Will my relationship survive?

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Im 21 and i will be starting my LPN/LVN class this spring 2010,and i'm in a very good relationship with a beautiful girl she's 19 years old....and had a chance to go out with her this week.She feel like i have no time for her anymore,because i work as a coca-cola merchandiser and do modeling part time for extra cash,and i was telling her about nursing school and she was not too happy.She said's that i am going to have 0 time for her in next year and she says that i am going to be surround by girls all day....i didn't think about until she said it,but i am not going to put her before my carreer...this is my education we'll talking about,and she think i am being selfish which i still dont get.I thought that she would be happy,i guess not....can someone help me with this problem...will my relationship survive?

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Specializes in LTAC, Wound Care, Case Management.

The relationship will survive if it was strong in the first place. Nursing school is no joke and will be very difficult. I returned to school married with 3 kids. It was tough, but they understood the sacrafice I was making was not only for myself but my family as well. If this girl cares for you and wants to be in your future, she will help hold you together during the hard times; not criticize you for being around women all day or not having time for her. Believe me, when you are in nursing school, your classmates will become like family because everyone is going through the same program and has more in common.

If the relationship is not built on a strong foundation, it may not survive. Put your priorities in order and determine what is most important for you. There are many beautiful girls out there who will support your efforts to better your future, not hinder them.

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Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.

The unsupportive and dare-I-say self-centered way she is behaving is an excellent harbinger of the future. Do you really want to take the serious time and energy you'll need to become a nurse, and devote it to explaining, apologizing, and defending yourself against unwarranted accusations, because she is insecure? I know you need to make your decision as you see it. But you need to ask yourself if these qualities are something you would want in an ideal life partner. Best of luck to you!!

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i agree with the other posters. you want a mate who will support you and encourage you to achieve your dreams.

my husband is a nurse and he works with all women, and its just something i accept.

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I agree with the other posters. I am a single mother of 2 boys and I am going back to school in Jan and my boyfriend has stepped up to help me with my kids that arent his. Your career should be top of your list.. Someone who wants the best for you will be supportative during school.

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Specializes in Community Health, Med-Surg, Home Health.

I agree with everyone else. You can tell the quality of a relationship when sacrifices are made for the other to upgrade themselves. Think about it, you'd be able to support yourself, take a nice young woman out and to advance as far into nursing as you desire if you start early...before having children, being married, etc. If she is really that interested, she will support you. If not, then, at least, you'll discover this early. Best of luck to you.

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Specializes in Orthopedics.

Agree!! I am going into my 3rd quater of my nursing program and my boyfriend (well fiance now) of 5 1/2 years has supported me every step of the way and has actually started back to school himself...yea I don't get to spend a lot of time with him right now and it really really sucks, but I know what I am doing will benefit the both of us in the future and I will get my dream that I have ALWAYS wanted!!!

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