresses of nursing school and having to be surrounded by estrogen overload have to be hard.... but as a girl, im telling you that we are mean, and catty, and if you start a relationship in nursing school and it doesnt work out.. remember we have to see you for 5 days a week for 3 more years...prepare to be miserable.
nursing school is hard enough without extra bs. if you arent in a relationship, dont get in one! i hardly ever get to see my boyfriend, thank god he is also a nurse and understands how much pressure im under. you have plenty of time to meet a nice girl when you get your license
Last edit by flightnurse2b on Dec 22, '07