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Yes oh yes, I to have those lovely girls who think that they are better than everyone else(or maybe they dont and thats why they pick on certain people)in some of my classes right now. School has just begun and yes, so have their mouths. Why is it impoosible for a group of girls bettering themselves to be kind to one another? This program means so much to me but I have to hear a bunch of gabby girls being mean....talking in code, so yes, it could be about me and i just dont know!...Its like, why are you here?REALLY? because im sure when you had begun the whole application process, this is not what you thought of when you thought "Nursing School"! I just dont know what to do. I try and stay clear of them while they are gabbing, but there are so many of them, like they are a majority of the class....so theres kne always by. And I even ride to school with one- shes a very nice girl- but who knows, they have there own lingo, so when I am in there work group, i cant tell what is up!!!Its very frustrating! It makes me very self concious!...what should I do?(and no, unless they say my name specific i dont want to become the girl every one picks on because i am the one who stood up and said soemthing- Oh they even talk about eachother, but obviously, anyone who talks about someone to you, is talking about you to someone!!!! :down:

No offense, but are you in kindergarten or nursing school? There are going to be people throughout your life and career that you don't jive with, you need to get over it. You are in school to learn to be a nurse. You should give a rat's a** what girls like that think of you; they sound like COMPLETE MORONS.

One more thing: Only you have the power to make YOURSELF feel selfconscious.

Yes, it does feel like its kindergarten!!!! and I take no offense becuase thats exactly what the atmosphere is. Im there to learn, I paid just as much as them to be there. Its not that I dont jive or any of that, its just I think its so aweful that a bunch of GROWN women cant support one another, but I guess everyone is not there for the same reason- appparently! Im there to better myslef and fulfill a dream, and if I make new friends, wonderful! Dont get me wrong, I am very self confident-not to the point where I feel I am better than anyone-it just distracts and bothers me when I am in a group with a few of them and they are sidetracked with all of the gossip they create! I think it would make anyone feel like, Are they talking about me? It may not make everyone feel less about themselves, but I think the majority of the people would have that thought run through there mind...but maybe thats just what I think and maybe I am wrong.....Either way great advice came from alot of people, so thanks. I guess if their minds arent on their work, maybe the rest of us wont have to deal with them for to long! But in the meantime, I hope people realize, we are all in this together, because i think it would be aweful for anyone to get hurt by their words and for anyone to fail out of school because they were to busy talking to actually listen and get some work done! Thanks everyone!:specs:

Specializes in Hospice.

Think of it this way..

you AREN'T in ANYTHING together with ANYONE EVER. Unless you're married, don't ever expect people to think the way that you do. They don't, that's the beauty..and sometimes the ugliness..of being volitional beings.

Nobody cares about you. If someone decides to, take it at face value while protecting what's important to you and don't be hateful, just be quiet and watch until they've invested themselves consistently into you and your life.

Otherwise, we'll alwaaaays get our feelings hurt if we live our lives expecting others to hold the same values that we do. I'm always let down b/c I don't understand how people can be so terrible. It's not a part of who I am, so it doesn't make sense to me. But I've learned that it's still a very real part of living on this planet. So I don't expect anything out of anyone. That way, my feelings are never hurt.

Try it. I know I sound really negative and cynical, probably terrible too. But it's helped me tremendously.

not the same as those girls, and you missed my point....they appeared to be career aid takers, not their fault that they were born in the projects, which they all were, or that they learned early on that life may be paid for by knowing where and who to ask, and that to do so is smart and resourceful, not their fault their friends have gold teeth for display purposes, not their fault their babys' daddies are nowhere to be found, not their fault the local government pays for nursing school with childcare, not their fault. likewise section 8, food stamps, WICs baby and mother free food, medicaid, the free clinic for indigents, and last but not least, welfare.

not their fault. same for their mom they don't live with, grandma or aunt who raised them.

not their fault.

sorry you took offense, but they would have also.

not their fault.

sorry you found offense

yes drama here also!

it has gotten so bad that the instructor has assigned us seating so that maybe we will all try to get to know evryone and stop the back biting. several of the females, and yes it was the females that seem to be having the most problem with this, not judging just noticing a trend. have come to me, i am one of the student reps for the class, saying that assigned seating "is so unfair", "treating us like children", etc. my response has been, i would think that we as a whole should be EMBARRASSED that the teacher has had to treat us this way, not angry because it was done.

mark

Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

I'm a mean, crotchety old lady and went to nursing school in the cave where we wrote on stone slates. However, 16 years after nursing school, can't even remember one person, one instructor and barely remember the school!

Get thru it and realize that this is just a short stopping point in your life. Good luck.

My LPN class is incredibly gossipy and dramatic. Everyone talks about everyone else about anything they possibly can. ANYTHING. If you fail a test or mess up a procedure, whatever. It doesn't matter.

Bottom Line: You are there to be a nurse. PERIOD. Not to be social or make friends. The drama is not going to last forever, it will end and you will be a nurse. While I certainly don't enjoy the environment, I ignore and remember that I am there for one reason and one reason only. I don't care what any of my classmates think of me, all that matters is that I get my license.

Specializes in Stepdown.
My LPN class is incredibly gossipy and dramatic. Everyone talks about everyone else about anything they possibly can. ANYTHING. If you fail a test or mess up a procedure, whatever. It doesn't matter.

Bottom Line: You are there to be a nurse. PERIOD. Not to be social or make friends. The drama is not going to last forever, it will end and you will be a nurse. While I certainly don't enjoy the environment, I ignore and remember that I am there for one reason and one reason only. I don't care what any of my classmates think of me, all that matters is that I get my license.

:up:Beeenieweeenie, I totally agree!!! I've been in school for 4 weeks and I have been called names and laughed at. Neatless to say...I don't care about that petty sh**. I am there for one reason like beeenie said "to be a nurse". I ignore the silly chatter :chuckleand the giggling. But what's interesting is that mos that chatter is coming from people who are around my age 25-35yrs old. Get a grip people! Handle your business, make good grades and pay attention in class. I'm doing very well in class and intend to keep it that way and noone...I repeat noone will get in my way of my "dream".

Good luck to all! Keep your head up and stay strong.:)

Stephanie,SPN:nurse:

Specializes in LTC.
not the same as those girls, and you missed my point....they appeared to be career aid takers, not their fault that they were born in the projects, which they all were, or that they learned early on that life may be paid for by knowing where and who to ask, and that to do so is smart and resourceful, not their fault their friends have gold teeth for display purposes, not their fault their babys' daddies are nowhere to be found, not their fault the local government pays for nursing school with childcare, not their fault. likewise section 8, food stamps, WICs baby and mother free food, medicaid, the free clinic for indigents, and last but not least, welfare.

not their fault. same for their mom they don't live with, grandma or aunt who raised them.

not their fault.

sorry you took offense, but they would have also.

not their fault.

sorry you found offense

Thank you for lumping me into that group, since you know my life and situation so well. Thank you for assuming that my temporary need for assistance has been a lifetime of leeching off the system.

It's a good way for you to go through life.

i think im lucky because we all get along in my class. everyone is good friends.

Specializes in ob/gyn med /surg.
No offense, but are you in kindergarten or nursing school? There are going to be people throughout your life and career that you don't jive with, you need to get over it. You are in school to learn to be a nurse. You should give a rat's a** what girls like that think of you; they sound like COMPLETE MORONS.

One more thing: Only you have the power to make YOURSELF feel selfconscious.

amen.... :yeah::yeah::yeah::yeah::bow::bow::nurse::nurse:

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